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HELP - I seriously don't understand what's happening here.

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So i met this guy, went on our first date and everything was awesome. We clicked really well and talked and texted a lot after the date. We planned our second date, and the day before he informed me that his friend tried to commit suicide. I offered words of support and said I'd be ok we we didn't go on the date the following day and that was it. Haven't heard from him since.

I have texted and messaged him on facebook with no response, but i see activity on his facebook - there was also a quite humorous status update -_-

anyway my best bet is he probably doesn't want to talk to me, but i don't know if he's just grieving in some weird way. It's been 5 days and i don't know if i should move on, give him time or feel bad cause his friend almost died. Then there's this whole idea about how it's all just made up just so he can avoid me.

im' so confused. What would ya'll do?
 
So i met this guy, went on our first date and everything was awesome. We clicked really well and talked and texted a lot after the date. We planned our second date, and the day before he informed me that his friend tried to commit suicide. I offered words of support and said I'd be ok we we didn't go on the date the following day and that was it. Haven't heard from him since.

I have texted and messaged him on facebook with no response, but i see activity on his facebook - there was also a quite humorous status update -_-

anyway my best bet is he probably doesn't want to talk to me, but i don't know if he's just grieving in some weird way. It's been 5 days and i don't know if i should move on, give him time or feel bad cause his friend almost died. Then there's this whole idea about how it's all just made up just so he can avoid me.

im' so confused. What would ya'll do?

Just leave it alone man..
If he wants to contact you he will... don't stress over it at all..
If you have met one guy that you clicked with, well you will meet another...
Could be you just have the knack for meeting good guys..
I'd say don't come across as starving for his company.. Up to you though.

Could very well be his story was true... could be it was not.. Just let it go and see what happens..
Move on and let him contact you if he wants to.
Good luck dude. :D
 
I don't believe I have welcomed you to JUB, so welcome!

I'll tell you something I did 28 years ago. I hooked up with a guy and was really wanting more. I called a few times to ask him out. He was friendly but wouldn't say yes other than it was all right to call again. After three attempts I made sure he had my number and told him to call me if he wanted to go out. After a few weeks I moved on and pretty much forgot about him. Three months later he called me. We've been together ever since and got married a week ago.

I'm not saying this will happen to you, but I am advising that you put the ball in his court and walk away for your own mental health.
 
ya, move on. sounds like he was just being polite but is avoiding you. sucks . the fact that he put something comical on facebook and has rejected all your attempts for contact pretty much says it all. just my opinion.
 
I got this is real for you and you made up a couple of stories/interpretations.

Somethings to look at, we clicked really well, we planned, i see activity, my best bet is that he doesn't want to talk to me. Those are stories/interpretations that which distorts the happening.

If you take way those stories your left with what happened. You went on a date, he and you didn't have a second date, then him and you had no communication.

Nothings wrong, If I were in your space I would have done the same. Nothing need to change about you. You need to see what works for you and what doesn't work and then tell others about, and you don't have to listen to your innnervoice, create a new possibly with him for a date or discover another man to date. Your not dead, your survived the moment.

Thank you for being generous in listening to what I have to say. I acknowledge you for being a daring, bold and radiant human being.
 
My first thought was that he was lying about the friend committing suicide, which makes him a giant douchebag. You probably dodged a bullet.
 
Thanks for the comments - i feel a lot better after reading em. I guess the ones that seem perfect are probably too good to be true
 
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