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Have you ever been loved by a girl?

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Understand that there is a difference between love and "being in love". Because you love someone doesn't mean you are IN LOVE with them. Putting it another way, I dearly love my friends but I am not "in love" with any of them. It is OK to love anyone and even say "I love you". It is not OK to tell someone you are in love with them when you are not.

If you are "in love" with someone, you will know it. It is not the same as just loving them for who they are.
 
Yes, tell her that you love her as a friend, but that you're gay and don't want her to be badly hurt.
 
And that you love her as a friend so much that you are telling her a secret that you havent told anyone before (I think?)
 
Me personally? I don't think any woman has "loved" me. A few women have crushed on me, which is flattering beyond belief, but I've always been clear where my attentions lie. :)

First off ,never say you love somebody unless you do. That opens up such a can of worms as you wouldn't believe. No matter how many times you might say you didn't mean it, or your actions might prove otherwise, that one "i love you" tends to shine like a beacon through everything else. "But he said he loved me!"

Tell her you value her friendship totally, but you can't love her "like that". If you feel comfortable coming out to her, do so. (It should explain things better.)

Lex
 
Orlandude said:
Understand that there is a difference between love and "being in love". Because you love someone doesn't mean you are IN LOVE with them. Putting it another way, I dearly love my friends but I am not "in love" with any of them. It is OK to love anyone and even say "I love you". It is not OK to tell someone you are in love with them when you are not.

If you are "in love" with someone, you will know it. It is not the same as just loving them for who they are.
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Very good advice.

tommyj said:
And that you love her as a friend so much that you are telling her a secret that you havent told anyone before (I think?)
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An excellent addition!


Me? Yes, I've been loved by a girl, twice. One I almost married.
 
Ah, I have had girls who loved me..One knew and one has no clue..
 
Hey 2lucifer,

Welcome to JUB mate!!! Its great to have you on board and I hope you have a great time here!

To answer your question... yes you should tell her. The hardest thing to do is love someone and not understand why that feeling is never returned. To love someone can be biggest risk you can take in life and so your friend needs to understand that her love isnt wasted but it cant be returned the way she wants.

We cant help who we love mate... and you love guys. Its who you are... its not a choice and its nothing to feel guilty over. Its also not unusual to love a woman as your best friend... they listen and care so beautifully.

But they deserve respect and our understanding. Talk to her 2lucifer and help her understand just how important she is to you that you would bare your soul to her.
 
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