Help!!!!!!! I think I am starting to fall for my straight crush

[soulseeker]

He's in my pharmacology class. . He's super hot, smart, sexy, one-eared earing. He got the bad boy look. Oh my !!!!!!!!!!! I found myself not concentrating on class cuz of daydreaming what his bod looks like in the bed room. Any suggestion to seduce him? When I work with him, he talked about wanting kids with his gf, it literally tears me up inside. What do I need to do? I feel my heart broke down into pieces. Tears rolls down my face. He's a irresistible charming Iowan boy, while I am a future New Yorker. . Why does life have to be so complicated? I found myself slowly and desperately falling for him. Like a beautiful moth to a merciless engulfing flame in the name of love.

 

[GaGaloo]

I have the exact same problem with a straight guy in one of my classes. I was scheming on slowly moving in for the kill but then I realized that if he's straight there's no point and it would only end badly. Time to move on, buddy.

 

[soulseeker]

But is it our duty to convert "straight guy", saving them from the disastrous cookie cutter life of nagging housewife, 2.5 kids, and a minivan with the occasional blowjob?

 

[Audio Tech]

Don't go there. It'll only end in heartache. I still love my first straight crush from 17 years ago. We are good friends now, and he's married with 3 kids. But it took a long time for the pain of never having what I really desired to go away.

Just don't go there. It's just not worth it.

 

[soulseeker]

Oh cruel fate !!!

 

[SilverWolf]

Let it go and find someone else.

 

[fetaby]

You gonna fail your class, thinking bout that ass.

 

[soulseeker]

He has THE most beautiful corn-fed ass I have seen in my life . Voluptuous and globulous. I rather calculate the probability of his ass on my face rather the plasma kinetic of insulin.

 

[fetaby]

The chances of that ass on your face when your a bum cause you flunked out of med school is???????

 

[soulseeker]

0 to negative infinity.

 

[greyhorse]

Yea its a bastard, but you may be able to just be friends with him. Wishing you the best, G

 

[KindredKian]

Stop!!!! This will only end badly if you try to follow through with it. Just be glad that you two are friends and leave it at that. I'll leave you with a little story about myself and a similar situation as food for thought.

I had my heart broken about 8 years ago when I fell hard for a straight guy that I worked with. He was from Montana and had a girlfriend that was 10 years older than him that made 3 times more money than he did and They lived together. She was a control freak and would always let him know his place in her life. She would tell him things like he wasn't shit because he didn't make enough money to help pay all of the bills and so forth. She basically made him feel worthless. One day he comes in to work, his eyes were bloodshot and he looked worn out. He proceeds to tell me that she and him got into a fight and she kicked him out of the house. He slept in his car and had no place to go. I asked him why he didn't call me cause he would have been more than welcome to stay at my house. I have 3 extra bedrooms. why not? He then asks if he could stay just till he figures out what he's gonna do. And to my delight I tell him to stay as long as he needs. Later that night while at my place she calls him to argue and basically tells him to come get his stuff cause they were done. So he gets his stuff and brings it back and pleads "where am I gonna live now?". I'm sitting there thinking this is fate and Now I've got thoughts of playing house with him. So I say "you're gonna live here" without hesitation. At first he declines saying he couldn't, but once I explained the terms and a reasonable price to rent a room he couldn't refuse.

Now mind you, he knew I was gay. We had this little inside joke before any of this stuff happened that he was my work boyfriend because I was basically his supervisor. When ever I needed assistance with something I'd always grab him because he was a very good worker and got things done in a timely fashion. Hence why everyone at work would say things like "where's your boyfriend?" or "your boyfriend is looking for you."

So anyways, he moved in and it was awesome....... at first. He'd make hot breakfast every morning and I'd have dinner ready when he got home. He'd do things like if I fell asleep on the couch while watching TV he'd cover me up, take my mom to her doctor appointments if I couldn't, and he coached my nephew's pop warner football team. He was so involved with many parts of my life that it was like we were dating. He never brought any girls home and I swear all the single women in my department were ready to throw the panties at him on a regular basis to the point they would ask me questions about what his likes and dislikes are, what does he look like with no shirt on, and have u ever seen him naked? Now all this you can see why my brain was one big clusterfuck? In reality I knew nothing could ever happen between me and him, but playing along with everybody was taking a negative effect on my mental state. It was too late I fell and I fell hard.

