He's Amazing.... but i cant have him.

[NickCole]

It's very hard to toss away a large inheritance even if it's holding big pieces of you ransom. People who don't grow up with that dilema, being raised with all the expectations and fear and promise being ingrained daily, do not know how deeply that stuff can infiltrate our thinking.

I walked away from my inheritance 14 years ago after years of struggling with the issue.

I'm still the same person, make the same kinds of decisions, and although family-related stress is gone I still suffer through depressions as I always did (I really hoped more of that would evaporate over time). But the life I've built for myself is a million times better than anything I was able to build before, no matter how hard I tried. I don't know exactly why the liberation is so powerful. I always lived my life on my terms, I was out of the closet and I thought I made no decisions to please my mother; I fought with her rather than keep silent and do as she wanted. (Faced with the situation of this thread, I'd have done anything I wanted to do with that 19 year old without hesitating for a moment over concern about my inheritance. I was the rebel, the black sheep, the one who was unconventional and stirred up family controversy, but kept myself inside the loop and in the Will.) But even for those who rebel and refuse to conform to someone else's script, waiting for an inheritance when there is inherent conflict is stifling to the Self. It just is. And that's no way to live a life.

Life, for some anyway, is just fucking hard. And it's very tempting to take some short cuts, some easier routes when you see them before you. But easy is not the same as better; and there always is a steep cost. Always.

 

[trawler69]

Um Joe you know where he lives, your Dad dropped him off there with you in the car. It would be a shame to let the opportunity go and there is no reason why your cousin should know anything about it. I'm sure Pete wouldn't go blabbing to him if he is as nice as you make him out to be.

 

[GL]

Um Joe you know where he lives, your Dad dropped him off there with you in the car. It would be a shame to let the opportunity go and there is no reason why your cousin should know anything about it. I'm sure Pete wouldn't go blabbing to him if he is as nice as you make him out to be.

I was thinking the same thing.

I hope you'll give it a shot Joe. I understand what you're saying and I appreciate the fears you hold. But what if he's the one guy you'd end up spending the rest of your life with? You'll never know unless you make that effort. Anyhow... that's my two cents.

 

[FREDDIE187]

Joey, as I was reading this thread I kept thinking, shit that little story sure got you into trouble.

I do agree with most everybody, make a plan....................get him into bed. How boring is life if we don't live a bit dangerously.

 

[Soilwork]

You know Joe.. you're not the only one who has had to make the odd sacrifice.


When I came out, I rather well-off parents threatened to cut me off and make me pay my own way through college.. they were paying my rent and bills and giving me a monthly allowance, but once I came out, that was gone (for a while.. then it came back with lots of ridiculous stipulations which also lasted a short time)

I stood to lose a rather huge inheritance from my grandfather who made his money in Oil in the 40s and 50s. (he turns 100 in April.. we'll see if I'm still in the will or not, but I don't really care)

To be honest, and I don't mean to be rude... that house you have in the picture simply isn't worth compromising my life for. and yes, not being out to my parents would be compromising my life.

You obviosuly don't see it that way. But hey, like I said in the PM I sent you..it's your life. I just dont' see the point of it.