Have you ever meet this type of gay before?

[Nice Boy]

The people who don't except their sexuality: on the one hand, I feel a bit sorry for them because they don't enjoy the life as they could and I think it's said they don't have courage to admit it. On the other hand, I consider them coward and a lot of times deserving a big kick in the ass cause if they get married and then they will eventually one day decide to leave that life and start dating guys, they will ruin lifes of many people and I have little mercy with them...

I think the most important thing is to accept yourself. You don't have to tell a lot of people, but an acceptation of the self is crucial...

 

[jensu846]

ya, the married guy I was playing with liked to get fucked, sucked, rimmed, the whole 9 yards. But the second he came, he instantly reverted back to hetero & would start talking about hot chicks & how he wants to fuck them, blah, blah, blah..
He is sooooo far in denial, its sad. He has got to be miserable & will get caught one of these days. Even when I flat out asked him if he was gay/bi he said "hell no" "I just like cumming" "I'm straight.."
I was dumbfounded to say the least.

 

[Telstra]

Have you ever known someone who you know is bi or gay and they refuse to acknowledge it, not even to themselves?

I know someone who I know is bisexual, and has admitted to me he enjoys sex better with men but now is engaged and has a child with a woman and still thinks of himself as straight. He has many times said that he is done with having sex with men but has gone back on his word.

He recently told me that all of his experimenting was part of his past and because he was young and foolish and prays to god for forgiveness for it. He has also told me if he was ever outted his life would be over and he'd kill himself.

I know there is no helping this individual, but I'm just curious. Has anyone met a bisexual, or maybe even a gay person, who has said they're going to stop all sex with the same sex partners and actually kept their word?



In the case of this individual, I am just really curious to know where he will be 20 years from now. I wonder if he will have finally come to some terms with his sexuality, even if he isn't out, or what will become of him.


Discuss.

Ask god to forgive him is not a good news.
He live in a toxic environment and not being himself.

 

[Telstra]

Afew years back there was a guy who swallowed my cum and a few months later i saw him got married. I made a thread about it.

And there was one other guy he was married, then i saw him in a gay sauna/bath house. I'm pretty sure he is divorced now. What a waste of time and money, spent alot of money for that wedding. He was Italian.

 

[nycguydowntown]

I meet guys like this all the time--it made me think that there are guys who like the sex but just can't do the lifestyle---

 

[asu1117]

I meet guys like this all the time--it made me think that there are guys who like the sex but just can't do the lifestyle---

What "lifestyle"? Being a non-hetero means I have my own "lifestyle"? That's what the homophobes want people to believe.

 

[RaKroma]

I see them all the time on cam4. It is always hilarious and bit disturbing to observe these type of guys.

 

[Dashriprock3172]

I used to meet up with this guy who slept with men and was a big bottom and claimed to be straight.

 

[giorgiobaby]

all the time, it's there problem. Not mine. I don't have time to waste on guys who can't face reality. I'm gonna live my life and be happy.....and they're not

 

[MoltenRock III]

Have you ever known someone who you know is bi or gay and they refuse to acknowledge it, not even to themselves?

I know someone who I know is bisexual, and has admitted to me he enjoys sex better with men but now is engaged and has a child with a woman and still thinks of himself as straight. He has many times said that he is done with having sex with men but has gone back on his word.

Discuss.

Yes. You in fact. Reread your posts from 2008. Stones, glass houses, and all that.

 

[Rex]

Yes. You in fact. Reread your posts from 2008. Stones, glass houses, and all that.

Even then, I didn't think I was straight, and I feel like I made a lot of progress since then. I'm talking about people who never accept that they're something other than straight and keep it up and don't make any effort to accept who they are.

 

[TheOscar]

Well, those people are still going through the process of acceptance. Though I suppose not all of them, some could be like that forever, but many have a hard time accepting it.

 

[2queer2drive]

In my experience the relationship between attraction and sexual orientation is similar to that of gender and sex. I argue that just because someone has sex with men doesn't make him gay. I don't believe someone is gay until they claim it by saying to themselves or someone else "I am gay." Attraction is just that attraction. Attraction alone does not warrant sexual orientation. While I do not believe that one chooses their attraction, we certainly choose to be out, to act on our urges and to build (hopefully) healthy lives. I am gay because I choose to accept myself and walk down this path because I am attracted to men. Some people, while being attracted to men, decide to walk down the straight path and lead straight lives. That is their decision.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Even then, I didn't think I was straight, and I feel like I made a lot of progress since then. I'm talking about people who never accept that they're something other than straight and keep it up and don't make any effort to accept who they are.

Is this the same Internet guy you've posted about before? Or someone new? How long have you known him?

 

[Rex]

Is this the same Internet guy you've posted about before? Or someone new? How long have you known him?

I have posted about him before but I think the person you're referring to was someone else. That person who I posted about in the past I don't even keep in contact with anymore but he is basically down the same path.

In my experience the relationship between attraction and sexual orientation is similar to that of gender and sex. I argue that just because someone has sex with men doesn't make him gay. I don't believe someone is gay until they claim it by saying to themselves or someone else "I am gay." Attraction is just that attraction. Attraction alone does not warrant sexual orientation. While I do not believe that one chooses their attraction, we certainly choose to be out, to act on our urges and to build (hopefully) healthy lives. I am gay because I choose to accept myself and walk down this path because I am attracted to men. Some people, while being attracted to men, decide to walk down the straight path and lead straight lives. That is their decision.

I don't think someone has to be out or even accept their sexuality to be gay or bi.

 

[Telstra]

In my experience the relationship between attraction and sexual orientation is similar to that of gender and sex. I argue that just because someone has sex with men doesn't make him gay. I don't believe someone is gay until they claim it by saying to themselves or someone else "I am gay." Attraction is just that attraction. Attraction alone does not warrant sexual orientation. While I do not believe that one chooses their attraction, we certainly choose to be out, to act on our urges and to build (hopefully) healthy lives. I am gay because I choose to accept myself and walk down this path because I am attracted to men. Some people, while being attracted to men, decide to walk down the straight path and lead straight lives. That is their decision.

Wrong.
Weather you accept yourself or not, gay is gay.

Example:
If you say you are a dog, you are still human to other people.

 

[DigitalFudge]

Yes. You in fact. Reread your posts from 2008. Stones, glass houses, and all that.

I like where this is going

 

[The_Reaper]

Yes...

More or less the same story as the OP, minus the child. He quantifies it as 'defying labels', but yeah...

I can't help but think one day his wife will cue in to his shenanigans; but I shan't be the one to burst that bubble.

 

[MascutarHero]

I don't want to say I blame their people, you can't exactly blame them for trying to run away from their experiences with guys. Look at how society has gotten into the mind of people around the world.

 

[evanrick]

yes hes living with me now, last night i coulda sworn he was rubbing up against me in the theatre...should i ask him if thats what he was doing? help!