Help me make sure I don't blow it

[Shookone88]

Basically I think I have met THE one and only person for me - yet we haven't even met yet. (Yes it's strange but I can't explain how it makes me feel)

I've always thought this one guy that I've seen is absolutely gorgeous, with a perfect personality. He works in television (no, not a movie star, or anything even close to that). I've heard stories of him being gay, but I wasn't 100% sure. I've heard people say that he lives a sad & lonely existence. He is an older guy and I'm attracted to older men. One day I finally got over the nervousness and sent him a message over FB and he messaged me back, and we have been talking a little bit ever since then.

I want this to end up into a long lasting relationship, I am just head over heels here. I simply need advice. I don't know what else to say. How do I not screw this up?? I know all of this is up to me, I just need help.

I feel like if this fails for me, life would basically be over...he's just perfect in my eyes. I've been doing some dating and searching for 'my other half' for a long time now, and I feel like there is nobody in the world in comparison to this one.

 

[bw92116]

There is no "one and only" for you or for anyone else. That is dangerous thinking. Your life is about you, not about him. Snap out of it now.

 

[Rolyo85]

Or maybe he's awesome. But at this point I get the impression you have no idea what kind of person he is, and instead you've built an imaginary persona based on your own impressions. A persona he probably has little to do with.

So if you want anything, get over the obsession, and try to get to know him without freaking him out. I mean, you don't even know if he's gay!

 

[superboypr]

I do agree with you guys. There's no "one and only". Some relationships are like rehearsals until you find the right person for you. But, please don't built an imaginary persona of him, don't speculate too much. It will not do you good.

And above all things, if this does not work I believe there are more than 3 billion guys in these World that would love to meet someone like you.

;-) good luck <3

 

[HunterM]

I feel like if this fails for me, life would basically be over...he's just perfect in my eyes. I've been doing some dating and searching for 'my other half' for a long time now, and I feel like there is nobody in the world in comparison to this one.

You are right. You need serious ( ) help...( ). You haven't even met the guy. ( ).

 

[rareboy]

I'm with everyone else.

So meet him.

Take it from there.

 

[JC2008]

Sorry to be harsh but reading the content of the OP it sounds like desperation to me. Don't read soo much into this guy, he might not be gay, he might be single for a reason, he might not want to be in a relationship etc. It might work out who knows but don't just jump in head first or you will push him away.

 

[Seasoned]

Whoa!!! Please use your inner brake. While anything is technically possible you are too far ahead of yourself. First things first. Meet him. Realistically assess him. Go on many dates if it progresses that far. What you have to guard against is stalking and obsession. Please be realistic.

 

[Shookone88]

Had dinner tonight. Pretty good guy.

 

[rareboy]

^ He's not tied up in your bedroom now by any chance, is he?

 

[yhtang]

Had dinner tonight. Pretty good guy.

Did you mean you had dinner or you had him for dinner?

Good to know things are going well. Best of luck.