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so i met this guy. we. we met and we clicked right away.... thats what i thought. well thats what he told me. he said he liked me alot and everything :( so we dated. we saw each other almost every day. we started dating i believe. may 11. we walked on my block for like 3 hours. and then cuddled and his car. we kissed too. ( that was the first time we met) On that same weeek, we went to a club called tigerheat here in calfornia. he asked me and i said sure. i met his friends. and for the first time i felt like someone actually did like me. he was dancing and being cute. throughout the night, he started feeling sick. i decide to buy him a water and gave him a mini backrub. he was all like. " aww ur winning my heart by doing this" i had the biggest smile upon my face.

btw hes 18 and im 20. going to be 21 in dec. and hes going to be 19, dec 18


On one of the night we did oral. thats it. i believe it was the Friday of that week. i cummed only.
i know its too much info but you need to know. On Sunday he asked me to go with him to pride. i live in California. it was long beach pride. I wasn't planning on going. and he asked me to go with him. we went together. During pride, he was holding my hand. he kissed me. and everything. but in a way i felt something weird. i even told his best friend. i feel like when i hold his hand, he like pulls me away. but then again i felt mutual feelings. like i felt like nothing was wrong. Then he said he wasn't feeling pride. cause we went to the dance floor.and he said he wasn't feeling it cause he doesn't like dancing in the daytime. well thats what he told me. i was with my best friend. so he said lets go out tonight and i was like alright. he said he was gonna drop me off. and then he was gonna send me the address so i can meet him there.. we were gonna go to this bar in hollywood. and i told him not to pick me up cause i had to be home early. and i didnt wanna ruin his night. so he drops me off at my place. and then i asked him for the address a while after.. he says he was tired and that he was sleeepy. and that he didnt wanna go anymore

btw, on the way home. he kept texting. and we had a thing where we said rawr to each other. as being cute. anyways. .. when he dropped me off.. i asked him who he was texting.. he said a friend from the club. and i wa like alright. and then i said. btw i don care. i even said sorrry for asking. then i said. i guess the jeaslousy is kicking in.
he said its okay

so if you guys all know, there was an earthquake..that same day ...
i had to go drop my best friend to her place. and then thats when the earthquake hit. i texted him and asked him if he was okay. he said he was. and then he asked me. i was yea. then i said btw youncan go to the bar if you want. i don't have to go with you everywhere. and then he was like nah. its fine. me and my best friend are gonna go eat.
and i was like.
alrightyyy.

anyways so then as i go into my car. i ask him. do u want me to go over to your place? we can watch some movies. and just hang. he said no..
he was all like
"just go home in case theirs another earthquake"
i was like alrighthhyy

i went home. i texted him and said i missed him
to make it short, he didnt reply to me until the next day.
i texted him and was all like. i hope ur okay.. please text me when u can. i wanna talk to u. and i was saying cute stuff. and i know he was reading them cause his phone was on.

so, until the next day he reply.. first thing he says is. sorry for last night. and then i was all like "are you okay" "are we okay"

he said " im still in love with my ex boyfriend, i dont know what to do. i need time to think"

i was kind of hurt. i didnt know what to say. and i told him. i wanna make u happy. i felt for u cause u came into my life. i didnt call upon u or anything.

i decide to give him space. i still texted him and said small things like

"i miss u"

so on thursday i decide to go to tigerheat ( the same club)...with all these people from my dance class.
as i walk in the club.. seriously he texted me and says

"hey"
i was like
"ah im at tigerheat, if u wanna see me im where u felt sick and blah"

so anyways...

i was like "we will meet in the restroom". i was happy cause i like him, still doo. ( idk why) him. idk why. anyways. i see him. and i see his friends. his two friends are drunk. so then i thought. hes probably drunk too. when i saw him. i gave him a hug..and we kissed. he kept looking at me and then hugging me back and then we kept doing that. i asked him if he was drunk and he said no.
he said "just buzzed". then all of sudden he was like
i need to tell u something and i was like. what?
hes all like "i love u!" and i was like "wait until that tooo fast to even say that?" and he was like"noo". then i asked him about his ex. he said they saw each other but he thought of me while being with him. so the whole night we hung. he said sorrry and i was totally happy

so then the next day. we decide to hang. we went to see that terminator movie and i felt mutual feelings.
then we went to pick up his friend. we went to do hookah.

