HELP....HELP...OMG...this is BAD.

[gameboy 11]

OK. It's always a guy who is fucking with my usually in-tact emotions.

He was very cute (still is) and we have a lot in common

*We both wanted to see each other
*Get closer
*Be acquainted (sex or more)
*And just be friends all the while...

Everything in the convo was great but then I said something about a celebrity that I'd fuck in front of my guy....

And I was half serious, but he took it way too far and signed off...

I'm listening to something that helps me get through this already dreadful day and the night...

Uh.

It's NOT fair....I don't understand. All that meaningful talk and he just signed off in 2 seconds. Is he even worth it? I mean we seemed to fit very well: He got my jokes, hell, he got me!

Done typing now. I'm just so sad and am hella surprised I didn't shed a tear yet!

I'm trying not to but all I wanna do is lay down and die for a couple days. That's all I need. (

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[tabbyt]

Chill someone was probally about to see him talking to you so he quickly turned it off mayb he hasnt come out or he is still embarresed infront of someone

 

[gameboy 11]

Going to bed. Trying to get over it. It's not that serious anymore. As a former friend would've said, "I was just going through it!"

I'm OK to be sent off to bed....

Not like anyone was helping anyhoo....

HEH.

 

[Time]

Hmm depending on circumstances it sounds like he may have overreacted a bit, on your side i know what it feels like, like I fret over possibly offending people on msn espically when they don't reply to things I've said or I don't hear from them in a while, Just relax hopefully he'll come around, like I said circumstances are always irritating, I usually find I haven't done much wrong and there's legit reasons, I just over react

 

[rareboy]

It is why text is deadly. It is a clumsy, sterile way of expressing an idea and often leads to more misunderstanding than anything else.

Oh well, hopefully you've learned something.

 

[gameboy 11]

LOL Thanks rareboy. Can ALWAYS expect the truth from you which is beyond great! >=P

 

[ryuuaku]

He sounds like a drama queen. You're probably better off without him.

 

[G-Lexington]

Lesson learned - the topic of "celebrities I'd fuck in front of you" isn't an ideal "getting to know you" topic. You'll want to wait until you two are on firmer footing before you start dragging others into the picture, even in fantasy.

Send your boy a "hey, I didn't mean anything by it" message, filled with "lol"s and smiley faces (or frowney faces) and let him get back to you.

Lex

 

[LateNite85]

hmmm. that sucks. I don't have much experience with the whole online thing I remember a friend of mine saying no matter how much you say or how you chat with someone online, you don't REALLY get to know them until you meet in person. I'd try not to invest so much emotion in online convos. If you weren't serious about it and he overreacted, his loss.

 

[landers]

Along with the shift key and punctuation keys, a keyboard really needs a sarcasm key. There are so many things we can say that make us sound like the most horrible person to ever live that people think we really mean all because they took our tone wrong. When you're typing it's much easier to do. Seriously, a sarcasm key so everyone knows when you're kidding and when you're serious.

 

[maxpowr9]

That's the problem with online conversations. It is VERY HARD to tell when a person is joking or being serious (unless you know the person pretty well). That's also the reason why you should try to avoid using sarcasm in online convos.

I would probably say move on. If he wants to think ur a creep. oh well. his loss, not yours.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Guys, online communication and cell phone txts are here to stay. They are, what they are and we better get used to them.

I agree with G-Lex, you have learned your lesson alright.

On the other hand, if a dude lacks any sense of humor and basic wits to understand, that you were goofing around, more likely than not, something is seriously wrong with him. No one in his sound mind takes such scenarios as anything else but wishful thinking, so he overreacted big time.

I'd leave him to his mores and move on. He needs to get life & some sense of self-esteem, too.

SC

 

[rareboy]

Guys, online communication and cell phone txts are here to stay. They are, what they are and we better get used to them.

At the risk of running off topic, online communication may be here to stay, but the quality has to improve. At the moment, most messages remind me of neanderthal grunts; clearly meant to express something, but just as likely to get you clubbed over the head as not. In the future, when people are not trying to reduce all sentiments to three letter contractions and actually can text the equivalent of sonnets or haiku, the usefulness of the medium in the advancement of flirtation and love may yet be realized.

Until then, we should all refuse to get used to them.

I also agree with Lex. Send back a lol filled message saying you were just kidding. I did like the topic you chose though. Which celebs would you fuck, by the way?

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Until then, we should all refuse to get used to them.

Send back a lol filled message saying you were just kidding.

OK, so which one is it? Not getting used to them or sending one filled with lols? Jus' kiddin'

I fully agree with you, Rareboy. We should... only it ain't gonna happen. The medium is pretty much all right and you can actually E-Mail from your Blackberry to anyone's PDA all the sonnets you want... However, it is the lack of time, patience and and a bit of inborn human laziness that is getting the better of us here.

Most young guys just like the OP and his friend have virtually grown up with them and are usually very familiar with the shortcomings of this mode of communication.

That was why, I tend to believe that Gameboy's friend was basically lacking humor in this instance...

SC

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Most young guys just like the OP and his friend have virtually grown up with them and are usually very familiar with the shortcomings of this mode of communication.

I don't think they are. There have been far too many posts here in CO&R along these same lines. "I sent him this message, and now he's not returning my calls." "He texted me such-n-such, does it means he's interested in me?" IMs and text messages are great for getting basic information through - "Where should we meet?" "When is the party?" "Will you be bringing Fred?" But they're fraught with peril when it comes hooking up, or attempting to estabilish a relationship, or even the early months of a new relationship. During these times, the participants tends to be very excited, very nervous, and very prone to "looking for clues". And as text messages especially cut communication down to the absolute bare minimum ("c u @ 8 @ bar l8r"), it's far too easy to both read and misread things into them.

If I could send my own message the world at large, it'd be to remember this list.

face-to-face conversation
phone call (unhurried)
e-mail/written note
IM
phone call (quickie cell)
text message

The more important and the more personal the information, the more you're going to want to use a method of communication higher up on the list. You'll have a lot less chance of being misunderstood. Yes, the methods lower on the list are "easier" - it's simpler to text "I'm interested in you" than it is to say it to someone face to face. But it's also a lot more likely to be misconstrued.

Lex