Have u ever looked at ur bf and thought "eww I'm fucking that"?

[innocentbychoice]

Before you judge or tell me to get a new boyfriend please read. I'm dead serious about this.

I'm the kind of guy who doesn't date someone just because of their physique, I wasn't even attracted to my first boyfriend when I met him, but I liked him as a person and wanted to know him. We got together and within time the physical attraction grew a LOT til I found him damn hot (but that took a while and it happened when I knew him better and felt more comfortable with him).

Now with my new boyfriend same thing happens, they only difference is that I do think he's really cute...with his clothes on. Whenever he takes his clothes it's like...I don't feel like I want to fuck him like crazy. I don't. I'd prefer for him to do stuff to me rather than me being all over him. I keep thinking that it'll get better, but I don't know at the moment I'm just kinda of grossed out by his body.

BEFORE ANSWERING, THIS IS IMPORTANT: I'm really not looking for advice, I just wanted to see if others have experienced the same and if it got better, or if I'm just a freaking weirdo.

 

[chance1]

^ i appreciate that you're attracted to inner beauty in picking your man/men

but if your grossed out by someone physically ........

i have never had this situation happen to me

 

[innocentbychoice]

^Thank you for your answer. I appreciate it.

 

[looseliam]

No. I have woken-up and thought "eww, I fucked that?"

 

[anchihiro]

I beg your pardon?

I never promised you a rose garden.

 

[anchihiro]

Maybe you should aim higher. Someone with personality which you find sexy physically from day one.

When you get to know someone intimately for awhile, you'll discover that they don't always look as good as they do dressed up on a saturday night. That's part of the commitment of a relationship. And one day he's going to see what you look like first thing in the morning too. Accept him, or move on.

 

[landers]

I dated a Korean guy once and it took me a while to get over the Kimchi breath, so for the first little while I kept thinking, "I'm kissing that?". But he was really good with his hands...really good so I didn't really care.

 

[HunterM]

No. I have woken-up and thought "eww, I fucked that?"

I can relate...unfortunately.

 

[jackoroe]

^Yep, been there done that, regrettably. Don't have sex when you're wearing your beer goggles, it never works out. Never had an issue with anyone I was in a relationship with, though.

 

[landers]

^Yep, been there done that, regrettably. Don't have sex when you're wearing your beer goggles, it never works out. Never had an issue with anyone I was in a relationship with, though.

It worked out for me. In the morning (we both passed out shortly after getting home) I thought "nice..." and had a really fun 6 hours.

 

[Supervert]

I've experienced this before. You become more conscious of it when you're in public, or meeting people, and are given the sympathetic "you're way out of his league" look, or the bewildered "what is he doing with him?!" It didn't work out, because he was not as "nice" of a guy as he made himself out to be.

 

[toogood4u2have]

lol it's worse when they dump you because you feel like how could you dump me and even worse how could I let you dump me when I know I'm the best looking guy you ever dated. Not to sound narcissistic but if you saw my ex naked you'd feel the same way. The bad thing is I love chubs but his body was just a mess, out of proportion.

 

[Seasoned]

Your question fascinates me because it teaches me something. I'm quite the opposite. A long time ago before my partner I had to know who was blowing me at a gloryhole and I needed to find them attractive.

 

[eryk-v]

often after orgasm, I have that thought of somewhat disgust. it ruins the 'afterglow'. i can understand where you're coming from.

 

[innocentbychoice]

I can relate...unfortunately.

I've experienced this before. You become more conscious of it when you're in public, or meeting people, and are given the sympathetic "you're way out of his league" look, or the bewildered "what is he doing with him?!" It didn't work out, because he was not as "nice" of a guy as he made himself out to be.

sometimes

not that I'm not attracted to him physically, he just dresses like a slob frequently.

I'm not wearing armani suits 24/7, but I hold to some basic dress code rules that include not going out in ratty sweat pants and a t-shirt (all of which are covered in cat hair)

often after orgasm, I have that thought of somewhat disgust. it ruins the 'afterglow'. i can understand where you're coming from.

I gotta say I'm kinda relieved that I'm not the only one. But please tell your stories so I can relate.

In my case, we met through a mutual friend and started chatting online, then we had our first date. When I arrived he was already there, sitting down. I don't want to sound shallow but it was a first date and I'm just gonna say what I thought: He was cute, then he stood up and I realized he was sooo short, and had no ass (I don't really care about big asses but he is somewhat disproportioned, read below). I decided I wasn't gonna make a big deal out of it cuz I wanted to get to know him and, frankly, I didn't think it was going to evolve to a relationship.

Then one day I saw him shirtless. I just have one word for it: Ewww. I feel like an ass saying this but that's how I felt, he's chubby and flabby in his upper body with skinny legs and no ass. But he dresses nicely, and I like the way he looks with his clothes on. It's when the clothes come off that I'm like . The other day we were in a swimming pool and I saw him rubbing the tanning lotion on his body, and I was like "Gosh how come I'm fucking that?". Besides that he likes being a top, but I'm not really inspired to be a bottom, I kinda need a bigger and tougher guy to make me want to be a bottom, so most of the time we just fool around without penetration.

I know I'm making it sound like I'm with the wrong guy and that I don't like him at all. But it's not the case, I do like him but I'm not a 100% attracted to him physically, and I really need to know that this happens to others in a relationship (not one night stands).

 

[innocentbychoice]

Oh...wow. Yeah, I know guys with that build--and they do seem to have trouble landing dates, or keeping a guy for that matter. I agree that it's not the best body type out there.

I think the fact that you are still with him shows how much you like and value him more for who he is, rather than how attractive you find him. I think that says a lot about you as a person.

As I said, I can't say I've been in the same situation--but I can understand your feelings about yours. Perhaps you can start to do things to inspire him to work out more, tone up, and make himself more proportional. I'm not saying to try to change him--but point out things he can do that would bring out his best features and flatter him more. Hope that makes sense.

You sound a like a doll--and I can read it in your words just how much you care about him.

Aww thank you for your nice words. I really thought people were gonna tear me appart and tell me I was a shallow motherfucker or to get a new relationship (which I don't want to do btw).

Thank you for the advice .

 

[racer2438]

I have never thought that about my honey, we have been together for 26+ yrs and it never crossed my mind.

I is my only guy/bf I have ever had and only guy I ever had sex with. So I love him to death....