Have you given up on love?

[wonderwort]

I and ex boyfriend wanted to be with one another more than anything in the world. We loved each other more than anything in the world.....

There was just one problem......he was verbally abusive..

I was one of those co-dependent people who tried to "change" others......Long story short he eventually commited suicide.

It took me more than five years........to get over his death....

I would love to "move on" but.......Im........as the saying goes "Once bitten twice shy". Im really afraid its gonna happen again.....

The statistics out there are not very comforting either.......gay men overrepresent in the areas of drug use, domestic violence, suicides.........and all other social problems.......

I think I may given up on finding love......Anyone else out there feel the same?

 

[Telstra]

I and ex boyfriend wanted to be with one another more than anything in the world. We loved each other more than anything in the world.....

There was just one problem......he was verbally abusive..

I was one of those co-dependent people who tried to "change" others......Long story short he eventually commited suicide.

It took me more than five years........to get over his death....

I would love to "move on" but.......Im........as the saying goes "Once bitten twice shy". Im really afraid its gonna happen again.....

The statistics out there are not very comforting either.......gay men overrepresent in the areas of drug use, domestic violence, suicides.........and all other social problems.......

I think I may given up on finding love......Anyone else out there feel the same?

Thats make me thinking ...
Yeah a lot of gay men are un-stable.

 

[Horschallen]

I have given up on love long time ago.

 

[Eagle653]

The statistics out there are not very comforting either.......gay men overrepresent in the areas of drug use, domestic violence, suicides.........and all other social problems.......

Using the same logic, none of us are going to find a partner because straights far outnumber gays.

Don't be fooled by nonsense statistics. You're not out to conquer and date all of gay humanity, you're out to find your soulmate and a loving partner.

So, do not give up on love. It's out there, and choose your targets well. If you find yourself in dependent or co-dependent relationships, or abusive relationships, figure out why. Sometimes it takes a few sessions with a therapist to figure that out about yourself. It's well worth the time and money to do so that you avoid the same mistakes again.

Good luck to you. Never give up and never stop believing there's a man for you.

 

[Seasoned]

I am so sorry you lost your ex boyfriend to suicide. I wish you and his friends and family well. It's a tragic loss.

Addiction issues, including co-dependency, and mental illness are generally treatable. The difficulty is that so many fail to seek help. Do take care of yourself and get some counseling is needed.

 

[gingentleman]

I still believe in love. Love is the only thing that REALLY matters. My Prince Charming is out there, somewhere, and I will know him when I see him. He isn't perfect, no one is. I know I'm not. But I will find the right man... I took myself out of the dating game for 8 years because of a really bad relationship. But life is short and I am on the hunt again. I believe in love and if you will allow yourself to do the same, I know you will eventually find the right man for you! Cheers!

 

[Shygui]

I feel similar to you, though for a different reason. I work too much. I can't imagine being able to put the time into creating a relationship that could be great for myself & the other person.

I don't think it's impossible to find love. But please do not underestimate the amount of time & energy that goes into a successful relationship. And don't be afraid to seek guidance on it when it seems challenging.

 

[HunterM]

Don't fall into the same traps of enabling yourself to be abused verbally again. Learn those lessons in life.

Build up your self esteem. Find a new hobby. Travel to a new city for a weekend. Make yourself happy first. Smile and meet new people...make new friends. Have a sense of humor about life and don't take yourself too seriously. If you are confident and radiate positive energy, you will draw people in when they meet you.

 

[kooman]

last year actually, im tired of looking for love, im gonna let it find me.

 

[NickCarterFan]

I just came to a realization about myself, and my attraction to gay porn over dating men: unlike men you date, a guy in a photo to jerk off to is great-looking, easily available on your terms, what you see is what you GET, and thus is never a disappointment waiting to happen. Same goes for a regular escort, now that I think of it...

 

[alli-berri]

Love is as real as you believe it is, and seeing is believing (SEEK & U SHALL FIND)