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Home Wrecker - An accurate term?

Is Homewrecker a fair term?

  • Yes

    Votes: 10 62.5%

  • No

    Votes: 6 37.5%
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I was wondering if you guys here at JUB think that Home Wrecker is an accurate term.

Let's say John has sex with Mario. Mario has a wife. Is John a homewrecker? Besides the fact that Mario's wife will probably never find out about this cheating, is John still wrong for doing this?

I'd like to hear your opinions on this subject! Thanks!
 
Home wrecker might be too intense in some situations, and I'd reserve it for when you actively move in someone's territory with the intent of stealing their man.

However, I do think that it's still wrong, regardless of whether Mario's wife/husband ever finds out. It still counts, even if she's a woman, and it's still an abuse of somebody's trust. A violation of sorts.
 
Rolyo85 said:
Home wrecker might be too intense in some situations, and I'd reserve it for when you actively move in someone's territory with the intent of stealing their man.

However, I do think that it's still wrong, regardless of whether Mario's wife/husband ever finds out. It still counts, even if she's a woman, and it's still an abuse of somebody's trust. A violation of sorts.
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Even if there's no intent to steal anyone, isn't it still wrong to intrude into their relationship without both of their approval?
 
It is. That's what I'm saying in the second paragraph. But to me home wrecking implies intent. That said, it's mostly irrelevant. Cheating is cheating, and helping someone cheat is helping them cheat, regardless of what terms you'll use and what the circumstances are.
 
Rolyo85 said:
It is. That's what I'm saying in the second paragraph. But to me home wrecking implies intent. That said, it's mostly irrelevant. Cheating is cheating, and helping someone cheat is helping them cheat, regardless of what terms you'll use and what the circumstances are.
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I agree 100%. The fact is that Mario cheated. Maybe he didn't want to harm his wife but nonetheless he did it and he knows it will hurt her if she finds out.

I feel that people like John don't ever think deeply into what they're doing.
 
Rolyo85 said:
Sometimes they do. You're not guilty if you didn't know. But if you knew, and still did it, that's ugly.

That said, it's not always a choice when emotions are strong...
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Of course if John didn't know Mario had a wife, then he's innocent!
 
Rolyo85 basically covered my thoughts on the subject.

It doesn't really rise to homewrecking unless you're there with the intent to steal someone else's man and are actively infringing upon the couple's territory.
 
altlover85 said:
Rolyo85 basically covered my thoughts on the subject.

It doesn't really rise to homewrecking unless you're there with the intent to steal someone else's man and are actively infringing upon the couple's territory.
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Can you give me a situation where you're NOT infringing upon the couple's territory...?
 
yes - it's accurate

we should try to determine what are actions will have on others

if we're aware of the situation and know that our partner is married/cheating

it's on us and well as them
 
The married guy is the one who bears the responsibility.
 
Seasoned said:
The married guy is the one who bears the responsibility.
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agreed. i think the negativity towards "the other guy" (or "the other woman") is always a little exagerated, because they are, from the perspective of almost everybody invoved, "easier to hate". sure, they were also involved. but they were not the ones that broke promises and betrayed a loved ones trust. all that they are really guilty of is being selfish and inconsiderate. the married/commited party is guilty of much more, lying and betrayal.

(btw, have you ever really listened to the lyrics to whitney houstons "saving all my love for you"? i always liked the song because of its melody, but goodness, those lyrics are kinda shocking, arent they?)
 
I never said guilt is evenly distributed. But the fact that the married party is a lot more to blame doesn't change the fact that you enable him to do it. Also, I don't think a person has too much self-respect if they put themselves in that situation...
 
Darted said:
Can you give me a situation where you're NOT infringing upon the couple's territory...?
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Well, that depends on how broadly you define territory.

Some people can cheat and never develop feelings for the other person and in that case I don't see it as being directly harmful to the relationship unless the cheater brings home an STD.

The real issue in the relationship is the fact that the cheater doesn't care about breaking the monogamy that the couple had agreed upon. If the couple hadn't agreed upon monogamy, it makes the whole cheating issue a moot point.

One side note is, in my opinion, you should always have a talk about the parameters of your relationship and never assume monogamy.
 
Rolyo85 said:
I don't agree with that at all. I think monogamy, being the norm, should be assumed, and everything ELSE should be discussed.
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The reason why I think monogamy shouldn't be assumed is because to assume monogamy is to put your health at risk. You could think your boyfriend is being monogamous and instead be at risk for contracting STD's because he assumed things were not monogamous. You both assumed something without talking about it first and personally, I'd rather be safe than sorry.

I think there's less of a chance of hurt feelings when you communicate about things, especially thing related to your health, as opposed to assuming things.

Ultimately, Rolyo85, I think we both agree on the importance of communicating so you aren't at risk of assuming things one way or the other.
 
Even if you're not in the relationship, you're still knowingly the home wrecker. It doesn't matter if she finds out tomorrow or 10 years from now. The point is you still fucked him, and the consequences of that are just as relevant in the present as they would be in the future.
 
Just_Believe18 said:
Even if you're not in the relationship, you're still knowingly the home wrecker. It doesn't matter if she finds out tomorrow or 10 years from now. The point is you still fucked him, and the consequences of that are just as relevant in the present as they would be in the future.
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But if the one cheated on never finds out, what is the consequence if the person who cheats doesn't feel remorse for his or her actions?
 
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