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Have You Ever Had To Tell Someone Who Was Interested That You Were "Bad News"?

G-Lexington

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Well, I've refused advances from guys before, but not because I'm "bad news" or that "I'd ruin them". Frankly, I'm not that much of a badass. (If I were, I'd probably have more guys hitting on me.) It's simply been more along the lines of "I don't think I'm what you're looking for".

Lex
 
no, just told them that i either wasn't ready or wasn't interested. i usually let people know what i'm about so they know who they're dealing with so there's no surprises. so far, no worries.
 
Mhhhhhh..............not sure why someone would do that.
If you were a bad boy, you wouldn't say something like that...........that's the point of being a bad boy.
Generally who talks like that is really just a twat.

I never said anything like that to someone I fancy.
If I like someone I just go for it.
 
That seems more like something from a film. Id have to be pretty fucked up. Its noble though.
 
I have before on a few occasions. I would not put up with someone who was needy and maudlin; even from my friends. I was not as blunt to say I would be "bad news", but I said "we were not compatible".
 
TheSpectatingLoner said:
I didn't say I was a "bad boy." Just bad news.

I appreciate the responses. I guess what I meant to do wasn't far off from what others are saying here, but (dramatic as it may be) when I spoke my mind honestly, "bad news" is what came out of my mouth.

I'm not a bad guy per se. I thought the guy was nice, which is why I didn't allow him to fool around with someone like me.
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I get what you are saying.
My point is that it is not up to me to decide if I am "bad news" or not, this is up to others to decide.
Avoiding a relationship because you are scared of corrupting the soul of a "nice" guy, is something that never cross my mind.
Maybe I am the excitement he needed in his life, who am I to decide for him?
We are all adults and we learn from our mistakes, let people do their own mistakes and learn from it.
 
TheSpectatingLoner said:
Have you ever had to shrugged away someone's advances even though you liked them because you knew you'd ruin them, and that they could do way better?
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Nope, I think that some guys might think that they are out of my league, but I'm not and maybe they can do better and maybe they can't but let's see what happens.
 
I've always preferred to break it slightly differently;

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A guy said that to me once. Shoulda listened.
 
No, I haven't. It would be like heaven on earth if a guy hit on me in real life so why would I want to do that? lol. However few years back when I liked a bi guy, a lot of his friends had told me he was bad news. And I should have listened to them.
 
I haven't had to do this myself. But I really admire the people who have. I imagine it's very hard to turn someone away, even though you like them. And admitting (even to yourself) that you aren't good enough, or right for someone. That's sort of a double whammy. But I really do admire the people who have that strong a character.
 
I would never say anything like that. First, I'm not really a bad boy, just misunderstood. And second, I don't believe I would ruin anyones life, just add an interesting chapter to it. lastly, as far as "they could do better anyway",......I may not be the best, but I'm getting better every day.
 
Just some thoughts. I don't know you, but

Are you confusing fantasy with the real world, because there are no perfect people out there. No one is better than anyone else. Everybody has flaws.

If you don't feel deserving of something perhaps you're afraid of it or don't like it in the first place. Perhaps, instead of "ruining" him, he might lift you up? Would that bother you?

Why is your self-esteem so low? Who did what to you to make you feel this lousy?
 
Never that I was "bad news", but I've had to rebuff some that I knew would have issues with in the future. Sometimes I wasn't out for a relationship, and I knew the other person was. More often it was my reputation for being the way I am, knowing what I want, knowing what I was into, that made the person approach me; which was always an interesting thing to watch as they tried to bring up the subject and the interest.
 
Ruin them? LOL..no...but it's a vindictive set up. Be careful...some guys take that stuff seriously. Like serious enough to follow you then fuck you up.
 
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