Have you ever fell for a guy who was conflicted about his sexuality?

[Telstra]

But he has made it clear he doesn't want me as a friend. Every attempt I make in friendship isn't accepted. He wants sex bad and wants me to be hist first. He wants me to fly to him ASAP and mess around with him for a few days.

I would be there for him as a friend with no sex involved but he doesn't want that. Why don't I just give him what he wants? I think I'm ready to do it without being attached. I'll be there for him as a friend afterwards if he wants that but I'm not going to obsess over him and try to turn him into BF material, because it won't happen.



He's told me part of the reason he wants to do this so badly is because the fact that it's considered "wrong" or breaking the rules is a huge turn on for him.


I just need to play it cool as a cucumber and not let emotions get involved.

This doesn't sound right.
Who pays for the flight?
After you both cum afew times then what ?

 

[slnattak]

I have. I talked to this guy over the phone for a long time and we used to have deep intimate conversations and he also got a boner when talking to me. He could never say he was gay though.

And maybe he wasn't. Maybe he just felt comfortable enough around me to get an erection. Sex is naturally stimulating no matter the "orientations" or the body parts of people involved.... and life can suddenly freak you out if you're turned on by something you don't think you should. I myself get uncomfortable if a woman turns me on, but that's really rare and usually there's a man in the picture. I never had the stereotypical str8 guy 'lesbian' fantasy.

Part of me still thinks he's a terribly insecure classic case of 'self-internalized' homophobia that hollywood likes to make fun of people for. It's just this really deep hunch, and if he was completely heterosexual why did he get boners talking to me and fantasies of getting to fuck my ass. and how come he's 25 and never had a girlfriend before, it makes you wonder- but I guess my main point is, I don't think we can be anybody's saviors.

Nobody was really there to help me when I needed it, all the people who tried actually had the opposite intentions funnily enough, the only thing anybody could do to 'help me' was to leave me alone and let me sort things out for myself and help myself. They would just sort of smile at me condescendingly when I told what was really important to me anyway. People suck like that. It's sooo hard to get another person to care about what you care about. Kinda impossible... so I guess I hope I just get lucky and my "friends" and people I talk and click with tend to have the same insecurities and hopes and dreams as me.

So if you really care about this guy I think you will realize that it's up to him to be self-confident enough to ride the gay train with you. When I DON'T LIKE though is when guys will have mind blowing sex with you but then also deny an emotional and spiritual connection with you. Where did you think that awesome sex came from??? And then act it was just a phase or it was just a bodily thing. Honey you came and fucked me in my ass in secret 17 times lol. and you loved every goddamn second of it.

 

[rareboy]

You're right. It is just another hook up between two adult men.

Wouldn't it be funny if he turned out to be an experienced homo playing you just to get in your pants? Not that it matters.

I think this is exactly right.

I think he is playing the OP like an old fiddle.

All the bullshit about 'breaking the rules' and being conflicted....meh. The more that is written about this friend, the less conflicted he seems to be.

All of this is about the 'friend' being able to have a one night stand and then drop the OP because he is 'feeling guilty' or 'conflicted'.

He's just playing head games.

 

[Rex]

I had a conversation with him today and we did a "truth or dare" strip game on skype. I found out he actually has had a gay experience with a shemale. He gave the shemale a handjob and she sucked his dick.

Plus he also is very specific about his fantasy. I guess he's not conflicted about his sexuality to the point that I thought. I think he's just a sex freak. I know he was a successful armature wrestler before joining he military, and he says he's been with plenty of women. He wants me to come see him next weekend and he says it's going to be a "fantasy weekend".


So yeah, he is just a straight up freak and possibly a bigger pervert than I am.

 

[Ninja108]

he simply sounds like someone who wants no strings attached sex..and nothing more.

 

[rareboy]

Actually he sounds like a mild sociopath...the kind that knows how to just zoom in on their target and tell them whatever he thinks they want to hear based on the feedback he's getting.

But hey Sultan, knock yourself out and remember, pics or it didn't happen.

 

[bw92116]

Just don't fall in love with him... that's the mistake we all make.

 

[Rex]

Just an update. Didn't end up going through with it. He changed his mind at the last second. He still says a part of him really wants to do it and another part doesn't. He's too conflicted for it to happen.

I don't know if he's gay or bisexual or confused or what but he's gonna need a few years to come to terms with himself so I guess it ain't happenin.

 

[Soilwork]

You can do so much better. Men who play games are such a bore.

 

[Rex]

You can do so much better. Men who play games are such a bore.

You saw his pic. He was definitely my type of guy. Maybe one day in the future when he's come to terms with himself but I doubt that will happen.

 

[Soilwork]

Yeah looks aren't everything.

You can do better.

 

[FuryOfFirestorm]

Hopefully, he'll get his shit together. Otherwise, you're just going to keep getting jerked around.