helping me

[korycat]

Well me and my boyfriend have been for like 2 yrs now...... if u ask me if im happy ofcourse i am its like a long playing music that u never get tired of listening too his scotish but my problem is he went back to scotland i dont know how long he needs to stay.....

now my problem is his been gone for like 4 months i love him to death and he loves me too he needs to go back to care of his mom and grans... his an only son and he has no dad... I told him i will try to wait for him but i told him i dont know how long i can do that. his call me me everyday yeah my phone bill don't ask his paying my bills thou thank god for it coz my bill can feed a 5 families in a month.. and i visit him there once in a while every month

ok back to what im gonna say i told him last time im missing him so much and i dont know if i can hold on much longer i cant go there and live with him coz i have a good job here and my family is here.. so he told me even if i let go he wont it does not matter he said if i wanna give up coz for him as long as his holding on and fighting for love to stay strong it will survive no matter what and he freaking said those dumb cheesy lines but still sweet as ever "Absence make the heart goes fonder"


now where do i stand should i let go or hung in there

ps. for the bitch comment or suggetion here is for u

Start walking and stop bitching if u dont have nothing good to say i suggest be straight...

 

[luminum]

Uh, what you might call "bitch comments" might be the exact things you need to hear. Sometimes the best advice isn't sweet or what you want to hear.

Personally, I think that if this guy is willing to hold on and fight for what you have despite distance, then he really loves you. If I were you, I'd stay.

But you might not be that strong or that committed. ::shrug::

It's ultimately down to what you want. Do you want to start over with someone who's right within your vicinity? Or do you want to hold on to someone who loves you who's far away?

 

[moschj]

You're in a very tough situation. I agree that it sounds like he loves you, but sometimes that's not enough. It really comes down to how you feel about him. Compare your feelings for him to your feelings for other guys you dated, and go from there. Anything good is worth fighting for, but the fight can take a lot out of you and you need to know that it's what you want.

 

[korycat]

Uh, what you might call "bitch comments" might be the exact things you need to hear. Sometimes the best advice isn't sweet or what you want to hear.

Personally, I think that if this guy is willing to hold on and fight for what you have despite distance, then he really loves you. If I were you, I'd stay.

But you might not be that strong or that committed. ::shrug::

It's ultimately down to what you want. Do you want to start over with someone who's right within your vicinity? Or do you want to hold on to someone who loves you who's far away?

i want him so bad but there are time u want to hold the one u love but his to dum far away.... i think right now i don k what to do its kinda crazy sometimes i think it would be easier if things wer over but when i think of it its like dum confession of a teenage drama queer

 

[korycat]

You're in a very tough situation. I agree that it sounds like he loves you, but sometimes that's not enough. It really comes down to how you feel about him. Compare your feelings for him to your feelings for other guys you dated, and go from there. Anything good is worth fighting for, but the fight can take a lot out of you and you need to know that it's what you want.

there is not even other guys its just its to much to think everyday and the more u think the more it get crazier

 

[backpacker]

You are certainly in a tough situation. Long distant relationships are very difficult and require immense dedication by both parties, which is typically why they don't work. Is your boyfriend gone indefinitely or do you know when he will return? It's a lot easier to make it work if you know he will be back at a specific time. If it's the kind of thing that could go on for months or years, then it's going to be very difficult to maintain the relationship. You sound like you are at the point where the pain of being in a long distant relationship is becoming a big drain. Only you can decide if it's worth it or not.

If you decide to break up, you can always leave open the possibility of getting back together when he returns. You could also maintain a causal relationship while allowing each of you to date others. Some people can make this work while others it becomes a disaster.

Don't let the problem fester to point that you two start frighting and no longer can be friend.

 

[korycat]

You are certainly in a tough situation. Long distant relationships are very difficult and require immense dedication by both parties, which is typically why they don't work. Is your boyfriend gone indefinitely or do you know when he will return? It's a lot easier to make it work if you know he will be back at a specific time. If it's the kind of thing that could go on for months or years, then it's going to be very difficult to maintain the relationship. You sound like you are at the point where the pain of being in a long distant relationship is becoming a big drain. Only you can decide if it's worth it or not.

If you decide to break up, you can always leave open the possibility of getting back together when he returns. You could also maintain a causal relationship while allowing each of you to date others. Some people can make this work while others it becomes a disaster.

Don't let the problem fester to point that you two start frighting and no longer can be friend.

i know right now im a freaking messed up lil queen i smile but a part of me cry right now im just mess up im killing myself with work so its a lil less problem now i know when they said u fall in love u really fall its like beyonce orlando concert

 

[rareboy]

i think right now his missing u but not long cuz is not like beyonce concert more like u2 only u2 don't have tickets like maybe absence not make heart fonder absence more likely makes heart get used 2 absence u need 2 prolly let go.