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His small penis ruined the relationship

lambsandlions

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I swear I have the worst luck with guys. Most the time I avoid dating all together because I sometimes feel like it is not worth it. Recently, I met a boy and we really hit it off. We are both bio-majors, we like the same music, we laugh at the same kind of jokes. We really just click, except in the sac.

The first night we fooled around was after our third date. He asked me to cum back to his place and we began making out. After a good 20 minutes of kissing he began pulling at my belt buckle. I stood up to let him easier access and he pulled my pants down. All he could say was "wow" and then started going to town on me. It was great and I wanted to return the favor, but he said no. Asked him why and he just said because and got really weird. We ended up watching tv and me leaving, upset I could not give him a blow job.

The next time we fooled around was very similar, he didn't want me to suck him. I asked why and he told me he doesn't want me to see his dick. I thought that was just silly and told him so. He was still reluctant so I dropped it. Another night I was upset because not only did I not get to give him a blow job but we couldn't just get naked and snuggle.

It was out third time fooling around that he finally let me see his penis. There was absolutely nothing wrong with it. It was straight, it didn't bend to the side or anything. It was a uniform thickness, the head wasn't too big or small for the shaft. His skin blended in well. It was a very nice penis to look at, it just happened to be a wee big small. He was only about 4.5 inches. And there is nothing wrong with that. I am a top so I don't need a big penis to fuck me. I like to suck cock, so a 4.5 incher fits in the mouth and doesn't make you gag or make you jaw hurt. It is a great penis and he is a great guy. Everything should have worked up.

The only problem he is was so embarrassed by the size of it. I tried to reassure him that it was perfect but he wouldn't believe me. He was also jealous that my penis was almost twice as big as his. I let him know that I like him for who he is and not how big he penis is, but he couldn't stand it. He felt so antiquity that he said we need to stop fooling around.

I feel really bad and don't know what to do. Any one here know what I can do to make him feel better. To let him know that I really don't care about size.
 
Wow someone being quite unsecure here. I guess there is not much more that you can do except just treating it as a total normal thing. Show him and let him feel that you do have the hots for him - including his penis.
 
The sad thing is that he said it would be fine if my penis was 5 or 6 inches but because I am almost 8 and a half he feels insecure.
 
i guess dont move to the sex part just yet...

show him that u love him not because of the sex primarily...

spend time and listen to him... i guess then he'll believe that u love him and not his penis...

owh.. i found a new quote...

love me for me... not my penis...

my ass still hurts because of big dicks... lamb... if u wanna fuck him, fuck him slowly...
 
You're into each other, so I say give it some time. Let him know that you value him as a person and not as a life-support system for his cock. In time, as he realises this, he should get over his insecurity (and really, there's nothing to be insecure about with a 4.5" dick).
 
I'd dump him.

Too much baggage.
 
lambsandlions said:
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The issue is not his small penis. The issue is his body image.

Same problem as a guy who has a little fat on his belly. Or one testicle. Or a bad scar or birthmark. These are things that make some guys feel inadequate but probably don't make that much difference to the rest of us.


lambsandlions said:
I feel really bad and don't know what to do. Any one here know what I can do to make him feel better. To let him know that I really don't care about size.
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You can't do anything to make him feel better. All you can do is he his boyfriend, let him know he and his body turn you on. He has to do the rest.
 
Be his friend. Show him that you are interested in him. This is something that he needs to over come. Otherwise, he will live a lonely life.
 
invite him out for a nice time, go to a movie or something fun, dont even bring up sex, maybe if u make good friends first he will get over this. it's silly. i have a similar sized dick to his and have had plenty o fun with it.
 
yeah, I can relate, I'm 10 and sometimes come across guys who are 4. I've had one even smaller...seriously his penis was about 2 inches. truth be told, I don't like big dicks and find smaller ones pretty sexy. As a top, I feel the same way "what is all this chitchat about big dicks?" I agree with FPNY, work alittle more on the other aspects of the relationship to let him know you like him...then when the time is right..tie him down and give that pretty dick some well deserved attention it hasn't been getting...until he blows.
It's going to take time and it's a battle he's going to have to get over in his head. Maybe someone said something to him inthe past, makinghim feel inferior...sometimes the gays will do that. I've had tricks that felt insecure because they'd been told that their dick was too small..and you know what? it wasn't too small for me!
 
I actually see two people insecure about dick size. But no matter. He's unhappy about your dick size. Consider him an "anti-size queen" if you'd like, but to put it plainly, you're not what he's looking for. So drop him already. You know as well as I do that, with your dick, you're not going to have any problem finding somebody else.

Lex
 
If it truly doesn't matter, tell him so. Tell him that we all deserve pleasure no matter what we look like. Tell him his size is just fine with you and that you want him to be comfortable and you will be patient with him. Tell him you are excited about trying things with him that he has never done before and that sex is not always perfect. It's sometimes messy & awkward. Talk to him about your own insecurities. This will show him that everyone is worried about something and it's normal to feel this way.Tell him that the best sex is always when both of you are trying to "Get Off".
 
tell him straight, look your issues are bugging me I like you and I thought u liked me if this isn't the case we're done. If he's issues are superficial then he should get over it. If he really doesn't want to date you then he'll take the out and you get to dump him instead of being dumped.
 
We hate to have size be an issue, but it's a reality. He may be embarrassed by his size, but he has also clearly indicated that your size is an issue as well. You made it clear that you are a top and he may not be interested in having something your size in him. You wrote "I like to suck cock, so a 4.5 incher fits in the mouth and doesn't make you gag or make you jaw hurt." Maybe your dick makes his jaw hurt and gags him. While many guys would be thrilled to have a dick your size, it sounds like he doesn't enjoy it. A relationship is comprised of many things and each person has different priority on those things. Some people can be perfectly happy even if they are not sexually compatible; for others it's a deal breaker. You can continue to try to develop a relationship with him, but understand that there may be nothing you can do to change how he feels.
 
Ignore it completely. Don't worry about getting him hard, getting him off or anything. I know it may sound selfish, but it lets him focus on the sex, not on you handling his penis. My bf has e.d., but I don't bring it up or try to fix it or try to encourage him to try to overrcome it. I just do my thing, let him do what he wants, and our sex life is fantastic.
 
I think that your penis is also an issue here. You are HUGE - and this is not always a compliment. As a tight bottom I can say that I would be frightened of your penis ripping me apart. Probably he feels that he will be never able to endure fucked by such a huge thing.
 
You're a great guy for being understanding and supportive - I should know, my dick's around 5.5 and sometimes I feel a bit stink when a guy pulls out an 8inch whopper.

Just continue to affirm your acceptance of his size - he's probably spent years being ashamed of his dick, poor guy.
 
A friend of mine who has an unusually small and thin cock has had no problems getting into relationships or meeting for casual sex at bathhouses, etc. He is a bottom also. He has a positive self image.

I recently had a rather short cock in my mouth but loved the thickness and overall shape of it.

Your friend's self image is preventing him from experiencing all of the people who come his way.
 
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