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He's "straight" and I was his first... I'm confused to what brought him to me...

sentirpromesas said:
To be frank, it sounds like excuses that you "want to get his perspective." It sounds more like you wanted him as much as he wanted you.

At this point, you need to be honest with yourself. You need to ask yourself what exactly you expect out of this "relationship."

If it's friendship you want, they you will need to set clear boundaries, not only with yourself but with him as well. He needs to know these set boundaries and must acknowledge them.

If you want more, then be aware of the consequences. A sexually confused person may become self-aware very quickly. Or he may not. In either case, be completely honest to him and yourself. It makes for much less heartbreak later.
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I completely agree. I am sure deep down inside you knew what was going on the second he sat so close to you.
Just go with the flow I say
 
Hmmm I think this is the first "I messed around with a straight guy" thread I read where the gay guy is the one who wakes up worried, questioning a million things and feeling awkward.

Dude relax. It seems like he's fine with it, he talked to you and texted you all the day, which shows that he's actually very comfortable with you. I think you're trying to be a good friend and that's fine, but be careful with what you say, and how you approach him, because even though you're worried you might touch some personal issues of him that will make any confused or closeted guy go away in a second.

If you really want to be friends with him, then just let him be and stop over-worrying so much. Stop giving it so much importance, cuz by the way you act in his mind, it will seem like the one night thing will change his whole life (cuz you're acting like it was a huge deal) and that will probably scare him off.

To sum it up, he's an adult, as he said, he can handle it. You can guide but not lead his understanding of his sexuality.
 
Why would you not want to have sex with a sexually confused guy? He's going to have sex with some guy. If he trusts you and feels comfortable with you, aren't you doing him a favor (assuming you are attracted to him, not advocating mercy fucks)? Would you feel better if you turned him down and he ended up getting fucked for the first time by some creep?
 
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