HIV Paranoia

[drhladnjak]

Yes i do roll it down to the shaft, but then sometimes there is at least a 2 to 3 mm of the penis left uncovered...thats what i was worried about, cos when a person goes into full thrust and the bit of the penis uncovered from the shaft goes into ur anus, i was worried that you could contract HIV from that..thats what i was worried about...but then according to what luminum says -uness you have a would, that's harmless..

That skin entering your partner's anus is not risky in and of itself. However, if the thrusting is going that deep, you might be at risk of pulling the condom off when pulling back out. Part of the condom should always be outside of the partner's body. In my own experience, the geometry of both partners' anatomy would seem to preclude that, but if you're somehow doing it, you should be careful.

 

[HiThere7654321]

I guess I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one who's very paranoid about contracting HIV (although I do feel bad for you guys who are as scared and worried about it as I am b/c I know how it feels - and it's miserable).

I consider myself bisexual, although I prefer women, I've never had anal sex, and it's been years since I've engaged in oral sex with a man. With men it's rare, but when I am with a guy it's usually "just" mutual masturbation, body contact, sometimes kissing. I put "just" in quotes because other people seem to think that's no big deal and that those activities are risk-free, but I still worry about them; sometimes I worry a great deal.

I feel more of an emotional connection (as well as the physical) with women, and so I usually know a woman better before we have sex, develop a relationship and know both of our status before having sex, so that's more comfortable for me. With men it's usually more of a one-time or rare thing, and just to "get off" when I don't have a gf and get super horny (the guy always knows this - I never lead anyone on!).

But my point is, no matter what your level of risk has been, it's not worth having that "what if" constantly lingering in the back of your mind. I get tested regularly and so far my tests have been negative (thank God and I hope and pray that it stays that way!). The tests now are very sensitive and accurate, and totally painless - you can have a swab of your mouth done and get the results in 20 minutes! That also eliminates the waiting for the results which is torture!

I'd never tell anyone what to do, but in my experience it's better to get tested and know your status so that you can have all the info you need and take care of yourself and others accordingly and appropriately!

Good Luck with whatever you decide, guys! You're not alone in your worries!!