Help with my 'School crush'.... :)

[friendlyboy90]

I'm not sure if you should do the movies just yet because you won't get much a chance to talk. Are you old enough to drink? If you live near him you can just ask to hang out at his place or yours first and maybe watch a movie there or have some drinks. I'm just suggesting things I should have done when I was still in college. Hope it works out for you..

Thanks. That does sound better.
Also I forgot to add. He kind of seems the quite type. Like when he's talking he can't think of anything to say which is the problem that I have. We're both not chatty enough. Maybe he's different outside of school..we'll see.

 

[spencer]

sorry to tell you this, but you're not being a very good friend. ode to janet, what have you done for him lately. He does all this stuff to let you know he's interested in being your friend and I don't know if you're just socially awkward or whatnot, but it's all this up and down stuff where you hang on his every whim.

don't you think he's tried enough to walk with you, to ask you questions he knows the answer to. He got your phone number and texts you, meanwhile you post, I need suggestions on what to do and if he's just playing with you.

Be his friend before he tires of trying to.

You're still on the we'll see portion if we can be friends outside of school. What are you waiting for, you've already gotten enough signs of him extending his friendship.

Can you elaborate on why you are not reciprocating further his friend advances to the point of hanging out more?

 

[friendlyboy90]

sorry to tell you this, but you're not being a very good friend. ode to janet, what have you done for him lately. He does all this stuff to let you know he's interested in being your friend and I don't know if you're just socially awkward or whatnot, but it's all this up and down stuff where you hang on his every whim.

don't you think he's tried enough to walk with you, to ask you questions he knows the answer to. He got your phone number and texts you, meanwhile you post, I need suggestions on what to do and if he's just playing with you.

Be his friend before he tires of trying to.

You're still on the we'll see portion if we can be friends outside of school. What are you waiting for, you've already gotten enough signs of him extending his friendship.

Can you elaborate on why you are not reciprocating further his friend advances to the point of hanging out more?

Yeah, you are absolutely right. Thanks for replying. My problem is that because I'm interested him in a romantic way, I tend to get nervous and scared around him. I've actually waited for him to ask to hang out...which is stupid, I know. But I gotta do it If I want to...if I go on with my life acting like this...I won't get anywhere in life.
This is the most awkward situation I've ever been in that it's becoming embarrassing. lol!

 

[friendlyboy90]

A little update: so we're a little bit closer now. We hanged out more yesterday. Before class, he texted me saying if I have the homework. I was like yeah sure I'll let you copy. So we met before class started and we literally went into this empty DARK class room(omg) so he could sit and copy the homework. We talked a bit in the room. I seriously wanted to just jump on him in the dark. LOL! Anyways...
When class ended, we were the only two left again. And he looked and smiled at me when I got up from my seat.
This is probably the last update Im gonna give unless something huge happens. What do you guys think? Any last thoughts? lol!

 

[kevinsexh8]

Well it's official. I have to stop obsessing over this guy. He was in class today and he totally acted like I wasn't there or we never talked before. Went home without saying hi or bye. I observed him and he really does check out this hot blond girl.

I have been kind of depressed because he is in all of my thoughts. It's real love I'm feeling. But I don't think it'll go anywhere...I must stop. :/
Maybe it'll change and something might happen but I can only hope.

I feel the same way with a hot gay man. and I never have a School Crush, But I had a gym Crush but it wasn't that deep.

 

[aijalon18]

I dunno what else to say. Most of the things you have described just seem like him being friendly. But i do wanna advise you to not make it a habit of him always copying your hw and notes.

i dont wanna scare you but there is a possibility that he knows/suspects you are gay and realizes/assumes you are into him. And therefore he could be knowingly taking advantage of you.

But if you do wanna pursue it. i think your best bet is to invite him to the dining hall. everybody's gotta eat. that will force you to talk about more than class and really get to know each other.

 

[friendlyboy90]

I dunno what else to say. Most of the things you have described just seem like him being friendly. But i do wanna advise you to not make it a habit of him always copying your hw and notes.

i dont wanna scare you but there is a possibility that he knows/suspects you are gay and realizes/assumes you are into him. And therefore he could be knowingly taking advantage of you.

But if you do wanna pursue it. i think your best bet is to invite him to the dining hall. everybody's gotta eat. that will force you to talk about more than class and really get to know each other.

