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Have you experienced social pressure into drinking?

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Have you experienced pressure from friends/family or colleagues into drinking alcohol? How do you react?

Was having a farewell party with some of my friends today and was put into a rather awkward social situation where they pressured me into trying out alcohol/vodka. Maybe its a bit naive for me to live by a motto of not drinking alcohol even though I am of legal age. I insisted on not trying & luckily my friends are pretty understanding and they didn't force me to do it. Though they warned me in the future when I go out to work I might be put in similar situations and it could end up pretty bad if I got drunk outside.
 
So don't drink.

You can either tell people that you are forbidden from alcohol or a recovering alcoholic or that you would just prefer having a soft drink.

There are lots of people we know who don't drink.

and no one is pressuring them to get wasted.

just stay true to your own beliefs.

By the way, I'm sitting here having a lovely glass of amarone. Can I pour you some? lol
 
Just say you got stomach ulcer and can't touch alcohol.
And warn them they will have ulcer soon if they keep doing this.


Lying this way is fine.
 
If you don't want to drink....DON'T. Your friends who drink should/will see this as advantageous to them. You can be the sober driver, or just the guy in the group who can say "that's not a good idea" to drunken lapses of judgement.
But don't lie to them about alcoholism, medical conditions and the like, that will only come back to bite you in the ass (and not in a good way)
 
i feel your pain BUT nobody's going to put a gun to your head and make you drink if you say no. you may get looked down at and have people clown you BUT you still held your ground. people will respect you for doing that instead of following the leader.
 
aaronxp said:
My dad used to pressure me so I could fit with all my male family and friends.

In college I always carried a bottle of pills with aspirins and no one ever offered me alcohol because of that.
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oh i forgot, social drinking is ok.
As long as you don't drink at home by yourself.
 
refujiunderground said:
i feel your pain BUT nobody's going to put a gun to your head and make you drink if you say no. you may get looked down at and have people clown you BUT you still held your ground. people will respect you for doing that instead of following the leader.
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nah, if you don't drink for special occasions, people think you are no fun.
 
I have been pressured to drink, but I ignored it, and didn't. I've never even tried drugs at all. I will take a drink, but only if I want to, and it's something I like the taste of. I've never been drunk, and don't intend to be.
 
I never had that pressure to drink... for some reason, people seem to try and pressure me into smoking a hell of a lot more. Too bad for them i've no desire to even try it.
 
Sober people or "just going to have one drink/couple beers" are boring, so yes, we encourage them to drink more. Social settings need to be at the same level - now no one likes the idiot whos blackout at 10 pm and needing assistance either, so that's the other extreme. If I was your friend I'd be encouraging you to drink more, then again we probably wouldn't be friends.
 
MoufOfKhaos said:
I never had that pressure to drink... for some reason, people seem to try and pressure me into smoking a hell of a lot more. Too bad for them i've no desire to even try it.
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Been through that too. I did try it, but after a drag or two nearly choked me to death, I haven't touched any form of tobacco since...
 
You are not welcome in my parents' house if you do not drink. Course they are not asking you to get trashed but to not accept the solicitation of an alcoholic beverage in their home is an insult to them. I had a friend over their house recently who did that and my mom just starred daggers at him the entire time he was there.

I will never peer pressure someone into drinking [I do have "dry" friends] but when it comes to dating, they must be able to enjoy alcohol or I see the relationship not lasting long. Due to my parents, it's one of those deal breakers.
 
The heaviest "peer pressure" I'm experiencing into drinking is from the gay circle of friends. I thought high school and college years were past me, but no, this is worse now than ever. I'm a light drinker and would probably avoid even one drink if I'm not bugged about it all the time. But even after I have a single drink, my friends will always tell me or ask me why I don't get another drink, or buy me a drink without asking me and shove it to me. It's little things like this that can ruin my night in a bar.
 
Oh definitely. Most obvious example: my ex wanted me to meet his new boyfriend, so I met them both at a gay bar. The new guy immediately started flirting with me (for some reason), and when he heard I wasn't a drinker, he announced that I was definitely getting drunk tonight. He proceeded to buy me three shots, two mixed drinks, and a beer. Which sat there on the table. When he proclaimed that I wasn't touching my drinks, I told them that they weren't mine - I didn't order them, and I didn't want them. He got pretty pissed, but he found plenty of other people willing to drink them.

It's very easy. Just say "I'm not drinking". And say that a thousand times if you need to.

Lex
 
Many times. But I didn't drink at all in my young years. I'm somehow not surprised that it cost me my social life.
Today I'll have a glass of red wine with dinner, but that's IT.
 
Social pressure to drink? Hell...all the time after I quit drinking. The worst...49ers games. Everyone had shots when there was a touchdown. Instaead of doing the whole "I dont' drink" speech ...I just poured myself a shot of 7 up and toasted and drank right along with everyone else.
 
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