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He's too young for me!

I know a couple that started dating when one was 21 and the other was 16. Couple of differences from what I see in this case though.
This kid sounds like he has some growing up to do still (as most 18 year olds do),but the asking to buy you booze is simply a sign to me that you're being used.
Go with your gut on this one and move on.
 
I think the OP is overreacting to the age difference. In fact I think your reaction to him being an undergrad is rather ridiculous, and irrelevant. Is it he's too young for you, or you're too "professional" for him? I don't want to be presumptuous, I just see that alot. If the drinking thing really is a dealbreaker for you, than I don't think he's the immature one. If you like each other, you can find ways around it. If you don't, than age difference really isn't the problem.

I'm 29 and currently seeing a 20 year old. I think I thought about the age difference for about a minute. He's also stunningly good at blow jobs.
 
If you're intersted in finding a partner to share your life with, you will NOT find it in an 18 year-old.

You are taking the correct approach. The fact that he's already asked you to buy alcohol for him displays a lack of maturity that is not even worth acknowledging. As Karabulut said, it's a dealer-killer.

There's nothing wrong with telling a hot, 18 year-old that you're not interested. Seriously, you can tell a hot, 18 year-old college kid that you're not interested in him. And you'd be making the right choice.
 
The liquor thing may seem trivial, but really, it's asking you to commit a crime for him and his friends.
 
KaraBulut said:
The fact that he's 18 and you're 26 doesn't necessarily mean the relationship won't work.

The fact that he's hanging out in bars with a fake ID, asking you to buy him liquor, tacitly lied about his age, never dated before and generally acting like a college freshman is more the indicator of where he's at maturity-wise. And that's a deal-killer.

There's no easy way to do this but better to do it now than before you both dig the hole deeper. Just say, "We're in very different places in our life at the moment. You would be better off dating another guy who was in college and had more in common with you. We can be friends but we can't be more than that."
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Couldn't of said that better.

Also, I love "Kiss From A Rose" and I'm 19. Knowing of popular classic rock songs do not make you mature or classy. It just means that you listen the radio. You know, where they still play songs made before 2000.

Age is a tricky debate when it comes to relationships and everyones view is different. Mostly what it comes down to is A. Emotional Maturity B. Stages of Commitment.
It doesn't matter if he is 18 or 54, if he acts like a stereotypical college fratboy, or an over dramatic sex fiend, it's probably a big turn off.
Age does not equal maturity, but it doesn't factor out of the equation either. While someone who is 50 might have more life experiences then someone who is 18, it doesn't mean that he is more mature than the 18 year old. Most commonly yes, he is more mature. Though the question is not how many life experiences you have had in your life, but how many lessons you have learned from your life experiences.

Stages of Commitment are a huge ordeal. Most of the time, an 18 year old and a 26 year old have different ideas of what they want in life at the time.
The 18 year old may be looking for fun random flings or casual dating while the 26 year old might be looking for something a bit more stable and long term.
Or the other way around. It fluctuates a lot. Basically if you can converse with your partner and make an understanding of your life goals, relationship, career etc, and coincide with each others, age will not be that large of a determining factor.

Though this guy seems like a total douchebag who just sees you as an opportunity to get crunk and fool around a bit. You don't need that. I'd say take Kara's advice.
 
Gotta say that you seem to know what you want or rather don't want

I don't see the big deal in age personally

And the "he doesn't know the song" thing seems lame - who cares?

Do you like him? Do you connect other than physical attraction?

If so .......

But seems like you have your answer
 
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