hey... i could do with some advice

[englandlad]

i dont know if this the right place to post it but im considering coming out but i dont really know how to tell people..

any tips n tht please post! thanks x

 

[soulseeker]

Bring home your hot bf

 

[fetaby]

and if saying, "I'm gay" doesn't work for ya. Just stop denying it. Stop playing pronoun games.

Good Luck.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

It's easier when it's not in person. Like on the phone, or chat. You still get the point across and it's a good way to start.

Please please please, just let the people that need to know, know. Anything after that is extraneous. There's isn't a need to let the whole entire world know, because I'm sure not everyone in the whole entire world cares. Don't make the mistake of letting it define you.


Good Luck.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

I don't agree. It's easier to do it then and there and not have to worry about what their reaction is going to be next time you see them.

Some of my greatest memories are those of coming out to people I love. They were there to see my face and knew I was nervous and they hugged me. It's a very personal thing. And you should be there to reassure them that you are still the same person.

I can't even imagine calling or sending an email to my sisters or my family members or friends.

True, that doesn't completely do the job, there's going to be follow up, but if someone doesn't have enough guts to do it in person, it kind of forces him to deal with the problem the next time they meet, instead of avoiding it!

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

if this the right place

There is the Comming out and relationships forum -- it's about three clicks down on the right.. next to where that old gas station used to be.

I'm the last person in the world to give any advice on how to do this. No matter, there are PLENTY of others who have the knowledge , and some of them are actually right.

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

Ok. I see what you mean. It's just I have a different take on it. Know what I mean?

Just what do you mean by that?

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

I mean: "you know what I mean". Know what I mean?

oh -- yeah -- well, why didn't you say that in the first place.
Now I know what you mean, you're gay aren't you?
know what i mean? seriously..

 

[Seasoned]

I'd start with the people you think will be the most supportive. I enjoy telling people, all kinds of people, because I take a political stance. All my co-workers know. All my theater friends know. When appropriate even people I meet casually know. In an anti-gay marriage amendment state I believe the more people know that my partner and I have been together more than 25 years the better. But that's just me. I began by telling one person and it took me about 3 months to do it.

 

[englandlad]

wow.. thanks everyone for the advice x

 

[freefall]

There is no easier way than just saying "I'm gay".

This pretty much sums it up.
Unless you can't speak or you forgot how to speak.