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He wants a relationship...

Sofa-King

Sofa-King

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Well first of all, I'm bisexual and i prefer girls. I find some guys sexually attractive and I'd love to play around with them, but I couldn't ever see myself in a serious relationship with a guy. But recently I've been talking to a guy I knew from school about getting together. He seems to want to go steady, but I'm just kind of horny and in the mood for a "friends with benefits" kind of thing.
So what should i do? Have any of you had an experience like that from either side? Any advice?
 
You could tell him the truth - "I'm interested in messing around with guys, but not in anything longterm" - but he might choose not to get involved then. Or you could play coy and vague...in which case I'll expect another thread from you in the near future - "Why won't this psycho homo leave me alone?"

I'd stick with Option A.

Lex
 
You want to be very careful about this.

I am under the impression that you are also not quite positive about what you are expecting from this new relationship...

Why not be honest and say, "Look, at this time, I am rather undecided. I am looking for 'a friendship w benefits." This may or may not lead us somewhere else.

Your friend can always accept, reject or make his own proposals. However, your standing is right, because it is based on truth.

Judging by your gallery, you are a hot and open-minded dude. I see no problems in finding a friend w benefits at any time.

SC
 
Hey Sofa,

Mate, the fact that you are here asking for advice shows that youre a guy whos got some pretty great values... so you've just got to ask yourself... what would you like to happen if you were him?

Friendships and relationships worth anything are based on truth and honesty. If hes coming to this thing with a different idea to you then you owe it to both of you to be honest about how you feel.

That way he gets to make an informed choice too... and you get to continue a freindship no matter what happens!
 
You could tell him the truth - "I'm interested in messing around with guys, but not in anything longterm"
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This is what you want to tell him. You owe it to him and yourself to be honest.
 
Yep, give him the truth. It's the best way because then he has to agree to play on your terms, right? And isn't that what you want?
 
If you are really concerned about him and care about his feelings, I would keep him as a friend and forget the sex.
This, I feel, goes beyond just being honest with him.
IF he wants a relationship, and you know that up front, he is likely to get hurt because he will probably fall in love.

You are not at the same place in your lives or in what you want from each other. Think about him and do the right thing, even if you are honest with him that you ONLY want sex and no more and even if he appears to accept the conditions.
 
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