hmmm, tell me

[pusstboi4you]

i love being dominated by anyone, twinks to daddies, and i like it hard, im starting to think it might be a problem of something....whatdo yall think

 

[bidusking]

It could be bad, even though it is hot to always have a boner.

 

[pusstboi4you]

i meant is it bad that i like getting dominated too much

 

[justsimon]

As long as your partners respect you, it shouldn't be a problem.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Nope, dude. Stay safe and sane and enjoy the ride.

SC

 

[ohioguy7711]

It's not a problem at all, unless you make it a problem by denying it to yourself and your partners.

If you refuse to admit to yourself this is what you want, that in and of itself, will make you nuts. There is nothing inherently wrong with a fetish or sexual desire, but if you bury it, or deny it, two things tend to happen: risky behavior (doing it only when intoxicated, questionable partners, unsafe sexual practices, illegal behavior, etc) and mental illness (the long term denial and anguish can cause the mental and chemical imbalance that lead to depression).

I have made the mistake of taking partners who were just not into any form of Dom/sub. They were nice men, good men, actually, but they could never fulfill certain needs I had. I was afraid to tell them what was going on in my mind so they were never given the chance to even rise to the occasion of being good and full partners in our relationship. Of course, I blamed them. In the end, I was at fault.

Your best bet is to be yourself and to be honest about what it takes to make you sexually happy and fulfilled. Know your limits. Be honest with those people you take as one-nighters, lovers and partners. Be happy with yourself. Do not let other people's judgment make you feel bad about who you are. Yeah, you might get a funny look over cocktails when you tell the hot guy you are cruising that you "want it hard and want be dominated." The reality is, and this is hard to sometimes get a handle on, if he cannot fulfill you, he's not that hot.

And sometimes you will be glad you did. Once, I was at happy hour at a neighborhood gay pub and this guy started talking to me at the bar. He was ten years younger than me, small, preppy, very outgoing and pretty good looking. I had just started down this path of "I am who I am and I like it." I pretty much wrote him off as "not my type/not what I am looking for." Well after a couple of drinks, and against my better judgment, we headed to his place. We never talked about what we both were really interested in. I get back to his place, we make our way to his bedroom and are doing pretty much all the vanilla stuff (all the while I was fantasizing about this guy as a Dom). I notice a BDSM mag next to his bed and look at him and say "are you into this shit?" He froze in place, looked horrified and started making excuses about the magazine. I looked at him told him I am really into it and had been for a while. I was in handcuffs 30 seconds later. The next six months were the best sexual six months I had ever had. If either one of us had been honest with the other from the beginning, well, it would have saved us $20 in beer!

The bottom line: know yourself, be that person without shame and be honest with your partners giving them the chance to fulfill you so you can, in turn, fulfill them.

 

[snapcat]

I don't see any problem with it as long as you have a safe word and have an understanding that all action stops once you say the safe word. In reality, the submissive holds the power in Dom/Sub play. The submissive can end everything at any time by using the safe word.

This is not something just indicative of the gay community. Dom/Sub relationships are also prevalent in heterosexual relationships.

As long as you keep the fantasy in perspective you should be fine. If it starts to creep in outside the bedroom then you could have some potential problems.

 

[bulge]

It's not a problem at all, unless you make it a problem by denying it to yourself and your partners.

If you refuse to admit to yourself this is what you want, that in and of itself, will make you nuts. There is nothing inherently wrong with a fetish or sexual desire, but if you bury it, or deny it, two things tend to happen: risky behavior (doing it only when intoxicated, questionable partners, unsafe sexual practices, illegal behavior, etc) and mental illness (the long term denial and anguish can cause the mental and chemical imbalance that lead to depression).

I have made the mistake of taking partners who were just not into any form of Dom/sub. They were nice men, good men, actually, but they could never fulfill certain needs I had. I was afraid to tell them what was going on in my mind so they were never given the chance to even rise to the occasion of being good and full partners in our relationship. Of course, I blamed them. In the end, I was at fault.

Your best bet is to be yourself and to be honest about what it takes to make you sexually happy and fulfilled. Know your limits. Be honest with those people you take as one-nighters, lovers and partners. Be happy with yourself. Do not let other people's judgment make you feel bad about who you are. Yeah, you might get a funny look over cocktails when you tell the hot guy you are cruising that you "want it hard and want be dominated." The reality is, and this is hard to sometimes get a handle on, if he cannot fulfill you, he's not that hot.

And sometimes you will be glad you did. Once, I was at happy hour at a neighborhood gay pub and this guy started talking to me at the bar. He was ten years younger than me, small, preppy, very outgoing and pretty good looking. I had just started down this path of "I am who I am and I like it." I pretty much wrote him off as "not my type/not what I am looking for." Well after a couple of drinks, and against my better judgment, we headed to his place. We never talked about what we both were really interested in. I get back to his place, we make our way to his bedroom and are doing pretty much all the vanilla stuff (all the while I was fantasizing about this guy as a Dom). I notice a BDSM mag next to his bed and look at him and say "are you into this shit?" He froze in place, looked horrified and started making excuses about the magazine. I looked at him told him I am really into it and had been for a while. I was in handcuffs 30 seconds later. The next six months were the best sexual six months I had ever had. If either one of us had been honest with the other from the beginning, well, it would have saved us $20 in beer!

The bottom line: know yourself, be that person without shame and be honest with your partners giving them the chance to fulfill you so you can, in turn, fulfill them.

One of the greatest posts on the board. I would add you must act upon it, otherwise it comes back in despicable forms.