On our way there, i asked him. so is the 21st our official day?

and he said "yes it is"
then i said " aww alrightyy, good cause thats my fav number and u picked a good day"


so we went to do hookah. everything was good, he was a little quiet.
then when we were there, hes was all like
"i will be right back" and i was like alrighty. he went to his car.

he comes back and grabs my hand. and puts a ring. i dont know what the ring meant but i guesss maybe a promise i dont know. i dont know really. i was like so happy. cause i was like yay! this was this friday.

so then we go to his place. and we cuddle then u know... things happen. only oral. i did stuff to him i never done to anyone. and of course he was like moooding and kissing me back.

u need to know that. so then i leave his house.

during all this , he isnt drunk or anything

so anyways after we cum. i was laying on him. and i was telling him scary stories. being cute and all.

there was this moment wheere i was doing stuff to him. and he like flipped. and i was like whats wrong. he was like nothing. then i was like. am i not turning u on? and he was like you are. he laughed. so then we like went on with the oral.

anyways..

then as i leave his place. hes all like well text me when u get home. i get home and no reply.

throughout the days we were toether. which was one day.we said "i love u" to each other. but i felt like i was saying it first and he just said it back.

the next morning i wake up and serioiusly we are fine. he even invites me to this place. an art gallery.. and i was like yea sure. but he kept changing his mind. we even planned this whole week up. we were gonna go to disneyland on tuesday. then today we were gonna go to six flags. then yesterday we were gonna go to his nephews birthday.

anyways, so around 2pm. i was like i love u

then hes all like "i love u like a friend not like a boyfriend". then he was like "dont u feel the same way?" i was like uh. i dont think i said anything to him but said "i dont get it"

then he was like" i didnt feel a connection with you." i was like "only on one night, ur gonna base everything?, we dont even know much about each other"
he said "sex is importnat to me" then i was like "but we didnt even have sex. it was only oral" i didnt say this to him, only thought it. i mean he was mooding while i was doing stuff to him.

then he was like im bi. im just bi curuious. i like a girl and i was like wait. but you had a boyfriennd before. and he was like well we were on and off.
then he kept saying i dont know to all the questions i was asking him. like why he said i love u to me and the ring.

he was like.
just pretend a st8 friend gave it to you.
and i was like what?

so he also changed his status on myspace and facebook and put" into a relationship". after the club on the second time i saw him and we talked about things.

he has only changed back his status to single on myspace.

oh yea

also during the time we didnt talk, and i gave him time to think. on his myspace and facebook. he posted something about matching fingers and which ones were the best. . this makes me think.. perhaps he is using me as a rebound or idk. i asked him the same night he told me about he liking me or "loving me" and he quickly said "NOTHING" i was like alrightyy. i didnt so anything else because i mean i didnt wanna freak him out.

anyways this is whats going on now.

its affecting me

i text him small things like "hows ur day going" he says "eh"

then today i asked him

" do u think of me" and he was like " not really but u pop here and there"

then i keep asking him. just at random times. if we can seee each other. lets talk in person.

he doesn't reply, leaves me hanging.

thank you for listening.

please give me you opinion. whats going to happen. what he might be thinking. what i should do.

i will be/make me happy.

:)

i feel alone and it sucks.
 
Is there a off button somewhere along here.:p

lol---:wave:


Sorry I just had to,

My honest opinion is that you are both to immature here. And need to go up a bit. Just reread your post....:-({|=



Reminds me of that kid on youtube, "fred" with that high pitched voice..
 
Stop saying I love you to anyone you have only known less than a few weeks. You are infatuated. He sounds like he was, and now he's not. He's also confused apparently, and he sounds like a mess. He's supposed to be; he's eighteen. You're a little bit of a mess as well; that's okay, you're young and trying to find your way. However, you have got to be a little more protective of your heart. A guy who is worth it will earn it over time; if you give it away so easily, then you're only going to get hurt over and over again.

And this is just some loving advice for how to get more people to read and respond to your posts in this forum--condense. It's not necessary to tell us every little thing that was said. What this might show is that you're obsessing over every little detail as you replay it in your mind. Instead, look at the bigger picture of what is happening in the relationship. Getting lost in the minor details is a good way to keep spinning your wheels instead of just saying, "Okay, time to move on."

And it is time to move on. This guy is not the one for you, especially with how he's now talking to you in texts. Be glad you found this out in the first few weeks. Time to get back out there and find someone who is not so flaky.

But keep "I love you" in your pocket for a while. (*8*)
 
Gee, same responses to your thread here too.

I get the sense that you just never stop chattering. And pushing. You've probably just exhausted the guy.

By the way, drop the 'it was like', he was 'like', I was 'like'. Everything is not a simile.
 
this might be cliche, but he's probably just not that into you anymore.

i've never met a "just bi curious" guy who buys other guys jewelry and gives it to them on dates AFTER taking them to a gay pride parade.

my advice: RUN. run for dear life. he's obviously playing some gnarly games and either way it's a million times better to leave than be left. especially by guys who are clearly a mess.
 
Stop wasting your time with him. Consider him someone you fooled around with and that's it. See what else is out there. Don't call him, let him call you.
 
you really need to not smother the next guy. he might have been into you before but he got annoyed by all the texting and love stuff way too soon. I know it's hard, but you have to make a conscious effort to not do what you did.
 
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