HELP PLS: work friend giving off vibes

[wassup]

i need some help here. im bi and im blk. theres this fine ass wht boy at work and i keep getting vibes from him but im not sure if im jus reading too much into things.

okay so hes very touchy feely, makes comments like "i want you" in a jokingly manner i guess, but he only does it with me none of the other guys. but in coversations we talk bout girls. but the whole time hes just gazing into my eyes when we talk. like hes lookin for somethin beyond what he can see type of thing. today he walked by and his hand touched my ass. there was enough room for him not to touch me and it wasnt jus like a pat. it was like he slid his hand across it. also today he randomly said to me "i wonder if that guy is gay?". the guy he was referring to isnt flamboyant or anything either he jus looks like a reg guy to me. And why would he wonder that out loud to me? why would it matter? and i also catch him jus randomly looking at me. he gives me compliments on my physical appearance too. also today he kept asking me to take his picture on my phone...im soo confused. hes a frat guy too if that helps any.

i need help with this because im not too familiar with what wht guys do with friends. do wht guys do things like this with guys they are friends with? because i KNOW blk guys dont. none of the above would happen with a straight blk guy. is he making moves and waiting on some type of response? and if so what type of response should i give him? i like him hes a cool guy but i dont wanna put myself out there without being too sure. i would like to hang out with him and it doesnt have to be sexual at all although i would prefer that but i dont know how to approach him and ask to hang out.

any suggestions ppl? anybody have any idea whats goin on with him? what should i do?

P.S. pls dont comment on grammatical errors. this is a message board so i didnt take time to write this post as if i were turning it in for a grade. im actually very intelligent despite all of the above errors.

 

[MarKo17]

Ask him out for a beer or somethin.

 

[wassup]

okay will do. but what should i be lookin for while at the bar? thanx for replying btw

 

[justndav]

watch his eyes, the eyes dont lie. If he's constantly watching and making eye contact with decent/hot looking guys then I'd take that as a big sign. Most straight guys I've ever hung out with dont hold direct eye contact with other guys long... its not a comfortable thing for them to do. Eyes are the window to the soul.

 

[miguelfukt]

hes giving you signs for sure.

 

[paatreides]

The only advice I will offer is this: The workplace is nebulous ground, man. Being friends with co-workers is one thing, being fuck-buddies is totally another.

If you have zero chance of ever having to report to one another, then moving from friend to FWB is fine.

So, ask him out for a drink after work some Friday night. Or, if you want to start on an even safer level, ask him to go to lunch with you someday.

 

[HornyHenry]

Go slowly and let things progress naturally. Let him make the moves and go from there. You'll have a better chance of scoring than if you try to rush things or come on too strong. From how you wrote about him I think he wants to share some intimacy with you.

 

[AngelFromAbove]

i need some help here. im bi and im blk. theres this fine ass wht boy at work and i keep getting vibes from him but im not sure if im jus reading too much into things.

okay so hes very touchy feely, makes comments like "i want you" in a jokingly manner i guess, but he only does it with me none of the other guys. but in coversations we talk bout girls. but the whole time hes just gazing into my eyes when we talk. like hes lookin for somethin beyond what he can see type of thing. today he walked by and his hand touched my ass. there was enough room for him not to touch me and it wasnt jus like a pat. it was like he slid his hand across it. also today he randomly said to me "i wonder if that guy is gay?". the guy he was referring to isnt flamboyant or anything either he jus looks like a reg guy to me. And why would he wonder that out loud to me? why would it matter? and i also catch him jus randomly looking at me. he gives me compliments on my physical appearance too. also today he kept asking me to take his picture on my phone...im soo confused. hes a frat guy too if that helps any.

i need help with this because im not too familiar with what wht guys do with friends. do wht guys do things like this with guys they are friends with? because i KNOW blk guys dont. none of the above would happen with a straight blk guy. is he making moves and waiting on some type of response? and if so what type of response should i give him? i like him hes a cool guy but i dont wanna put myself out there without being too sure. i would like to hang out with him and it doesnt have to be sexual at all although i would prefer that but i dont know how to approach him and ask to hang out.

any suggestions ppl? anybody have any idea whats goin on with him? what should i do?

P.S. pls dont comment on grammatical errors. this is a message board so i didnt take time to write this post as if i were turning it in for a grade. im actually very intelligent despite all of the above errors.

I'm not going to comment on the grammatical errors, but I'll comment on this statement. Stop treating him like he's a foreign species. He's a human being and there are some Caucasian men who do not act like you described.

 

[Toddxxx]

He wants you, man. Go for it.

 

[MisterMajestic]

I agree with everyone else...Your first step is to hang out together then go from there. Let him continue making those "suggestive" moves @ work..You should continue doing what you're doing.

I find it interesting that he's questioning another co-workers sexuality. You said that particular co-worker is not "out" and there's no reason to wonder if he is Gay or not...

So you already know he's wondering if you're Gay..That's why he's brushing up against you and saying off the wall shit...

Like I said...Don't make any moves on him @ work..See if he wants to hang-out after work. If he says NO, then nip the Flirtation Shit in the Bud...If you like the "attention" he's showing you then let it continue...

I need help with this because im not too familiar with what wht guys do with friends. do wht guys do things like this with guys they are friends with? because i KNOW blk guys dont. none of the above would happen with a straight blk guy.

Uuum...Dude...You don't have at least 1 White Friend? By now you should know that a Friend is a Friend regardless of skin Color......All of my Straight friends pretty much behave the same way regardless of Color...They Respect me the same way i respect them.....If you have a Friend that is interested in you then you will pick up on things.....That's another story in itself....But for the most part your friends are the people you hang with and enjoy having in your life......

In 2010 "Bisexuality" is all over the place...It knows no Color....You really don't know who is Gay or Bi these days unless they tell you..

Your Co-Worker is your Co-Worker. Do you consider him a friend? Would you even want to have a White Friend or do you just want to Fuck a White Dude for the 1st time?

 

[wassup]

thank you all for replying.

if the thing with his eyes is true then he def wants to do somethin. and i do have wht friends but they have grown up around lots of blk ppl. they were in the minority thats why i was asking how wht guys treat each other.

but i will ask him if he wants to put one in the air or go to the bar when i see him at work next week. wish i didnt have to wait so long tho. i tried looking for him on facebook and he isnt on there unless his page is private to where he doesnt show up in searches. i will let you all know how it goes and if anyone else has anything to add it would be greatly appreciated.