Hooked Up! What Next?

[Riverrick]

You are narcissistic, selfish, manipulative, and passive-aggressive.

Good luck finding a "relationship."

Please get some help!

No. He's Newboy12. It would be disappointing if he were any other way.

 

[amyleeisjesus]

At least he makes funny posts <3.

 

[wentworth]

I hooked up with the slim dude 2 days ago and i really liked him which is a no no to begin with because you dont want to get feelings for a hook up. It should just be about the hookup especially if you met them on myspace.

So anyways we hook up but we kinda hit it off socially as well. So i told him i know i wont be hearing from you again since we hooked up already, then he says i will call you, and then i say, whatever because guys usually dont call.

So when i get home from the hook, he calls me saying, i told you id call. But then i said you only called because i said you wouldnt. Truth is i really wanted him to call me but you cant let the guy know that. So anyways we are talking and he is asking how my day was and all friendly like.

Then he says he will call me back because he is getting a beep. Good thing i didnt hold my breath because up until this moment i havent heard from him via phone. So ofcourse i immediately thought that he went and hooked up with someone else, and that bothered me and i dont know why. I mean we arent together but i dont want him hooking up with other guys. Apart of me was hoping he didnt do that but i knew he did.

So in away he is tainted.

I immediately went into Monk, Veronica Mars, Inspector Gadget (Penny) mode and i checked his myspace to try and track down who it was that he could have hooked up with last night and only one guy (we will call him NJK) visited his profile last night and this was around 5:30pm after he would have come from work. So just enough time for him to arrange a hook up. Luckily NJK was online so i sent him a friend request, and he accepeted it. Minutes later we were talking on instant messenger so i asked him what did he do last night. And now i wish i hadnt.


He is such a queen, and he told me how he hooked up with this hot guy. So i said describe him to me, and he did and it confirmed my suspicions that my hookup did infact hookup with NJK last night, 2 days after we had hooked up.

How messed up is that? Then awhile ago the the man sent me a message, saying whats up sexy like nothing is wrong. You see he doesnt know that i know what he has been up to. He didnt strike me as a player but he sure fooled me.

So once again i have confirmed that i am not cut out for hook ups. I dont get how guys can just jump from one guy to the next like its no big deal and dont get emotionally attached to a person. Its like its just sex for sex sakes and in this day and age guys cant be so promiscuous.

I guess im just pissed that he was so sexy and hot and the hook up was so good and i wanted him for myself but it was just a hook up. Its just that i thought we connected and it could lead to something serious. Now that he went and had sex with that other guy i dont want him anymore. He is still sexy but his character is dirty and messed up. Who knows how many there were before me.

After this experience i doubt i will be hooking up anytime soon.

Ah well i guess its just me and my hand tonight.

I have been giving out this advice for free to fellow gays on this board for quite some time now:

Get off of the internet and cell phone.

Myspace

AIM

Texting

Those are the sources of endless drama and heartbreak the world over for gays.
Life will simplify so much more when you do the face-to-face thing. 100% simpler--guaranteed.

Good to see you developing so well. Time was when others here didn't know how to respond to you.

 

[Danugh]

I have been giving out this advice for free to fellow gays on this board for quite some time now:

Get off of the internet and cell phone.

Myspace

AIM

Texting

Those are the sources of endless drama and heartbreak the world over for gays.
Life will simplify so much more when you do the face-to-face thing. 100% simpler--guaranteed.

Good to see you developing so well. Time was when others here didn't know how to respond to you.

Where was this before i met my latest disappointment?

So i met this guy online. He is bisexual and super DL. He asked me to come spend the night at his place. I said id just come and chill and see how things went; but he insisted on me staying so eventually i gave in.

He ended up talking about his ex lover the entire time. They broke up a month a go and apparently he is not over him. He said he is so used to sleeping with someone every night so he was lonely and thats why he wanted me to stay over.

Thank goodness he never had a condom or else we might have gone all the way and then i would have felt used because he would be thinking about his ex while doing the nasty with me and thats not cool. Its like Grey's Anatomy this week when Addison was thinking about Alex while Mark was inside her.

I mean he is a nice enough guy but i was just a rebound cuddler for him.

Why can't i find a guy that will be my guy. I am always meeting guys who are emotionally unavailable.

Then i was watching "My Boys" earlier and according to that show if a guy doesnt call you within 4 days after you hooked up or had a date then he is not interested and wont call again.

Today is day 4 and i havent heard from him.

Yes it was kinda supposed be a hook up but we kinda connected, i thought we could have at least been friends; but no he got his fix thats it.

