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Honeymoon Phase = OVER :(

I agree ninja. But getting it out of my head and into a discussion on here helps me fine tune my thought views and feelings to better prepare and conduct myself when actually approaching it with him.

I always spoke my mind with my last bf and had complete communication with him but we had been together longer. I'm still learning things about my current guy and just want to make sure I handle the situation appropriately with him so I don't miscommunicate and hurt his feelings. People really latch onto words and statements regardless of context so I just want to make sure I say what I mean and say it in the right way.
 
Hey, J! :wave:

I may not be one of your more vocal "Uncles", but I do consider myself one of that group, and have been quietly following you ... as well as them, as I do. (group)

What I'm hearing is not so much doubts about Him, but more questioning, internal doubts, about YOU! And, at your age, I can totally understand all of that! #-o

My sincere advice would be ... don't let Yourself get in Your own way! Take a deep breath! RELAX!! Try to look past Yourself!!! ..|

Yes, historic, and related, experiences can color your own feelings, and judgments. However, this is a NEW Guy! He is NOT the same, and will never be, quite like what you have run into before. Similar, in some aspects, perhaps. But, still, He is still Different! And, imposing old expectations is not only unfair to Him, but also not fair to You! [-X

In this situation, try to ignore Everything you think you have "learned", and enjoy Him for who he truly is, and where both of you are Now! Stop PROJECTING!! ](*,)

Give both of your futures a chance to work themselves out! Each day is different than the one before. Take each one as a progression, on it's own merits. Don't let either of your pasts drag you back! (!)

Focus your views on FORWARD! If it all works out Great, then that's Fantastic! And, if it doesn't, then at least you tried, and will be able to honestly look back without regrets. Give both of you a chance! \:/

Trust me when I say, regrets mostly come from what we DIDN'T do! Don't let your possible future times, with this guy, go into the "R Column" because of your own, so far unfocused, vague, doubts! (group)

Of course ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz :luv:
 
^ Some great advice there, as well as from the earlier posts.
 
You guys are some great. Chaz, thanks for the post. You have all in your own way provided me with some great advice

And uncle chaz, I already hav a real life uncle.C ...so u can be my c.2 ;)
 
Kyanimal said:
Hey, J! :wave:

I may not be one of your more vocal "Uncles", but I do consider myself one of that group, and have been quietly following you ... as well as them, as I do. (group)

What I'm hearing is not so much doubts about Him, but more questioning, internal doubts, about YOU! And, at your age, I can totally understand all of that! #-o

My sincere advice would be ... don't let Yourself get in Your own way! Take a deep breath! RELAX!! Try to look past Yourself!!! ..|

Yes, historic, and related, experiences can color your own feelings, and judgments. However, this is a NEW Guy! He is NOT the same, and will never be, quite like what you have run into before. Similar, in some aspects, perhaps. But, still, He is still Different! And, imposing old expectations is not only unfair to Him, but also not fair to You! [-X

In this situation, try to ignore Everything you think you have "learned", and enjoy Him for who he truly is, and where both of you are Now! Stop PROJECTING!! ](*,)

Give both of your futures a chance to work themselves out! Each day is different than the one before. Take each one as a progression, on it's own merits. Don't let either of your pasts drag you back! (!)

Focus your views on FORWARD! If it all works out Great, then that's Fantastic! And, if it doesn't, then at least you tried, and will be able to honestly look back without regrets. Give both of you a chance! :/

Trust me when I say, regrets mostly come from what we DIDN'T do! Don't let your possible future times, with this guy, go into the "R Column" because of your own, so far unfocused, vague, doubts! (group)

Of course ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz :luv:
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This!!!! Brilliant advice and not just for you but all of us!
 
Hmmmm

My 2 cents

3 mos. Is very soon for honeymoon ending

My current relationship is 2 1/2 yrs young and I would estimate the honeymoon at prob 1 1/2 yrs ;)

I was soooooo infatuated etc for the longest time - he could do no
Wrong

But everyone is diff

This - loving him - but seeing flaws or whatever - is better

Seems to me that either:

You're just not into him
Or
You're looking for flaws - and it's in your nature

Only you know

As for pots and pans ....... Seems nit picky

Still love ya and wish the best for ya

Life is funny
 
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