Having sex for the first time, advice?

[asfgvstgjndtyatng]

Hello! So I'm 21 and I've never had sex but it looks like that time may arrive soon. I'm obviously a little nervous but excited! I was wondering if you guys could give me advice as to what I should expect. Anything you wish you knew for your first time? How do you decide what you want to do, should you talk or just go for it? Many thanks!

 

[droydUK]

I guess this is personal preference but, Id recommend, not over doing the lube. Just go with the flow and don't hold back.

If you're bottoming then it can be a little tight to begin with, many people talk about pain, it goes VERY quickly.

And if you want to cum just cum, don't hold back, you can always have it again!

 

[asfgvstgjndtyatng]

Thanks for the advice! One question, it may sound stupid but, where is it acceptable/normal to come? In porn the guys cum on chests and stuff but that's porn. Is it ok to come inside while you're topping (wearing a condom of course) or should you just ask?

 

[chace1617]

well today i'm also having sex for the first time. i turned 22 a few weeks ago and i finally decided to do it. i'm feeling scared and excited but i sooo want it to happen. in fact i can't believe the moment i'm waiting since i was 15 has come. i have posted a thread about this guy wanting to have sex with me so today he sent me an sms asking if i wanting to hang out tonight i replied we could go for a beer but finally he self invited himself to my house to ''watch a movie''. i have no idea what to do and how to react with him hope everything goes well. i'm definitely posting an update to tell you what happened later.

as you understand i totally understand how you feel what i think is that you should just ask him what he wants and what he liked about sex, for gods sake you're going to have sex with him there is nothing to be afraid to ask him about lol! every individual is different so there isn't a law that allow or forbidden you to do things in sex.

 

[asfgvstgjndtyatng]

Wow, good luck! I hope it's amazing for you! And definitely keep us updated! thanks for the advice

 

[Rolyo85]

It's acceptable to come wherever feels good to you and is ok with your partner. And btw you can just state your wish while having sex. But I assure you no advice will help you during your first time and you don't need any to begin with

 

[Ganoderma]

well today i'm also having sex for the first time. i turned 22 a few weeks ago and i finally decided to do it. i'm feeling scared and excited but i sooo want it to happen. in fact i can't believe the moment i'm waiting since i was 15 has come. i have posted a thread about this guy wanting to have sex with me so today he sent me an sms asking if i wanting to hang out tonight i replied we could go for a beer but finally he self invited himself to my house to ''watch a movie''. i have no idea what to do and how to react with him hope everything goes well. i'm definitely posting an update to tell you what happened later.

as you understand i totally understand how you feel what i think is that you should just ask him what he wants and what he liked about sex, for gods sake you're going to have sex with him there is nothing to be afraid to ask him about lol! every individual is different so there isn't a law that allow or forbidden you to do things in sex.

hi chace1617,

Thanks for the update and good to hear you will finally meet him in a private situation, as I assume we talk about the same guy as in your recent posting. Take your time and be relaxed. I mean, is he already aware that you are bi, and are you already sure that he is gay? Besides that, inviting to "watch a movie" can mean something more, but that does not need to be the case.

You are totally right: there is not such sort of law, and its all up to you and to him how you enjoy from each other when you are together in such a situation. Never ever do anything he does not like and/or feels uncomfortable with, and never ever do anything you don't feel comfortable with. You know how to please a girl, pleasing a guy is not too much different from it.

So I would like to wish you good luck. I really hope you will have a good time with him, and please keep us informed.

Best wishes.

 

[jaysizzles]

There is some good advice in this thread ...post #2. http://www.justusboys.com/forum/health-wellbeing/272148-all-about-ass.html, as well as other threads in the health and well being forum.

What I may suggest is that you don't go into it thinking it has to be all perfect and well choreographed like the movies. It's ok, actually good, to talk about things you like, things you want to do (or not)...before, during, and after. Find out what he likes. Not too chatty during, but simple things like "how does this feel" or "I like this" etc... It's ok to have fun/laugh.

As for cumming...he may like it if you came on him instead of in the condom...ask. Try not to get it in his eyes if he wants a facial...it burns.

And, the basics like having a towel, lube, condoms, handy...cold beer, wine, pizza, etc. for before & after (or during...lol)

 

[asfgvstgjndtyatng]

Thanks for the advice guys!

 

[HunterM]

And, the basics like having a towel, lube, condoms, handy...cold beer, wine, pizza, etc. for before & after (or during...lol)

Thanks for the advice! I would have to try the pizza during sex. Pan pizza crust or thin crust?

 

[Scealle]

Hope you enjoy it and have fun.