Thanks for answering. Yeah I thought of that too for sure but I am totally failing the class and he actually knows this...and yet he still came to me for the answers. He is failing too. I would have said that he's def. using me but there's nothing to use me for when we're both failing.
What a frustrating situation!

 

[aijalon18]

Poor guys. You're both failing. maybe you 2 should find some girl's hw to copy off. Or maybe arrange study group. Study groups are good b/c u can learn a lot and you often make friends with the people in it. this way you can lean more about this guy and learn what you need for class. you can ask him or randomly ask classmates. People dont think it's weird and are often anxious to do one.

 

[friendlyboy90]

Here's an update: things are worse. I'm giving up on this guy.

I haven't seen him in like 2 1/2 weeks so..
I texted him today saying 'what happened to you' and he said 'he's failing so he decided not to go to class anymore.' Obviously he doesn't seem to care for me because he wasn't even gonna let me know if i didnt text him. I don't

I texted him back saying ''wow ok txt me sometime if you wanna hang out''. He didnt reply back. He didnt even say 'whats up?' which I say every time in texts.

Its very depressing but I think I will have to move on...Im still going to regret not making a move sooner and wonder what all the attention he gave me for was... *sigh* :/

Thanks to all! This is my last msg probably.

 

[Just_Believe18]

^ Keep us posted on your life. Like we said, we tend to read into things more than they actually are. It was a learning experience you went through. You know better next time.

 

[Richie90]

Hey dont be sad!
Does this guy have alot of friends?
Im a sucker for falling for straight people in my class, has happend alot! And trust me when you like someone it is easy to read alot into things. I dont mean to upset you but he sounds like he just wanted to be friends with you.
Im in my second year at uni and in my first year i didnt make many friends on my course. This year ive made better friends with people and one guy i have a bit of a crush on. and because i like him I pay him alot of attention, in a friendly way. And he also only really made friends on our course this year so i think hes glad for the friendship. He waits for me in class, sits next to me, txts me random txts and even rang me the other night about work!
Now I am lucky enough to have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend so im happy just being friends with him.
But my point is if i was alone, i would read alot into stuff and it would really get to me. Unrequited love/lust is never easy or fun, but thats what life is like for us.
Just be friends and try not to hope for anything more, and soon im sure you will meet someone you can be with
Chin up!

 

[JarodA]

I just read this whole thread just now. Sorry it didn't work out for you :hugs: but you shouldn't stop posting. We'd love to hear more from you.

 

[friendlyboy90]

Thanks a lot guys, you are all so sweet.
I think I have fallen in love with the 'friendship'' he showed me than more than 'actual love'' I dont have a lot of friends to tell you the truth and he's like the ONLY guy who ever showed that much sweetness and kindness towards me...so I may be just obsessing over friendship rather than love. Maybe it's not love.
Im just realizing this now. wow!
Naturally Im obsessing over him because I got no distractions. Nothing better to do. Well it's time to change this for sure.

I do have his number...so yeah I definitely want to be a close friend to him it doesnt have to be anything romantic.

Hope you all succeed with love too! Hugs to u all.

 

[friendlyboy90]

A little update:
So after my last post I was sure I would not hear from him again. But on Friday I FINALLY found him on facebook after weeks of searching and added him. I msgged him too. He sounded like he was glad to see me asking what was up with me.

He is interested ''women'' according to his profile. And weeks ago he changed his relationship to single. So all those first times we talked, Im pretty sure he had a girlfriend. And he has all these hot girls in his friends list.

But he turned out to be just like I imagined him he would be. He is kind, sweet, likes to make friends, likes animals, he likes to draw and stuff. He drew pics of this naked guy but it was part of his class though lol.

We do have some things in common. Im happy about that.
I said to him ''i might no take the final for the class because i wont do good'' than he replied ''well you should try and do it''. That was nice of him to encourage me to take it. He obviously does like me as a friend. If he didn't he wouldn't have cared if im taking the test or not.
Im gonna go take it just so that I can see him in person one last time.

Basically, Im much happier now. His profile doesn't give any hints on him being gay, I doubt he is. But you know, at least I know more now. I was obsessing over someone I hardly knew. I can get over this 'crush' and just be his friend.

So much for little update, this was long...lol..but just wanted to share it.

 

[JarodA]

Well done, glad it's worked out.

 

[spencer]

Sounds like if you back off a little and message him every once in awhile you could probably ask to hang out with him again as friends.