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Help with Alcoholism- Desperate

You may wanna look into it, but honestly though, until your Ma is sick and tired of being sick and tired, nothing will change..
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This is the key. Yeah, suicidal/homicidal individuals can be committed here in CA. I think that is standard. However, as it applies to alcoholics, you can't really do that long term b/c they end up sobering up and you can't hold them against their will if they aren't suicidal/homicidal.
 
I'm a long time member that has never posted but I have offer my help. I am an addict and have been clean for almost 2 months. It has been very difficult but I'm working at it and I want to stay sober. I'm married and have 2 small children. I almost lost them because my addiction had changed me into someone else. That is what has happened to your mom. She is not the same person she was 10 years ago. The addiction has changed her in ways I bet you never thought your mom could have become. I did and said things I would never have thought I would have never in a million years have done. This disease is a cold hard bastard. It doesn't care who it attacks and its effects can be devastating. The best advice I have for you is to keep talking to her. Show her how she is hurting you and the rest of the family. She has to be shown how the addiction has taken over her entire life and is KILLING her. Once I realized how devastated my family had become because of me, I knew I had to do something to change.

I don't believe in interventions. I think they just piss people off and turn them away from recovery.

There may come a time when the divorce is the only option left. The hurt, lies, cover ups and drunken outbursts have added up and for his own and the rest of the family, the spouse has to move on. The addiction is slowly killing the entire family and they have to get out or get sucked into it.

I pray daily for the addict that is still suffering and for the family that is suffering with them.

Like I said keep talking to her. Show her how she is killing herself and the family as well. But remember she is not going to want to hear it and will be resistant to your help. That is the addiction talking. Your mom will never stop being your mom. The addiction will make her due and say things that will hurt you terribly and you may have to let go. For your own peace and happiness.

I hope and pray for you and your family.

Grumpy
 
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