have you ever cheated on a partner?

[oakpope]

I make the rules of my own game.

That doesn't preclude you cheating on your own rules, that happens all the time...

 

[Georgiadude]

No but I've had someone cheat on me and its a HORRIBLE feeling. I've never been so hurt, confused and simply devastated. I had never loved someone so much in my life. It felt like my soul was dead. I'd never do that to someone. If you don't want to be with them any more, fine. Break it off and do what you want to do. All my ex had to do was tell me it was over and I would have understood. It would have hurt but it would have been better than finding out he was screwing around on me and telling me our relationship was "good". Obviously it wasn't good and I was crushed when I found out.

Imho cheating is wrong and I don't want any part of it.

Steven.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

That doesn't preclude you cheating on your own rules, that happens all the time...

Between vegetarianism and sundry legal, religious and philosophical tenets I simply haven't the mental space to commit to such binding sexual regulations.

 

[oakpope]

I simply haven't the mental space to commit to such binding sexual regulations.

And yet you wrote that you're making the rules of your own games. And rules are bindings, aren't they ? (I'm playing devil's advocate here a little).
If find a little strange your choice of words to simply say that you choose to be in an open relationship. And I'm not entirely convinced it is easier on the 'mental space' to have an open relationship than a stable one where neither have the need to have another sexual partner.

Your first post's words make me think that maybe they were written in defiance "I'm in control of my life, others - society may see the norm as of being faithful to one's partner - may think what they want, and the hell with them. Am I wrong ? if that's the case just ignore my stupidity if not, in itself it would show a little bit of lack of confidence in your own choice, don't you think ?

Please be sure I don't want to confront you at all , or to be aggressive, it's just my endless and foolish attempt at understanding people

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

And yet you wrote that you're making the rules of your own games. And rules are bindings, aren't they ? (I'm playing devil's advocate here a little).
If find a little strange your choice of words to simply say that you choose to be in an open relationship. And I'm not entirely convinced it is easier on the 'mental space' to have an open relationship than a stable one where neither have the need to have another sexual partner.

I'm not in a relationship because I worship relationships, but because I can't afford a roof over my head on my own.

Your first post's words make me think that maybe they were written in defiance "I'm in control of my life, others - society may see the norm as of being faithful to one's partner - may think what they want, and the hell with them.

I don't want to be trapped in a moral system that seems to exist to make other people happy at my expense, and I'm also an advocate of homosexuals using their brain a lit better than the average citizen on these matters.