Hooking up w/ a married straight guy and I REALLY like him

[mikemizanin729]

Um. Actually people are just slut shaming me but ok.

How can you be slut shamed by anyone here when you already admitted that you would suck a million cocks and fuck tons of guys?

You slut shamed all by yourself.

 

[mikemizanin729]

If I wanna suck a million dicks a day, I will because I can.

You would have to find a dick willing to allow it first.

 

[TrixieMattel]

Since you're ok with the situation, then don't tell him, as he doesn't want anything serious.

I'm really not ok with the situation though. I want more and I don't just wanna have sex. But he's married and I really don't think he's ready to leave his wife let alone start dating me so I'm so confused omg it's like I want more but if I tell him that he'll freak out...but if I don't tell him I at least get to see him and be intimate with him :/

 

[TrixieMattel]

How can you be slut shamed by anyone here when you already admitted that you would suck a million cocks and fuck tons of guys?

You slut shamed all by yourself.

Even if I am a slut, why do you care? Wtf are you gonna do about it lmao?

 

[Telstra]

So I met this "straight" guy on grindr who has a wife and a kid. He's 29 and I'm 19. We've been hooking up behind his wife's back but I really like him and I'm getting feelings for him but he doesn't want anything serious. Should I tell him how I feel?? If I do I think he might not wanna see me anymore

Also before anyone comes in this thread and calls me a slut/homewrecker/whore etc. let me just say I don't care lol. Even if I am a whore wtf r u gonna do about it? You aren't fucking me. Mind your own business.

Anyway should I tell this guy I like him and see what he says?? I've never had a boyfriend before and I don't have a lot of experience with boys so I'm not used to all of this

umm if you want to have fun with him.
Don't tell him about your feelings ... just normal text (no sexting) and go from there.

 

[mikemizanin729]

Even if I am a slut, why do you care? Wtf are you gonna do about it lmao?

What if you catch STD or something...??? Then you spread it about? It could happen.

It's STD city .

 

[TrixieMattel]

What if you catch STD or something...??? Then you spread it about? It could happen.

First of all I've only had sex with two men in my whole entire life. But even if I got fucked by a different guy every day of the week I still wouldn't be a slut. There's nothing wrong with casual sex and having multiple sex partners and people like you, who think slut shaming is an ok or funny thing to do are so immature and disgusting. Anyway I don't have any std's

 

[mikemizanin729]

There's nothing wrong with casual sex and having multiple sex partners

Even if it's with a married guy like you say he is...??? Some may call you a slut for sleeping with a married man. It's to be expected isn't it?

I'm just saying lil trixie.

 

[Vitamin]

I'm really not ok with the situation though. I want more and I don't just wanna have sex. But he's married and I really don't think he's ready to leave his wife let alone start dating me so I'm so confused omg it's like I want more but if I tell him that he'll freak out...but if I don't tell him I at least get to see him and be intimate with him :/

You just summed up your exact situation perfectly. And the truth is you're the only one who can decide what to do about it.

No, it's not fair that society and parents can make children feel so ashamed about their inherent homosexuality that they marry someone whose incapable of satisfying them just to please others, and it's certainly not fair that you would wind up in his bed hoping for more. But that's the way it is.

Now you have to make a decision. "Can I move past these feelings for this guy, and continue to be his occasional fwb, or do I have to break this off now so I don't wind up turning into a batshit crazy bitch later?" Online forums can't answer this question for you. That's something you have to reflect on, and decide for yourself what you're capable of. Good luck.

 

[luckynumbah7]

First of all I've only had sex with two men in my whole entire life. But even if I got fucked by a different guy every day of the week I still wouldn't be a slut.

You try and use all these social justice terms and they don't mean what you think they do. Did you buy a pocket guide and just figure that no one else would notice you only skimmed it? And that's being generous.

Slut shaming is getting insulted for having, wanting to have or having someone think you or your behavior embodies the stereotype of the whore in the maddoña/whore dichotomy. Nowhere does it say that slut isn't a term for, well, quite a few things. Insisting that you're not a slut when you randomly fuck people is disingenuous. Insisting you just don't like the word because of negative connotations is not.

What you've missed is that the word slut in itself is being deliberately encouraged to be considered a neutral term when using that argument. When you're arguing about your actions being your own and no one else's business or concern it's a fucking stupid idea to talk about slut shaming while also pretending the word is automatically bad while the behavior it describes is just peachy. That's not reclaiming a word, that's just trying to wriggle out of using your head.i

Also, since slut shaming is related to the Madonna/whore dichotomy (in fact it's a strong example of the whore aspect) I find it odd that you're trying to use it. Because men don't get shamed for fucking. Men are expected to have sex. But they do get teased for fucking stupidly with married men because...married. Making a not good decision and getting called on it isn't the same thing.

In other words, that's not slut shaming. Ask whomever you got that feminist pamphlet from to explain shit again.


*if iI were you I'd also get an sti panel. If he's lieing to his wife about fucking you what the hell makes you think he hasn't picked up sti's from other men and just shared the wealth with you? You know, because cheating is such honest behavior.

 

[vacancy3]

Lol....this will not end well. You are a dumbass....delete

 

[TrixieMattel]

You just summed up your exact situation perfectly. And the truth is you're the only one who can decide what to do about it.

No, it's not fair that society and parents can make children feel so ashamed about their inherent homosexuality that they marry someone whose incapable of satisfying them just to please others, and it's certainly not fair that you would wind up in his bed hoping for more. But that's the way it is.

Now you have to make a decision. "Can I move past these feelings for this guy, and continue to be his occasional fwb, or do I have to break this off now so I don't wind up turning into a batshit crazy bitch later?" Online forums can't answer this question for you. That's something you have to reflect on, and decide for yourself what you're capable of. Good luck.

Thank you omg! You're right, I really need to think about what I want and I think I want a relationship but he doesn't so maybe it's just best to stop seeing him and talking to him so I don't drive myself crazy and I agree with everything you said about how sad it is that a Gay man married a woman and has to stay in the closet because he's so ashamed of who he is. Its really sad omg Idk what to do but thank you so much for this post! <3

 

[mikemizanin729]

Are you a Paris Hilton fan Trixie...?

 

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@TrixieMattel

You are baiting and insulting other members.