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Honesty or False Praise

What is more important in friends?

  • False Praise

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Harsh Truth

    Votes: 32 84.2%

  • I have NO friends

    Votes: 6 15.8%
  • Total voters
    38
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what is a more important trait for you to have in your friends?

someone who will praise you even though you know it's not true, or someone who will give you the truth even if its not easy to hear?

Why?

What are your experiences with this?

Is a person who praises you falsely really a friend?

Is a person who tells you things you may not like hearing really a friend?
 
I want to have the truth, even when it hurts. I might not like it at that time, but later, I always see the real friendship.
 
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Harsh truth, obviously. But I would hope that my friends would be classy enought o temper harsh truth with consideration.

Peopel who use the false pretense of 'keeping it real' are just making excuses for the fact that they have no class or skill in dealing with people.
 
well you could hardly call someone that you don't think of as classy as a friend ;) . I have tolerated obnoxious people, but never felt close to them.

toleration and admiration are two different animals.

the line of tolerance is different tho for everyone and thats not what i'm asking about.

i am asking specifically what is a more important aspect of a friendship, assuming that the friendship is valid for some reason.
 
Truth; but it must be given opportunely. If you don't know somebody,truth must be delivered gently, not harshly.
In fact, recalling my Tibetan Buddhist teachings, truth is useless unless it teaches everyone something that makes them better. It might be harsh, it might be not-so-harsh. It might be articulated into a teaching-story: an age-old psychological teaching-method.
 
it would seem that no one likes false praise

or...

rephrase.. cause an ego stroke can be nice OCASSIONALLY

it would seem that if you had to choose between the two, no one would prefer false praise if honesty was sacrificed

not suprising.

i can't trust people that heap too much overt praise on anyone.

i always wonder about their motives

but i am someone that is a bit suspicious of people by nature, so i dont think that i am the norm.
 
I prefer honesty over praise. It is something that I expect from my true friends and it is something that I give in return.

False praise and the rampant stroking of one's ego cannot be healthy. Don't get me wrong, it's nice when someone strokes your ego for a bit but if you go around looking for it all the time? I would think something is amiss or lacking.
 
I expect a friend to be honest, otherwise he's not helping me. I'd want my friend to correct me, and give good advice. A friend that only praises me is after something other than friendship.
 
OK -- This has got to be a TRICK question....

Truthful praise ANYDAY!!!

But... then again, I ALWAYS look at the GOOD in people

Its HARD for me to dislike anyone -- they must be TOTALLY obnoxious. So hurtful truth has never even been a consideration for me.
 
The truth, regardless of the "harshness", can still be presented in a loving and supportive way.

I am soooooo uncomfortable with people "sucking up", but, in business, it is important to know who is telling the truth, and who is full of flase praise.

In my personal life, my father and my partner both love telling me the truth, no matter how "harsh".

The truth is the truth, right?
 
WHO's truth? My truth? Your truth? What is the truth? Perspective is an obective concept, complicated by neurons & a lens in your eye.

Just lie to me damn it.
 
I don't really have any good friends at the moment, but I always prefer honesty. It's nice if it's tactful, though.
 
Well I marked harsh truth but I don't think telling a friend the truth needs to be done harshly. The truth may be harsh but there are ways of sharing it that can be gentle and supportive.
I would absolutely hate the fact that someone I considered a friend would not be honest with me. What the hell are good friends for anyway?
 
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