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[dereperez]

So my oldest sister will soon be engaged. *Cue the screeching tires.* What?! I suppose I should be happy for my sister and I guess one part of me really is. If anyone deserves to be happy, she does. However, I really can't stand him. He is good enough to my sister from what I've seen but I can't help have a sneaking suspicion about him. It is hard for me to pinpoint what exactly it is about him that makes me feel like he isn't good enough for my sister.

There is also that other thing where he and I just don't get along. I don't mean everyone has to see eye-to-eye. But there was that one time he was very rude to me when I first met him. I asked about how they met and where he was from. He basically, in essence, told me that I should mind my own business. And not to mention that other time he was rude to me...and that other time...and so on. I wonder why??

I understand that in the end all that should really matter is that he makes my sister happy and he treats her well (otherwise he will have me to answer to). But is it really all that demanding from me to want he and I to get along to some degree? Am I asking for too much? And oh yeah...there's also that weird feeling I get about him that I can't quite put my finger on.

I do know enough about him from my sister but I also can't help feeling that she is defending him all the time. I am doing my best as the understanding and all-accepting younger brother. And yet, I don't have any qualms about speaking my mind.

With reluctance, I guess will say "welcome to the family." But only with reluctance. And a whole lot of reservation.

 

[Gentleheart]

Well, I'm an only child...so I can't really speak on that feeling of "protection" when it comes to one's siblings, BUT--I can certainly understand why her fiance doesn't quite sit well with you. Sounds like a bit of an ass that somehow has your sister in la-la land. lol

I've known some guys who are complete assholes to everyone except their spouse...so that could be the case with this guy. I can understand wanting to get along with your future brother-in-law, but if he wants to be rude and standoffish...let him be. There may come a day where he needs you, then you can get to know the real him. Oh, and if there is something "off" about him...it will show itself eventually. It always does. Just keep your eyes open, and remain "open"...if you know what I mean.

I think it says a lot about you that you care about having at least some sort of friendship with your sister's soon to be husband.