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[hotlatinchulo348]

Can you find someone worth dating or getting to know on a hookup site or an app? What do you guys think? I can't help but think of that future question, "Oh how did you guys meet?"

 

[hotb0d]

I used adam4adam and I met many new friends on there and I am dating someone whom I met on there also. I actually really like that website. A few people have asked us how we met and we always replied: oh the usual.

erm there's also connexion.org. It's a nice play to meet new people, it's a bit hectic for a dating website though.

 

[hylas]

I can't help but think of that future question, "Oh how did you guys meet?"

are you implying that its embarassing to say that you met on the net? get over it, its silly.

and yeah, its possible to find love on the net, but not easy. especially compared to how easy it is to get laid.

 

[TX-Beau]

It's not easy to find love anywhere, and while I think it's perfectly possible to meet someone on the net - I don't think it's possible to have a relationship through pixels and chat.

People meet in all kinds of different ways. If you met on some kind of academic board, would you care if people knew? Or - as I suspect, you wouldn't want people to know you were on a hook-up site, looking for ass.

Up to you, I wouldn't care much probably.

 

[wunderboi]

i met the love of my life on myspace of all godforsaken places. we are happily together still.

 

[Nomenclature]

Meeting "the right person" is something that happens by complete chance most of the time. Yes, it's theoretically possible that you can meet your future husband on Manhunt, but it's highly, highly unlikely that'll actually happen. You have a much better chance meeting men who aren't only interested in "How soon can you fuck me?"

 

[ericwhitney]

Answering how you guys met - is the easy part. getting to a place where people want to ask you is the hard part.

there are plenty of guys worth dating and getting to know on hookup sites. but the large proportion of them are in the hook-up stage of their lives, which is why they are on the hookup site in the first place. if you are looking for monogamy, think about where you are going to find other guys with that same value and go there.

btw - despite what I've said about proportions, ppl meet each other in all kinds of ways and become boyfriends whether they put out on the first date or get to know each other first. there is one thing I've noticed categorically, however. if a guy has a picture of his anus in his profile, he's not looking for monogamy.

 

[soulseeker]

I just deleted my account on manhunt. When I do that, I feel tremendous relief like a huge weight has been lifted off. I have encountered nothing good from those sites. Come to think of it, it's a waste of time to find love on there. It's like finding dolphin in the middle of Sahara, or finding coconut tree in Alaska. On these sites, your "value" is determined by cock size not by personality. I learned my lesson. I am too naive to even try them. Oh well, life is full of bruises. You got to learn how to grow thick skins on a softened heart.

 

[Audio Tech]

I just deleted my account on manhunt. When I do that, I feel tremendous relief like a huge weight has been lifted off. I have encountered nothing good from those sites. Come to think of it, it's a waste of time to find love on there. It's like finding dolphin in the middle of Sahara, or finding coconut tree in Alaska. On these sites, your "value" is determined by cock size not by personality. I learned my lesson. I am too naive to even try them. Oh well, life is full of bruises. You got to learn how to grow thick skins on a softened heart.

I tried that too. Honestly, I am disgusted with the whole thing. These sites bring out the "best" of the Gay culture, it seems. I tried it this way just to meet some new people to begin with, since I am somewhat busy in my life. Just forget it. And the other sites try to blackmail you into a costly subscription to see if anyone is interested. Please.... what a bunch of BS.

Since I don't want "hookups", NO ONE, absolutely NO ONE wants to talk to me. Well, screw them. I may or may not find someone to share my life with, but so be it. Honestly, I have more self respect than that.

But I'm also new to this, so I had to try it. I'm glad I did, and I'm grateful to those who have given me some very solid and insightful advice recently. It has opened my eyes to what I do, and do NOT want. Hookup sites are not one of them.

Oh, I should mention that if you are 18-25 and JUST want sex, those sites are probably great! But at that age, should you really NEED them?

 

[Sha-Rok]

My friend uses this iphone app called Grindr. I've used adam4adam and I met great people like my bf and made a few friends. When people ask how we met a simple answer: blind date.

 

[soulseeker]

Well one advantage of being older is you can get on manhunt and go through the ads pretty quickly. Even for a largish city like Calgary ... I usually find a few people to chat with and will meet next time I'm down there. But I apply extensive screening before I arrange even a meeting.
Just look how people present themselves. Their picture (or lack of it) and what they say (or don't). 99% are just on for a quick hookup are looking for an image and young. Then you are left with 1%.....2 ads one of whom you would want to meet. The n you meet and deal with the odds of things going further.
Easier just to go to a bar or join a singles activity group.
On the net people can be so "online" but offline in the real world so "offline and unavailable"...

The odds of you finding someone decent on there who love you for you given that you are not a porn star and have a brain is 0.0000000000001%. You have much better chance of winning lottery than that. And I haven't won anything in my life.