Heterophobia

[refujiunderground]

naw, everybody sucks at least where i'm at. the straight people are assholes, the gay people are assholes, everybody or well most people around here are assholes. there are few and far people that are worth talking to out here that don't come off like straight up dicks.

you need to get a grip because there are plenty of gay people that are ignorant pricks as well.

 

[Ganoderma]

I'd say under your circumstances, your feelings seem to be warranted, but I can assure you not all straight people are like that. Reading this made me feel really grateful for the friends I have in my life.

Stay strong, buddy. Eventually, you'll find better people to have in your life.

hi «Jason»,

First of all, welcome to JUB. There are alot of nice guys over here of around your age, and I hope you will be able to become friends with some of them. Its great to hear you are open. Be strong, and don't let these narrow-minded ppl feel yourself inferior. You are an open gay, and a strong and proud guy.

I feel very sorry for your experiences with those straight guys. I don't face such difficulties / mean behaviour from straight guys (not at all), and this has also not been the case in the past (I am 55 right now). I also have loads of straight friends / aquaintances. No one bothers that I am gay (and this was also like that in the past).

I would like to underline the posting of NaughtyArousal: there are loads and loads and loads of straight guys who don't bother if you are gay. I mean, that's just totally irrelevant for them.

Stay strong, and realize that all those mean people are 'loosers' / 'dumb' / 'shallow' etc. Ignore them, and don't discuss with them.

Be aware that quiet and silent (and often very polite & friendly) straight guys will not talk about this kind of things (eg calling you faggot, or talk mean about same sex marriage etc etc etc). Likely, a lot of these 'quiet' guys are amidst the rude ones.

Hopefully, soon you will also meet such guys.

 

[BeanSprout]

come to canada its very open minded

 

[pai mei]

come to canada its very open minded

says the guy in toronto -_-


but yeah, it is generally better i imagine.

 

[Telstra]

No, not heterophobic.
If you think you have a problem, only you can change it.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

stamp ya butt
certify not ta casue hetro dudes of great straights ta explode

minefields cans a bes a hard work

theere go

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

dude world ova

people from little ta big folk is still a consider road kill or worthy of bullet head ans dumped ans stuff
ans nothin more then shit they stand it < it way of MAN DOMINI civlizations fa eons

so

hetro really wanna be afraid of a hetro when ans sort umselfs out dat if hetro mean anythang

but if world giva a shit maybe lot countrys ins a there own way of whacko ways get spines ans help bring MAN out da SCARY pages of living histroys all a play out same time all ova world everyday every way

it a be ----

gay< it not set concrete so gay men can mean anythang World invent new words fast then excuse why they got lost ans end up ya asshole

so

there go

 

[mtnboy]

I somehow managed to find my way into a very accepting group of friends where I live, but I do know some gay people that have encountered some very mean and close-minded people. Believe it or not, the most accepting people I've found are at some of the Christian/religious groups at my college, while a lot of the close-minded people are members whose stated goal it is to get others to accept everyone, regardless of their skin, gender, sexuality, etc.

 

[Maestoso]

The only way is to try and be stronger from these experiences.

Don't give a shit about what others say, homophobic people are not worth to be your friends.

You need to start looking at these people like they are dirt on the ground, don't let them step on top of you.

Be proud of who you are.

 

[frankfrank]

I'm surprised you're running into this in Sacramento, or are you in the nearby area/suburbs and not in Sac itself? Parts of that area are quite conservative. I have a number of lifelong and genuine bonds with some wonderful straight guys who "know about me" and all, and one of these great straight friendships is with somebody from uber-homophobic Oklahoma City.

It sounds like you've just had "rotten luck-of-the-draw" with your friends, etc. I haven't had that experience in general though, yes, I sometimes do hear some stray (about gay people in general) comments here and there that are absolutely horrendous.