It really is better to meet a guy face to face. The only problem is that face to face guys are also internet guys.


Dating was so much easier before the internet. Guys dont invest in men anymore. If something goes wrong instead of trying to work it out, they just log on and meet someone new just like that.

 

[Danugh]

So slim dude got a new myspace page with fake pictures and messaged me, saying if i just want a fu_k i should have just told him.

He is messed up.

I finally get over him and he is trying to weasle back into my life.

I messaged him back and told him whats what.

Unless it wasnt him that would be embarassing. But given the stats and the content of the message it had to be th slim dude.

 

[Danugh]

A_shole. Its been over a day and he hasnt messaged me back. He is online with his real profile but hasnt checked his fake profile to see if i responded.

How dare he message me after i got him out of my system and then disappear again, now i have to go through withdrawl again.

Online guys are a mess. They just play with peoples emotions.

Its just not right i tell you.

 

[skaterboi]

IMO its your own fault for not laying your cards on the table and letting this guy know how it is. Unless he knows you want a serious relationship then he will still hook-up with other people.
You're just making things worse yourself, you keep saying you're over them and not bothered. But keep posting back here about him. If you can't even make up your own mind how the hell is he suppose to know what you want.
I've never dated anyone, but if you need to meet people over the internet instead of face to face then (IMHO) you must lack some vital social skills.
Get a grip on reality, grow up and take charge of your own life and stop playing games. If you wanted him enough you would call him, why should he have to be the one to call you?

 

[Danugh]

^ Ouch much?

Good luck, cause that shit won't fly for long and once word gets around, see how many dates you get.

Well he doesnt know that i investigated him. All he knows is that i stopped talking to him.

But you know my message counts have been less ever since so i dont know if he is bad mouthing me because nobody has been biting.

OMG...one hook up and you're stalking the guy...checking up on his friends...double dealing.

Yes it was one hook up but we connected, and he made me think that he wanted something more. I mean called me to make sure i reached home ok. Then he calls me the next day, and said he was thinking about me in a non sexual way. Then in the night he calls me and we are talking, its all going good and then he tell me he is getting a beep i gotto go and ill call you back which he never did.

Well i am over this guy, but this other guy thay i dissmissed 2 and half years ago, out ouf the blue emailed me today, hoping "all is well' with me.

He had tried to contact me prior but i ignored it, i just wanted him out of my life.

So anyways i emailed him back.

But his email got me to thinking.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Man, you love your drama, even when you're the only player in it. Everyone else has moved on and you're flipping the lamp switch on and off.

Seriously, you need to re-evaulate yourself as a person and step outside of yourself and realize what you are doing. Ask yourself, "Is this healthy?" "Who am I?" "What am I doing to myself?"

I'd even take a break from guys for awhile. Just until you can handle post-ejaculations.

 

[Danugh]

Seriously, you need to re-evaulate yourself as a person and step outside of yourself and realize what you are doing. Ask yourself, "Is this healthy?" "Who am I?" "What am I doing to myself?"

I'd even take a break from guys for awhile.

You are probably right and it is definity not healthy. I think i really need a break and get myself together. I need to look out for me.

 

[Something Else]

following up on Just_Believe18's great advice of Introspection

I think questions that you should consider asking yourself, are these:

What is it that I really want within a relationship (ranging from NSA sex to possible LTR) with a guy?

Are the guys I've shown interest in going to *satisfy* the wants and/or needs that I'm looking for?

Am I comfortable when DRAMA is NOT in my life? Or do I, subconsciously, find ways to re-introduce it into my life?

Am I capable of being happy being single AND not with someone?

Or do I think less of myself that I don't have anyone with me?


finding out what YOU really want, will help you get better results. And asking yourself the tougher questions will get you there.

 

[Danugh]

Thanx all i will ponder all these questions.

 

[Danugh]

So i was checking my myspace and i see a message from the initial guy that cheated on me with the other guy.

He says he really wanted to get to know me more and he couldnt understand why i just ended communication with him and blocked him.

I liked him too.

What is wrong with me?

So then i called him and he accepted the call but by his tone i could tell he wanted me to get off the phone so i ended the call.

Ahh well, another day, another man.

if only he wasnt so sexy itd be easier to get over it, but i'll be ok.


You know what i cant do this anymore do this anymore, next time, if there is a next time, no matter how badly i am treated or how disrespected i feel, i will not be the one to end a realtionship. I wont be the one to burn the bridge, oh no, those days are over. I shall be submissive and obedient and take it like a man.

What did the wife do when she found out her husband was gay?

She bent over and took it like a man.