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hey there

Just got some advice to ask, I'm 18 and am currently with my lass, who i've been with for 1 and a half years (I'm bi by the way), she's wanting us to move in with each other next year when we go to uni and i was just wondering if I should tell her I like a bit-of-both before we make such a commitment?

Also, I have a big crush on 2 of my close mates, just wondering how i can get over it

cheers lads
 
Goalie,

Yes, I think you should share that information with your lass, unless you don't plan on doing anything with anyone else. Moving in together seems like a commitment.

As for getting over your two mates - not easy. Just be glad that they are friends. Remind yourself how lucky you are to have them as friends. I guess you have not told them you are bi - maybe it is time?
 
First of all welcome to jub.
My you do have some sticky situations. I first of all think you need to let your lady friend know you swing both ways. Moving in with someone is a big step, and I think this would be important. Second Your always going to have crushes, and they will never be easy to handle. there probubly just something your going to have to get use to.
Good Luck, I wish you well
 
Rand said:
Goalie,

Yes, I think you should share that information with your lass, unless you don't plan on doing anything with anyone else. Moving in together seems like a commitment.

As for getting over your two mates - not easy. Just be glad that they are friends. Remind yourself how lucky you are to have them as friends. I guess you have not told them you are bi - maybe it is time?
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well i'd never do owt with anyone whilst with her like

haven't told any of me mates i'm bi, not sure how they'll react tbh
 
The fact that you've posted this message suggests that you have grave doubts.

So do I.
 
You should definitely say NO to moving in together at that point in your life. That would be a recipe for disaster. You will have enough of an adjustment with college and getting use to living away from your parents. You need some space that you wouldn't be able to get living with your girlfriend. Living in a dorm would also give you a chance meet some new friends and get involved in the college life. That's the advice I would give you even if sexuality wasn't complicating the matter.

You should definitely let your girlfriend know you swing both ways. She sounds very serious about your relationship and she has a right to know before things go any further. You also deserve the chance to experiment without cheating on her. You are way too young to lock yourself into anything yet. The best thing both of you can do is enjoy the first couple years of college and if you still want to move in together after that, than do so.
 
vetteboi said:
You should definitely say NO to moving in together at that point in your life. That would be a recipe for disaster. You will have enough of an adjustment with college and getting use to living away from your parents. You need some space that you wouldn't be able to get living with your girlfriend. Living in a dorm would also give you a chance meet some new friends and get involved in the college life. That's the advice I would give you even if sexuality wasn't complicating the matter.

You should definitely let your girlfriend know you swing both ways. She sounds very serious about your relationship and she has a right to know before things go any further. You also deserve the chance to experiment without cheating on her. You are way too young to lock yourself into anything yet. The best thing both of you can do is enjoy the first couple years of college and if you still want to move in together after that, than do so.
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I do see what you mean, and i've been planning on telling her recently and i think putting off moving in for a year would be an alreet idea

cheers, we'll see how it gans
 
The only advice I would give you is, just make sure a relationship with a woman is really what you want. I thought I was BI when I was your age. I shacked up with a woman had kids and became completely miserable. I am now divorced and came out of the closet 4 years ago now, and I am much happier.
 
Dude,

Take it easy on commitments at your stage in life. Sure, you have been together and all, but moving in is a huge step towards a committed relationship.

Frankly, I'd think twice about it, if I were in your shoes.

SC
 
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