Hookups: do you ever schedule them?

[Lube]

(OK, those of you who don't do hookups or don't have fwb's or fb's, please exit this thread now.)

Do you ever set up dates/times to hookup with a fuckbuddy or friend-with-benefits, or is it always spontaneous?

Your thoughts, please.

 

[confusedboy23]

Bit of both. Spontaneuos when really horny, but they can be pre-arranged for the next day or two (never more than that!).

 

[gmoney]

Never have done the hook up thing. But I'm sure if it's something agreed to online or the phone, then scheduling a meet up or hook up seems to be imperative. Anything that develops from that I would hope to be spontaneous.

 

[antdak]

I have on very few occasions, not spontaneous tho, had time and place. I don't do hookups any more.

 

[slobone]

Never had a friend with benefits -- they always ended up falling in love, ugh. But I don't see any reason why you can't make a date with them, just like you might with a (platonic) friend. "Hey, you doing anything tomorrow night? You want to get together?". You don't have to say, together for what? Let nature take its course.

PS It probably helps if there's at least one other thing you like to do together, in case it turns out one or both of you isn't in the mood. Scrabble, or whatever.

 

[Green_Man_007]

(OK, those of you who don't do hookups or don't have fwb's or fb's, please exit this thread now.)

Do you ever set up dates/times to hookup with a fuckbuddy or friend-with-benefits, or is it always spontaneous?

Your thoughts, please.

I call it "dating," even with fuck buddies. Sometimes one of us will call the other, and say something like, "I'm horny. Wanna grab something at [name of restaurant]?" After eating, and nice converstaion, we get busy.

Other times it's just, "got a couple hours to come out and play?"

There are also times we see each other in a chat room, and decide to hookup right then.

 

[runner]

I schedule one almost every saturday morning.

 

[Lube]

Wow, quite the variety, guys!

I've tried scheduling with a couple guys, but they never seem to want to get to a specific time. Maybe it's that whole commitment problem guys have.

Sometimes I like to schedule, so I can purposely not j/o beforehand, to build up some extra horniness. Mentally building up to it, too, makes it more intense for me.

 

[teh_nathan]

I used to a few times but those involved never talked to me anymore..and I felt used for that particualr purpose (which technically that was true, 'hookups' are just using each other after all, but if you choose not to talk to someone at least say why, don't be an ass about it).

 

[sweet_taboo]

A little bit of both...

 

[thewiz]

Sometimes I do...sometimes they have just happened at the spur of the moment....