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Hook Ups vs Relationship

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It doesn't really matter if you are gay, straight, bisexual or whatever else...we all would like to be loved and have that special connection with someone. With that said, we don't all need it right now. I have noticed by reading posts from this forum, the relationship guys have a hard time understanding those of us who only want sex. So let me just give you my perspective and anybody else who wants to chime in...please do!

Safe sex is a must, let me get that clear now. When I bottom for a guy, or couple of guys as I have done that once, there are no love type emotions involved. Truth is for me, it is the taboo nature of what I am doing that excites me. I don't know this guy, we just met online...and now I have his big cock down my throat. Here we are in my motel room, no idea what his name is...but he is pounding my hole and I am taking it like a dirty slut. It is exciting and naughty, and that is why I do it.

I am sure that may offend some, and others are totally liking what I said. It is just different for us all. If relationships are your thing, I hope you find someone who truly makes you happy. If you are like me...have fun!
 
You're reading about relationships here because this is JUB's relationship forum. Some people want them, others don't and every person and/or every couple decides how to live their life.

Pre-HIV there was some animosity towards couplings in the gay community and one of the benefits of being gay was escaping parenthood. Straights were derisively referred to a breeders. It's mind blowing how fast things can change.

Humans in general seem to do better when they discover like-minded folks to support their belief system.

We all ought to be aware everyone is entitled to organize their life within legal parameters. Do keep in mind that just as there are heavy drinkers and also alcoholics, there are also people seeking many partners and there are sex addicts. In other words, only the person doing the activity knows whether or not it's a compulsion.

I don't think there's an issue that guys who just want sex are misunderstood. I think it's a given that we all understand sex can be a priority in a gay man's life (or, any guy, for that matter), and that it can be a struggle to remain faithful.

If this is going to be a discussion in this forum rather than in Hot Topics contributors will need to be respectful of one another.

Frankly, I don't think this warrants much discussion. Unless one's sex or relationship choices causes one problems or involves non-consenting or underage partners one is free to do as one pleases.
 
Right now, I just want hot, passionate sex and lots of it. I enjoy getting fucked by different guys. Each fuck session is a new experience.
 
In my fantasy, this kind of pure sex makes sense to me. In reality, for me, it's not an option, as I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone I don't know at all.

My sex drive is lower than my security drive.

I don't need love, though. Just someone I feel well with.
 
Update, for clarification (the edit option was timed out already):

With "knowing" someone, I mean I have to see him in person, ideally within a radius of a meter to feel his aura, before I decide if I want to have sex with him or not. I'd need not more than a minute. But I don't want to do such kind of "real life check" in a sex-date. I'd need to do that before I have my first sex-goal-communication with him. It would be ok in a date with open end.
 
Just like it happens in straight relationships, you may start out with a purely sexual experience with someone...find out you really like each other and then down the road it becomes exclusive, or open relationship. That is how a lot of swingers start out.
 
KölnElch said:
In my fantasy, this kind of pure sex makes sense to me. In reality, for me, it's not an option, as I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone I don't know at all.

My sex drive is lower than my security drive.

I don't need love, though. Just someone I feel well with.
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I love what you said there about sex drive vs security...that plays a big part. That can even relate to relationships as well. Your attraction to him may be strong, but insecurity can rob you of the experience.
 
mbamike said:
Right now, I just want hot, passionate sex and lots of it. I enjoy getting fucked by different guys. Each fuck session is a new experience.
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That is exactly how I feel! Its not just the fact of being with different men, it is like a new journey each time.
 
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