Hitting on friend tips

[dsh122]

Hot tub? Pool? some excuse to "skinny dip"

 

[Muscles4daze]

I know, I know, another one of these threads but I couldn't find the answer in searching.

Basically my guy friend is hot, when we get drunk and go back to his place we flirt. Stand really close, smiling and laughing, constant eye contact etc.

However, we're both 'straight' (im a guy too) but I really want to make a move on him, without freaking him out. I need a way to test the water, see what his reaction is. Say, an excuse to get naked...

Anyone got any ideas? experience with this?

Thanks a lot

Just be careful man, you may end up ruining a good friendship for a piece of ass.

 

[racer2438]

strip poker when your buzzed.

hot tube. who can pee farther, dare games.

 

[KaraBulut]

And then what?

An awkward morning after?

Battles over why can't we do it again?

Why doesn't he like me that way?


Being adult means thinking with your head not your dick. Being an adult means thinking about the consequences of your actions before you do something stupid that will ruin a friendship.

 

[Caaake]

^ true but thats just a possibility of what could happen. A good possibility but another possibility could be that it could be great. A good fuck and maybe no wierdness after. Noones a psychic, all situations turn out different. I'd say just make some jokes with him like "I can't wait to slap that brown star" thru a text or something of that nature you know. See how well he goes along with it, then go further it by showing how fun it can be. Whats fun is fun right?

Hot about eye contact! Let us know what happens

and keep flirting, that says something that you have that chemistry. Go for it.

 

[G-Lexington]

Personally, I'd do it honestly or not at all. I'd say I was interested, and ask if he was, too. But that's boring, and utterly not "hot", so feel free to disregard this post.

Lex

 

[Eagle653]

However, we're both 'straight' (im a guy too) but I really want to make a move on him, without freaking him out.

No, you're not both "straight"--as least you're not. Whether or not he is, you don't know.

You're playing with fire on many fronts and I hope you don't get burned. If you think he is of like-mind--that he'd like to get it on with a guy too--then broach the subject with him like an adult: Sober and serious and with plenty of room to say no.

Making a move on him, drunk or not, can ruin your friendship in an instant. It's happened to many here, in fact. Just asking him, if he's really straight, if he wants to get it on with you will out you to him and could make him wonder if that's what your friendship with him is predicated on (depending on how you handle this). But, if you throw out the idea, and assure him that the friendship is not predicated on that kind of attraction and it's OK if he doesn't want to, you stand a chance of it surviving if he's not interested.

Lastly, know that many straight guys get flirty, affectionate, and friendly, especially when they have some alcohol. It's because they have non-sexual boundaries in mind and assume they're talking with another straight guy who has the same boundaries. So, it's all cool and allows them to express affection, etc. It throws gay/bi guys into confusion because we don't have the same boundaries, nor the same feelings and we think there's a "possibility" when there may not be one at all. So, be careful how you handle this. You really are playing with fire.

 

[KaraBulut]

Personally, I'd do it honestly or not at all. I'd say I was interested, and ask if he was, too. But that's boring, and utterly not "hot", so feel free to disregard this post.

Lex

Have I mentioned lately how hot you are in that football outfit, Lex?

You could use a massage.

 

[G-Lexington]

Hey, I don't swing that way! So don't you go getting any ideas...

...I would like another beer, though. I'm really thirsty. And doesn't it seem warm in here?

Lex

 

[G-Lexington]

There's a good cautionary thread in this section about a guy who made a move on his "straight" friend. If memory serves, it involved lost possesions, a couple teeth being lost, and a dog getting killed. You may want to give it a gander before you make your move.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

Hey, I don't swing that way! So don't you go getting any ideas...
...I would like another beer, though. I'm really thirsty. And doesn't it seem warm in here?

Well, maybe you need to get out of all those clothes you're wearing?

There's a good cautionary thread in this section about a guy who made a move on his "straight" friend. If memory serves, it involved lost possesions, a couple teeth being lost, and a dog getting killed. You may want to give it a gander before you make your move.

I believe you're thinking of Luvin my roommate...

Sound familiar?

Then, when we were 21, over Christmas break, we got wasted and he gave me a ride home. I convinced him to stay over and when we laid down...we shared my queen bed...I started rubbing his foot. Well from there we wound up blowing each other, but neither of us came cause we had been doing morphine too.. The next day I texted him and told him I wanted to finish it but nothing became of it.

...he treats me like shit. He freaks out about everything I do and is always pissed off. He won't hang out at all and when I do talk to him he just is a total asshole and makes me feel horrible...he went out and got some lesbian porn ad spends his every waking moment watching it and jerking off...when he's not yelling at me, that is...and he does it obviously to me. It drives me insane.

..well I found you guys too late. Last night he got hammered and threatened to kill me and smashed up all my shit and sliced up my furniture. We fought and now I'm moving my shit out. Oh and he crushed my dogs esophagus throwing her down stairs. I'm at the vet's now and he's in jail. I'm so embarrased my best friend is locked up for domestic violence. I have really great ne ighbors though. I'm going back home tomorrow and outing him to his crazy redneck parents. This will be interesting. Damn sorry for the drama guys.

 

[KaraBulut]

But gee..... he's "str8" and "just" wants to fuck his other "str8" friend.

There couldn't be any drama in that.

Oh, there's no drama in fucking your straight friend.

All the drama is in the "Oh, shit" that comes the morning after.

 

[rareboy]

Lex nailed it.

Just be honest.