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HELP please i had sex with

So he was horny and it sounded like a great idea until he had sex with you and now he's consumed with guilt and shame, etc.

Those feelings will subside. Maybe sooner than you think. I think you have a right to push the issue, as you have done. After all, you're having feelings too. Try to back off for a few days now and see where it goes. You guys will have to eventually talk. Good Luck!
 
but guys it has been a few days now it happened on fri
then i tried texting, ringing and nothing i thought i hope he dos not start avoiding me ill give him a few days
then i saw him and he ignored me thats what has set me off

the thing is i do feel like i need answers from him because he started the whole thing off not me
 
I don't know how you can force him to give you those answers. I totally understand how you are feeling but what else can you do?
 
jaxon29 said:
Maybe he felt like he had tendencies and wanted to try it with another guy. Somehow he knew you were gay and thought it would be a way to experiment. He initiated it and apparently freaked or is embarrassed. Just go about your business and see what happens. He may need some time to process it.
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It is very possible that he is questioning, and now that he has his answer, he doesn't need you anymore. Sorry biggebruv but some people have less problems with "using family" especially if he can justify it, I didn't use you, you wanted it too.

ow u start ignoring him... after he sees that he'll either:

a) want your attention again and talk to u.

b) continue to ingnore you but at least u will both be in the same place.

good luck
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Bingo, you trying to press him will not help matters. You have already tried, he has ignored you, you keep on nagging him won't suddenly get you the things you want.

If he wants to live in denial land and pretend nothing happens, you can not change that. Remember it takes two to have a healthy relationship, without two it just spirals downward. He isn't willing to contribute, yet you are, nothing you can do can change the situation, it is only when he is willing to contribute that things change.
 
i know and you know whats made this week even worse i am off college for 2 weeks.
and i have nothing to ocupie my mind with.
 
ok im gona just let it all go try not to think about it.
i dont even wanna be with him again(as in like fuck buddies) thats all i really need to tell him and im sure of it that he feels the same way.

i think he thinks that i wanna be with him now and its so not like that thats what is getting to me.
 
Don't talk to him right now, even if you just want to tell him it should never happen again. Right now he doesn't want to see you at all. You will talk to him eventually, but not now.
 
well its been a few days and i seen my cousin again in his flat he asked me to come around to talk.

and what hapened he said hes gay and he,d like to fuck me now on his bed
i was adament that i was never gona do anything but i just could not resist
<<yes i know it was the wrong option>>seeing his fine tight ass again feeling his tight abs. YOU KNOW HOW IT IS.

we did everything we even took a shower together afwards and then he asked me to rim him he wanted to try that.

and now he wants me to go around tonight for another fuck night
 
wow, i don't even have words, but you do need to at least have some communication on what this is. so that you don't get a mind fuck.
 
I'm not sure what the big deal is.

It's not like he's your brother and it's not there's the chance of an unwanted pregnancy... you're into him, he's into you and you're enjoying each other's comapny.

I doubt you should think of this as a permanant arrangement, but if you're not ready to start dating, I'm not sure why you're so upset.
 
biggebruv said:
well its been a few days and i seen my cousin again in his flat he asked me to come around to talk.

and what hapened he said hes gay and he,d like to fuck me now on his bed...
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Sounds like it wasn't much of a talk. You need to talk properly so you can both understand where this is going.

I see no problem in being with a cousin. The family connection is not direct. At the same time I agree with others that it probably won't last.

Man, where do I get cousins like this :-)
 
He's probably thinking "It seemed like a good idea at the time..."

but of course it really wasn't for him because he's not ready to face his sexuality.
 
biggebruv said:
but guys it has been a few days now it happened on fri
then i tried texting, ringing and nothing i thought i hope he dos not start avoiding me ill give him a few days
then i saw him and he ignored me thats what has set me off

the thing is i do feel like i need answers from him because he started the whole thing off not me
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Move on. Just move on. Do not be a prisoner to a fleeting illicit experience. Move on with your life. You are sowing the seeds of a bitter harvest to come.
 
I'm sorry you're goign through this state of confusion - oh, how I hate being confused!

But unfortunately that's just part and parcel of life.

Let it be, and over time, you'll understand!
 
Well - he's not comfortable being gay and the likelihood is that he'll drop you again or act as if he never knew you. I presume he's somewhat older than you - his having the condom to hand when he came round the first time suggests to me that the fuck was entirely pre-meditated on his part.

If you continue with the relationship then there's a high likelihood of you both being outed within the family context. Though his kinship with you is irrelevant from a moral viewpoint, it's the fall-out from other family members and the effect it's likely to have on you that you should be considering.

My feeling is that you're being used and that this is not an appropriate relationship for you. It's clear that you want to be wanted. But if you're heading off to college you want to engage fully with college-life, having fun and learning new stuff - not mooning about, depressed, lonely and unavailable because of some long-distance relationship that has the cards stacked against it. YOU should be the one who cuts contact so that YOU remain in control of what's happening in your life.
 
its been a horible few days for me my cousin beat me up alot.

we were having sex barebaking and he was pumping me so hard i told him to stop ur hurting me and i started trying to move away from him but he grabed me by my arms and pressed me onto the bed i kept shouting stop at him but he just would,t then he got agressive and punched me in the back repeatly and told me to SHUT THE FUCK UP then he comtinued fucking me. when he came he smerded all over my back i said im never going near u again u prick.
he then walked over to me and hugged me i tried pushing him away he grabbed my penis and i start hitting him telling him to get away pushed me against the wall and pulled my bottoms back down he then gave me a blowjob i was so scared i didt no wat to do i started tellinghim to leave me alone please.

when he finished he punched me in the stomach a few times and said that was great sexy we shuld do it again real soon.

i just walked out a nervous wreck i ws shaking all the way home.
i dont wanna telll me friends/family bout dis because im not out and it s my cousin
what would they think i just wouldt be able to face it telling them.
i cant belive hes done this to me i just never seen this type of behaviour from him bfor
 
I think you need real life help with this, biggebruv. Look in your phone book for a rape crisis phone line and talk to someone about this.

Please don't be alone with this. Get some help.
 
Sweety you need to call the police. You have been raped. When a person says no it means no. I am very sorry this happened to you, how sad.
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