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I created a thread a while ago about kissing a guy for the first time. Anyway, we've seen each other a couple times and so far we have only been making out (which is awesome). Next week we are meeting again and I am renting a hotel room since we live in different cities and we will be meeting halfway. Since there is a good chance we will take the next step and finally have sex, it will be my first time with a guy. Any tips on the dos and donts of gay sex would be greatly appreciated lol. The other guy doesn't have much experience with guys either. I don't think we will be ready for anal sex but I guess anything else if fair game...

Thanks!
 
Always prepare for the most unlikely outcome. Bring lube and condoms just in case.

If you're planning to bottom, you should have had a bowel movement earlier that day. Make sure you eat normally and drink plenty of water 36 hours beforehand.

There's plenty to do without sex. There's hand jobs, oral, rimming, etc. Just have fun and don't feel like you need to be pressured to go anal.
 
Just_Believe18 said:
Always prepare for the most unlikely outcome. Bring lube and condoms just in case.

If you're planning to bottom, you should have had a bowel movement earlier that day. Make sure you eat normally and drink plenty of water 36 hours beforehand.

There's plenty to do without sex. There's hand jobs, oral, rimming, etc. Just have fun and don't feel like you need to be pressured to go anal.
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I agree.

Personally, when ever I bottom I like to use a water douche before hand and show/clean. Some guys are into the whole 'dirty' aspect of anal sex but I'm personally not one of them, and a clean work area is always a plus.

When having sex, if you're not used to bottoming, pushing out against anything going in will relax your sphincter muscles and let for easier penetration. Go slowly, and don't be afraid to talk to each other. Use lots of water-based anal lube and always a condom.

Have fun!
 
Well, you should be prepared for all possibilities.

But here's the thing- going from making out with someone to a hotel room for a virgin is a big step. The reality is that something is going to happen. The question for you is, "What are you ready for"?
 
KaraBulut said:
Well, you should be prepared for all possibilities.

But here's the thing- going from making out with someone to a hotel room for a virgin is a big step. The reality is that something is going to happen. The question for you is, "What are you ready for"?
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Well I've always thought I would wait for a serious relationship before having sex but I've known this guy for a while now and I feel really comfortable with him. I don't know if a relationship is possible since he has mentioned he has mostly been with girls so far. We've made out a couple times and he knows I will be staying alone in a hotel room so I think it is very likely he will come over. Our chats have been very flirty and I think maybe having oral sex is a possibility. Anal sex, I don't think I'm ready for it. For all I know, we'll just be making out again, which is fine with me since I love it but I just want to be prepared for anything.
 
I'm having bad feelings about this,...to you,in emotional level.First time is First time,that'why it it is called such.Other guy,been with girls,does he have figured out his sexual identity?Worst case scenario is,that you fall in love with him,and he decides to be with girls.

On the other hand,you two could have hot night,and no bad feelings afterwards whatsoever.but it's between these two.

My 0,02$
 
mcbg22 said:
Well I've always thought I would wait for a serious relationship before having sex but I've known this guy for a while now and I feel really comfortable with him. I don't know if a relationship is possible since he has mentioned he has mostly been with girls so far. We've made out a couple times and he knows I will be staying alone in a hotel room so I think it is very likely he will come over. Our chats have been very flirty and I think maybe having oral sex is a possibility. Anal sex, I don't think I'm ready for it. For all I know, we'll just be making out again, which is fine with me since I love it but I just want to be prepared for anything.
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Well, if you want him to come over and you want him to spend the night, ask him.

By asking, you open the door to talk about whether both of you are ready for that next step. That could end in an agreement, "We just want to make out and cuddle all night", it could be "We're ready to get naked and fuck like rabbits all night" or it could be "Let's see how things go".

It's a big step for you both. While there are a lot of times where two relatively inexperienced guys can make it all work, there are as many cases where one or both persons come out of the experience hurt or disappointed. Probably the key thing is that you don't have to do everything in one night. And sometimes going into it with the knowledge of what you're both expecting give both of you the right to say, "I'm not ready" and helps avoid that awkward morning-after situation.
 
Cuddling naked with some heavy kissing and oral sex is nice. You two should discuss your respective expectations prior to the meeting. Best of luck!
 
Hmmm so we met on Friday and we kind of had sex. We made out, jerked each other off and I sucked him. However, I had a technical problem. I couldn't get hard even though I was super horny. I guess it was because I was nervous and I kept thinking about stuff? It was pretty awkward... :X
 
Coward92 said:
It was the nervous state of mind. It happened to me too. Try to loosen up and it will be allright.
Oh and one more thing! Don't obsess over the "I didn't get hard" thing because it will get worse. Just let things go naturally and relax.
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Thanks. I'm not too worried about it. The other guy didn't have that much experience either so I don't think he's judging me for it. I think we'll be more comfortable the next time. Another awkward thing is that while he was jerking me off, I had a lot of pre-cum and he thought I had came lol. I had to explain to him that it wasn't cum since he doesn't really have pre-cum.
 
I had to explain the precum thing to an ex before too. But don't dwell on it, it's probably just you being nervous. Relax next time and enjoy it :)
 
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