Hey please help me cope

[Jory]

Being alone for the rest of my life........Thanks

 

[jetsonboy]

Please tell me more: did you lose somepne recently? If so, I am sorry for your loss. But you are not alone, really, and you don't have to be alone unless you want to. If you don't want to be alone, then you will (eventually) need to go out and seek companionship, and if you are a good person with the capacity for love, then you will find it. All best wishes.

 

[Jory]

No I have never been in a relationship and simply put I need to um I don't know the word I am looking for but basiclly accept that there is no one out there for me and get on with my life simple as that.

 

[G-Lexington]

Jory, we know our past, and we know our present. But we don't know our future until it becomes our present.

Will you always be alone? Maybe. Or perhaps you'll find someone. One can't tell from this angle.

Instead of trying to accept that you'll always be alone, perhaps you should accept that you will always be satisfied with your actions. That you'll keep trying to meet people, you'll keep trying to make friends, and if you end up having lived life without ever had a boyfriend, it won't be because you didn't try.

Lex

 

[Jory]

Right now I am just scared maybe its best that I just go to bed

 

[jetsonboy]

Jory, there are so many men out there, I am absolutely certain one of them is just right for you. The question is: is there something in your mind preventing you from finding that person and working on developing a healthy relationship with them? If you are 44 and have never been in a relationship, maybe there is something about you that you need to look into. For instance, how much do you love yourself? How highly do you think of yourself? Are you looking for a perfect body coupled with a perfect mind? Everyone has faults, even those who look perfect on the outside. Maybe it's time for you to go looking for someone with a different attitude. One thing is certain though: no one is going to fall into your lap.

 

[halubtsi]

Jory, I feel your pain. I was there too. But as I told someone else, don't look at it as being "alone." None of us are entirely alone. We have family and friends who acompany us along the way. You're just "single" or "available."

I know it seems like semantics, but really it makes all the difference psychologically. If you can somehow find inner peace with being single and enjoy what life as a single person brings, then you'll find happiness. Don't look at your single life as though you're missing something. You're not missing anything. You alone have the power to make yourself happy. If you're unhappy with yourself, the best boyfriend in the world won't make you feel any better.

 

[Jory]

Jory, there are so many men out there, I am absolutely certain one of them is just right for you. The question is: is there something in your mind preventing you from finding that person and working on developing a healthy relationship with them?

When I was growing up and all my friends were getting GF I could not understand why I was not intrested in girls at the time I felt that I was not gay due to the popular cultures protrail of gaymen

If you are 44 and have never been in a relationship, maybe there is something about you that you need to look into.

See the answer above

For instance,1. how much do you love yourself? 2. How highly do you think of yourself? 3. Are you looking for a perfect body coupled with a perfect mind? Everyone has faults, even those who look perfect on the outside. Maybe it's time for you to go looking for someone with a different attitude.

1 and 2 it depends on my state of mind at the time all of us has good days and bad

3. No I just would like some one who is kind,fun, does take care of himself can sometimes be a homebody but then again likes to go out and paint the town so to speak

One thing is certain though: no one is going to fall into your lap.

The funny thing is every couple I ask how they met it alway seem that they jumped into each other lap oh we met on at bar or online like that then people here tell us that to meet someone you should joins some sort of social group I went to one once it was just like going to a bar alone you do not exist.

 

[loppyears]

Hi Jory

I'm sorry your feeling down right now. Maybe there's something your can do to take your mind off things. Find something that will keep your spirits lifted. I know this sounds a little sad and probably won't help, but if I'm feeling a little down, music helps me. Just some nice relaxing music

I don't have a guy but instead I see what I do have in my life, friends, family, people willing to support me. It feels nice to be in that circle.

I really do hope you find someone though and I'm sure you will.

 

[MrCreative]

you'll never be alone!!!!
<3 Sky

 

[Zeremonie]

I really think that there is someone out there for everyone. But I also think that you will find that person when you least expect it.

Jory do things that excite you right now. Better yourself: Get an education, take a class, volunteer at a foodbank, join a club.

Life is what happens while you are planning it: So the sooner you're doing things that make yourself marketable, the more likely you'll find yourself in a place to meet men.

I think that if you give off the vibe of desperation, even if you don't intend to do so, it will drive guys a way. So now is the time to figure out how to be secure with yourself. I think Jetsonboy was right on the money.

Good luck! you live in a big city with lots of fish in the sea. I know you can make it work!

 

[Jory]

All good answers.

Just a question, where in all this is the proverbial meddlesome friend? You know the type; the matchmaker, always looking to pair up singles. I thought everyone had at least one of those. Sounds like yours is sleeping on the job. Fire his or her silly ass.

Truth is I have very little friends

 

[Jory]

There you go. That sounds like a good place to start. Doing anything to change that?

Right now I am without a car and you know how that is here.......yes there PT but then I have leave when everyone is having fun and I hate that.