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help a str8 guy! should i fulfill this fantasy?

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sorry if this is in the wrong area, this is my first post.

ill get to the point and tell you why ive signed up. ill tyr to keep this as brief as i can!


basically, my situation is im a str8 white guy from australia, im 25 and i have a gf who i love dearly and want to marry. however, and its a big however (a big black one actually), over the last two years or so ive found myself watching more and more interracial porn, mostly big cocked black guys with white girls. i quickly became more and more obsessed and as my hunger for big black cocks smashing innocent or slutty white girls grew, so did my obsession and curiosity towards the big black cock itself!

so not long till i graduated to gay porn, watching anything i could that had big black cocks being sucked by white boys, i was even amazed these twink boys and buff men had such a hunger for cock that they would take these massive, thick black poles up their butts!

now heres my situation. cruising craigslist one day to see if there were any potential wank buddies, i stumbled across this ad!

black 10 INCHES FOR YOU - m4w

holy shit! i couldnt believe it! a big black cock on craigslist in my town! this to me was crazy as their are hardly any black dudes in town let alone ones putting their cock out there on offer!

so i took a chance, knowing im not ready to tell my gf about my fantasy and surrender her to this black hunk (beside what fun would that be?), i decided to email him and tell him about my fantasy. i basically came clean and said im a white dude obsessed with big black cock and if it were ok with him, i would like to perhaps just touch that beast!
i got a email back today saying to send photos, i did, now he didnt just gimme the go ahead to touch it, but i now have been given the chance to SUCK A 10" BLACK DONG!!!

so i guess you know my dilemma? i got a gf who i adore and dont want to hurt. so would it be all that bad, if just this once, i go ahead and fulfill this crazy ass fantasy that i thought would never ever happpen? i always said to myself if the opportunity came by i would do it regardless of my gf, but now i dont know. i know its not right, but im sure once i start on that black pole i will love it! i just dont want to regret anything!

please share opinions...thanks guys!
 
Um, and if you love it and want more? Will you then justify cheating again? And again? Cause it is cheating yunno. Whether you're a straight guy fantasizing about red-heads or a "straight" guy fantasizing about black dick, you're still doing something behind your partner's back and planning to hid it afterwards. That's dishonest and just because you think of yourself as straight, and that's a dude doesn't make it ok.

I don't mean to be harsh, but that's what I think.

Also, Craigslist is the trashiest place in the world to look for sex. You have no idea what you might stumble on.
 
A dilemma is a choice between right and right. It's right to satisfy a curiosity; it's also right not to hurt someone or feel you've cheated.

This curiosity is not going to go away unless you act on it and find out for yourself. If it's a one time thing and didn't live up to expectations, then you'll have your answer. If you did like it, and would like to do it again, then you have another answer and another set of issues.

In my opinion, it's better to figure this out before you get married, than afterwards. Perhaps you're a straight guy with a curiosity about black cock that will be satisfied with one encounter. Or, maybe you'll find out that you're bisexual with a type toward black cocks. Either way, you need to know and, until you do, you'll always wonder and obsess.

Second, given how you've "met" this person, it's usually safest to meet up in a public place (like a coffee house) first and go from there. Size him up...does he appear sane? Is he lucid, or whacked on drugs? What does your gut tell you about his character--first impressions? Trust your instincts...if something seems amiss, it probably is. Second, you might want to stick with you original plan of touching only--perhaps a handjob. The sad fact is that you have no idea if this stranger--nice and sane as he might be--has a venereal disease. Not all such diseases are visible to the naked eye on a penis. It's better to explore through a wank, rather than a suck lest you get a VD in your mouth, which you don't want!
 
Eagle653 has some interesting thoughts on this one. I agree that you should explore your sexuality now, before committing to anyone, but I think you owe it to your girlfriend not to put her at risk of disease. The handjob route is safest, if you finally choose to meet up with this guy...

...but here's a more important question: do you trust and love your girlfriend enough to be honest about this with her? Do you have that kind of relationship where you could say "Look, I love you and you know that, but here's something that's been on my mind, and I'd like to explore it without hurting you." ??

I say, talk it over with her before doing it. Yes, it's sneakier (hotter?) to do it and not tell her and keep it your secret...but this is a chance for you to see how close the two of you really are, and what kind of person she is, and what kind of person you are. If you don't lay it all out on the table, you're never giving her the chance to make an informed decision. You could be with a woman who'd be willing to let you have this kind of experience without saying "it's over!"

And if you don't tell her, you'll probably start to feel guilty about having this secret that could eventually be spilled and seriously hurt her (at least, if you have a conscience, that's how you'd feel!)

Think it over man. There's nothing wrong with wanting to experiment, but treat everyone involved the way you'd want to be treated, or risk serious backlash and shame.
 
With these feelings, it is possible that you are actually gay. Only you can know. But many young guys are able to perform either way, but later in life, when the sex drive cools, they realize that they are actually gay. It will not be fair to her or the kids, and you will want your freedom. It is important that you try to resolve your sexuality before marrying, and unless you feel certain, you should not allow the reluctance to cheat to lead you into a marriage you will both regret.
 
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