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Have you ever been obsessed with a guy?

Jase201

Jase201

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Have you ever liked a guy so much you can't stop thinking about him? I'm not talking about a partner... maybe a friend, co-worker, teacher, or someone you see on a regular basis. I've never had this problem before, but this one guy in particular (we had good chemistry) I can't get out of mind. I know I should let him go, but for some reason I can't. To top it, I've only been with 1 dude, and that was years ago. I guess I had it in my mind I wanted to explore with him, we had a great connection, but I didn't have the guts to start anything. Now I just can't get him out of my mind, and I know its too late. Anyone else have this happen before?

I guess part of me is wondering "IF." Had I taken a chance to ask him for a beer or something, but I didn't.
 
oh yeah i know how you feel theres this guy at my local cinema and i obsess over him but hes str8 unfortunately so i just keep him in my fantasies and im happy that way. but he chats to me and is always nice.....better than nothing. but hes , such a shame so cute really my kinda guy.
 
Jase,

I'm still there and have no idea how to shake it.....

I learn from my mistakes....if you read some of my other posts...it nearly happened again. I have done everything to fight it and can only pray I have won the battle.



Jase201 said:
Have you ever liked a guy so much you can't stop thinking about him? I'm not talking about a partner... maybe a friend, co-worker, teacher, or someone you see on a regular basis. I've never had this problem before, but this one guy in particular (we had good chemistry) I can't get out of mind. I know I should let him go, but for some reason I can't. To top it, I've only been with 1 dude, and that was years ago. I guess I had it in my mind I wanted to explore with him, we had a great connection, but I didn't have the guts to start anything. Now I just can't get him out of my mind, and I know its too late. Anyone else have this happen before?

I guess part of me is wondering "IF." Had I taken a chance to ask him for a beer or something, but I didn't.
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I have these thoughts all the time, I seam to get bored really quickly, or move on to another crush.

Recently I was atracted to a bisexual guy, told him I loved him, got rejected, I remember feeling a time where the thought that we wouldn't be together drove me to tears.

Then I got over him when I made out with a straight guy, then the straight guy became the object of my afections, even though he told me hes straight,

I Kinda got fed up of waiting for him to admit anything more for me (well hes told me he wants to feel something more, but he cant) and now I think I'm falling for a young girl who I think might feel the same, early days (but do I want anything to happen with a 16 year old girl, when I'm 20?)

Obsessions happen, they happen just as soon as they un-happen, just gotta ride it out.
 
yes! It happens to me every so often. My latest obsession, is one of my co-workers. Well he doesn't work with me b/c he moved to ATL to attend college. I still talk to him over AIM, and have become good friends. Unfortunately he is straight, or at least I think so. Some of the girls thought he was gay because he was very well mannered and well spoken. I had a reason to wake up and go to work. He would make my day.
 
Its good to have someone to dream about and think about. But don't let it run or ruin your life. As long as you are not stopping living your life, its gr8. All the best. But do try to talk to the guy...at least as friends....
 
yea, i guess i have.

he's on this forum too, i can't speak on that though
 
Thanks for the answers! I wouldn't say its taking over my life by no stretch of the imagination. Its one of those things where I want to stop thinking about him, but I haven't yet. I have faith it will fade, and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't cry about it. Just one of those things where its like ...damn, I wish I didn't like him so much. It has already faded quite a bit, but every once and awhile those thoughts come lurking back.
 
yeah its weird - these crushes. I wouldnt call it obsession.
met someone yesterday at a state meeting and we got friendly
and at dinner we rubbed knees becos the table was a bit cramped
I knew things couldnt get furthur becos of distance so I didnt persue the matter
still today his presence lingers with me
 
yeah - it happens

obsessions tend to disipate - thankfully

not to worry

avoiding all men u obsess about is not good

i try to avoid that

occasionally a str8 guy at work will enter my mind - and will not leave - for a bit

it's fun

as long as u don't get nutty about it

i guess my point is "obsession" can be normal
 
Yeah I have had this issue on more than one occasion and found that it is best to move on. It only frustrates you. Especially if neither of you have broken the ice so to speak. I lived with Geoff, a former roommate here Tennessee for several years. We hit it off very well at the beginning and I was the one who thought that he would "come around" and he never did. I finally told him I was gay...by e-mail mind you and his response was that he always knew that I was gay. This changed our living dynamic because of him being straight and me being gay. I still think about him even though I have moved out for at least 2 years now. But I have gone on with my life so that he and I both can go on with our lives,family, and friends.
 
Yeppers. I'm still licking the wounds from the summer love lost.

But I still wake up in the morning, and the beer still tastes good. So, I got that going for me - which is nice.
 
Yes, once. It was Nov 2001. We looked at each other, had sex twice and then met. He was 19 at the time. We have met over the yrs since. I could not stop thinking about him. I would get heart-stopping excited when I thought I saw his car. It was like a drug.

I have stopped meeting him now,as it can go nowhere. He was a real man. Into trucks & cars. He was the best kisser and make-out artist I have ever met. I could call him for a session, but choose not to.

I will always remember him, and his deep brown eyes and hair. Love?? I don't know, as the obsession was so strong.

At present I am happy talking to a sweetboi from JUB on MSN. What is it with 19 y/o's??
 
yup. ive been obsessed with my classmate in highschool for almost 7 years. Now that i'm in college and graduating, i still occassionally think of him though. :( But i think crush is the right word to describe it. :)
 
Oh yes. I met him last november, it love at first sight... i never believed in LaFS before, but it happened. He was not interested... but sometimes i think at him, at his smile, how he speaks, how sweet he is, how cool it was before meeting when we phones each other fore some days...
ohhh!

i sometimes have the idea to write to him... but it will not help anything, i'll be just annoying, so... i change my mind
 
Yes....I was obsessed with my ex and even post-breakup, I could not stop thinking of him for more than a year. I think I've got a new obsession with a new guy right now.....#-o
 
NO. I never obsess over anyone. I wait to see who is attracted to me then i evaluate them as a person. Do they have goals? Are they intelligent? Are they stable? Are they interesting? Are they well groomed and put together? Are they hot? Are they honest? If they meet my criteria THEN I TRAP THEM...LOL
 
It's hard not. After all, we all are sexual in nature
 
Maybe I get obsessed a little to easily. My mind's a freak.....it thinks a little too much, too fast.
 
Yeah. I just managed to get over him actually.

Straight. My age. Blonde hair. Tanned, perfect body. Green eyes. Great personality and humour. I knew him reasonably well (friend of a friend) and we get along pretty well. It was a 6 year obsession (since the beginning of high school) that only intensified at the beginning of last year when we started taking classes together and, therefore, talked more often. There would be days where I would literally not be able to remember anything that happened during the day because he was on my mind so much. It's embarrassing, but it even got to a stage where I was kinda stalking him - searching for his myspace and saving his pics, staring at him whenever I saw him, taking photos of him with my phone and he didn't know.... !oops!

It was extremely unhealthy and caused me a lot of useless pain. Then about a month or so ago, I woke up and just thought "I really don't care anymore". And thank god. It scares me when I think about how controlling it seemed, and what I did (the stalking, ect). I've since deleted all the pictures and browser bookmarks, and I don't feel the urge to stare anymore.

I'm lucky he was straight - who knows what I might have done if I knew he was gay? :eek:
 
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