It got harder and harder with him just walking around the house in just his boxer briefs night after night. He worked out at home also which would send me into my room to rub one out quietly. So then one night the unexpected happened. I was on the phone in my room with my best friend with the door slightly closed and I finally admitted to her that I had serious feelings for him over a span of an hour. I shit you not I got up while I was on the phone to get a drink and when I opened the door there he was leaned up against the wall by my door with a look of concern on his face. I immediately hung up the phone and walked out as if nothing had happened into the kitchen with him following me. I never made eye contact with him as I poured my drink. I grab my drink and start heading back to my room. He then blocks the hallway entrance to my bedroom and blurts out "were you ever gonna tell me?" and I reply "tell you what?" He tells me " I heard you on the phone." I turn around because I didn't want him to see my fear or the tears welling up in my eyes cause I knew that the shit had hit the fan. "Heard what?" He replys "Please Don't do that, I heard what you said about me on the phone." I compose myself real quick and turn around. I lie and explain to him that I was talking about one of the girls at work. He tells me in a very stern voice "We've been friends for how long now don't fucking start lieing to me now. I was standing outside the door long enough to hear most of your conversation. So I'm gonna ask you again. do you have feelings for me?" At this point I can't hold back any emotions so I sit down on the couch and just let the tears fall and quietly told him "yes, I have feelings for you. but they are just feelings that I wasn't going to act on. It's just a little crush that will go away eventually."
I couldn't take it anymore get up to rush to my room in shame, but he hops over the loveseat and embraces me really tight which caught me off guard. I just gave in and started sobbing like a little bitch on his shoulder. He tells me that everything is ok and I shouldn't feel ashamed at how I feel. He asks me to look at him and tells me just because I have feelings for him doesn't change how he feels about me at all. I helped him out when he was down and out and for that he has much love for me. He was saying all the right things until I stopped him before he said he was flattered (I hate that phrase with a passion).

We talked it out all night and he camped out in my room as well. We both eventually fell asleep on the bed. I woke up suddenly because I felt that he was little too close to me. I scooted over a little to get some room, but he just scooted right back over next to me. Now I'm getting excited because I can feel his breath on the back of my neck as I'm laying on my side. He then moves closer and takes his hand and interlocks it with mine and pulls me as close to him as possible. "Is it ok if I hold you?" to which I quickly respond "ya". I am melting inside screaming in my head "There is a god!!" I couldn't believe what was happening. He turns me around and says "I'm game if you are". I just smiled and we started to kiss. Once his hand slowly went down my underwear there was no turning back. It was on and poppin!!!!

We continued doing stuff with each other off and on for a few months until he met this girl. I wasn't bothered by it at first and we would talk about her alot. That was until he started bringing her over to the house regularly. The more I got to know this girl the more pissed off I would get because she was a needy whiny bitch and I couldn't stand her. Granted it was more because she was taking what I had wanted all this time, but I still couldn't stand the girl. So one day I decided to come home early and I had my friends with me and he flies out of the hallway towards me talking up a storm. I knew something was off cause he kept trying to divert me to the living room. So I just let him continue talking and I just happen to look up towards the hallway and I see this bitch coming from my bedroom trying to sneak into his bedroom. I pretend I didn't notice anything and then he finally let me go to to my room. As soon as I walk in there is this strong stench of Issey Miyake Perfume and boodissy!!! I walk out and slam the door behind me. He comes out and is all "what's going on?" I just went off " You were fucking that bitch in my bed!!!! She's gotta go. She's gotta get the fuck outta here right now."

He then escorts her out but not before she tried to say she was really sorry. I was so pissed I almost sent my girlfriends after her. Him and I argued in his room cause my room smelled like that gutter skanks nasty ass. I tried my hardest to make my argument all about them, but he knew it was about "us". There was no us as far as he was concerned and deep down I knew as well, but I was still holding on to the fantasy there could be an us. How could I have been so stupid to take that chance of sleeping with him knowing nothing big was going to come of it? I tried to blame him for everything, but I couldn't. It was just as much my fault as it was his. Yes I could say he took advantage of the situation, but so did I more so than he did. I didn't talk to him for a week and It was so hard to be around each other. I was tired of him always apologizing for messing with my feelings or for leading me on like I was going to have a nervous breakdown over him or I was going to do something stupid but that had already been done when I fell for him.

A few months after this he decided to move out and back to Montana. Our friendship was never the same afterwards. We lived together 2 years and it was most exciting and dissapointing time in my life. I vowed from that point on I would never let myself fall for a straight guy and I haven't. He is now engaged and has a son and I am so happy for him.

So this is why I tell you to proceed with caution with this guy. If u like him alot it's better to have him as a friend then not at all. I had a great 6 year friendship go down the tubes all because I wanted to fulfill a fantasy. Not cool at all.

I wish u all the luck in the world though. Hopefully you can get through this crush unscathed. Just don't do things out of character in order to obtain him you'll only get hurt in the end.

 

[fetaby]

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