I've combined two similar threads that were open in the forum so that I can address both.
At the top of the forum, there's a sticky called "
All About Ass" that has some pictures that will help. There's a cadaver image that shows the male anatomy in cross-section.
The prostate is easy to find once you know where to look and what it feels like. Most men can reach it with their index finger.
First of all- what does it feel like? Take your tongue and slip it into your cheek between your molars. Now take the tip of your index finger and touch the tip of your tongue through your cheek. Roll your finger around the tip of your tongue. That is what the prostate feels like- it's in an area that has soft tissue and it feels round and a little firmer than the soft tissue around it.
Now that you know what it feels like, let's go find it.
If you look at the picture, there's a bone labeled "20". that is your pubic bone. The prostate is between your pubic bone and the wall of your rectum. The prostate is "21" on the picture.
Lay flat on your back. Bend your legs at the knee and move your ankles toward your butt. Sometimes it helps to put a pillow under your lower back to raise your hips up a bit. Go ahead and lube your asshole with your right index or right middle finger.
Take your left hand and find your pubic bone(#20). It will be directly above the base of your penis (#15 on the photo). It will feel hard and you can't push it downward like the fat that is above it.
Now remember what your tongue felt like in your cheek. Insert your right index or middle finger into your butt. You will be pointing it toward your left hand where your pubic bone is. It is usually inside about the length of your finger- so stick that finger all the way in as far as you can go and rub the wall of the intestine until you feel it.
When your dick is not hard, the prostate will feel soft and you may feel a bit of a "tickle" sensation but not a huge amount of pleasure. When you have a hardon, the prostate engorges with blood and is a little firmer and more tender. So, if you strike out when you are flaccid, try it again while you're masturbating- it may be easier to find (and it will be more pleasurable).
On the dildo issue-
Penises and dildos aren't always the easiest and most practical way to stimulate the prostate. The Aneros toy has become popular because it has a more logical design for hitting the prostate.
What the finger exam shows is that it doesn't take a long dildo (or penis) to stimulate the prostate. In fact, your finger is a better tool to use. The width of the dildo is sometimes helpful because the girth rubs up against the prostate.
That feeling of "fullness" from having a wide dildo or penis in your ass is pleasurable in itself. The anus has a lot of nerve endings and is very sensitive (in a good way and a bad way). So, if you're not having luck stimulating your prostate with the dildo, you might start with your finger while you're jacking off and then switch to the dildo to get that feeling of fullness when you come.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
