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He's online...AGAIN!!!

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confusedboy23

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Let me try and make this short.

Some might remember my ex "dumped" me in July last year to go back to his ex. I tried to be friends but it didn't work out too well for me. I was overly depressed. Then I broke all communications only to have him contact me again after a month or so. We continued emailing each other until sometime in October when he told me he was moving interstate with his boy to take on a new job. He suggested we meet up before he left, I said OK, but that never happened. Come late October, I've not heard from him even once so I sent him an email just to see how things were going. No replies.

I've been slowly letting him out of my mind and I think I'm a lot more "over" him although I've always had the urge to log on to his webpage just to see when he last logged on. I could never bear to look at his photos though, that was still a little too much for me.

See, the problem now is, he has NEVER ever been on MSN ever since he moved. But he was online for a little while last night, and he is online right now. I've blocked him for a long time. But there is this little part inside me that's telling me to say HI to him. #-o What am I supposed to do?
 
Agreed - the only way for you to truly move on is to remove him from your life
 
hopefully as soon as you stop torturing yourself you'll gradually start letting go. as the saying goes out of site out of mind. i know what you're going thru.
 
I think everyone here is seeing this situation more objectively than I am since I know you better and am feeling for you right now. I know how much you would like to say Hi to him and re-establish some connection, even a minor one. I know how much it kills you not to do it.

I guess this day was coming since you have decided to check and see if he is on MSN once in a while. So this dilemma was inevitable. But let me ask you this, Confusedboy. Isn't it possible that he is feeling safe after not seeing you on MSN for so long? And perhaps that is why he has signed on. Are you ready for a negative reaction from him?

I really don't know what to tell you but the other guys seem pretty consistent in their replies. I am sorry you are hurting over this. (*8*)
 
I agree with my fellow JUBers. I think I would take him off your MSN buddy list! When my old bf dumped me last July I kept him on YaHoo Messenger. He would come online occasionally and we would chat. It ususally ended uo with him saying something nasty and me quiting YaHoo.....after about 2 months I stoped going on YaHoo. Then I said why?? I cancelled the account and opened a new one. He knows my email addy, but have not heard from in since last october and I am much happier...time to move on Mate! Many better guys than him waiting for you!
 
Just remember that you deserve so much better than him...and don't forget it! ;)
 
If only completely letting go was that easy........

But anyway, thanks for hearing me out. It feels good just to be able to vent my thoughts........
 
In the perfect world, no one would ever disappear from out lives and we would all get closure. We would have to in order to be around them day to day.

But in the jet age, relationships are temporary and breakups can be all the more haunting. And closure can be difficult to achieve. I certainly understand your needing it though.
 
I'm finding that, for a lot of people, "closure" means "things ending the way I want them to". Sorry, some of the time, they don't. He dumped your for his ex, and stopped contacting you. That's your "closure".

Delete him from your contact list. NOW. Problem over.

Lex
 
Hmm,
Let me make this short.
Grow up.
He is there, or he is here, you are there, or you are here.
You communicate with who you want to...
and let it rest.
Don
 
It could be worse...someone could tell you he's on craigslist as a prostitute, then you could go there to see his ads and see it's true. But then you'd be able to laugh at it with your friends at least.
 
Delete him from your buddy list and move on. Easier said than done but you have to do it. He's already has so you have to do the same, for your own well being.
 
I might just delete him on my list when I next log on to MSN - but I do have his email too clearly etched in my head!

Anyway, I've been wondering today - could he have deleted me from his list ages ago?!
 
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