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How acurate is "Gaydar"

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Ok, so I have this weird feeling about some people like they are checking me out or something. Its a diff feeling than when other people look or w/e

Hard to explain. But how accurate is this?

I don't want to go up to them and be hey lets hang out or w/e and they would pretty much say "Fuck off"

Thanks
 
For me, "gaydar" is not very accurate. I'm always the last to figure out someone is really gay and tend to disbelieve others' gaydars at the outset. Although, I have some friends (and my partner is one of them) who has finely tuned gaydar and can spot a gay person a mile away. Oh well.

Being cruised is something else. It's a sixth-sense kind of thing where you just sense, out of the corner of your eye, someone looking you up and down. Train yourself to become super-sensitive to this and look back, make eye contact, nod and smile (if you're interested). See how they respond. If they've been "caught" eying you, but don't want you to know (the "fuck off" crowd), then they'll divert their eyes and leave your presence. If they're equally interested in starting a conversation, they'll nod back, smile back, and show other nonverbal "approachableness."

It's tricky, but can be kind of fun in the right mood.
 
Like he said, sounds like cruising to me. If you have a feeling that someone is checking you out, subtly return the advancement (If interested).
 
My "gaydar" is pretty good, I'd say. It's been kind of fine tuned at the gym showers, ahha. And some I thought were gay, but never let their guard down to me, did turn out to be gay when I walked into the sauna one day. ahah. Although some of them are just straight as an arrow. So I'd say about 70-75% accurate.
 
I go through phases. Some days, I can be spot on with it; other days I'm absolutely off.

Sometimes its just so blatantly obvious that you can really chalk it up to gaydar.
 
I tend to get pretty good impressions of people in general, even in quick meetings, so the sense of whether they're gay/straight usually comes with the overall impression. There are situations where I've been surprised about someone being gay (or straight), but those tend to be pretty rare.

I knew one of my uncles was gay before I even knew what gay was. I remember being around 5-6 and just having a sense that his being married to my aunt was somehow wrong. Not wrong in the bad sense, just wrong in that they didn't fit. Had he not married her, it probably could have saved both their lives...

I have a friend that I've known for 3 years who has sex with women, but upon first impression I got the sense he was gay even before I even knew him well. After all this time, all the sex stories and all the girlfriends, that sense has intensified, so I'll be interested to see what happens.

Sometimes they don't even have to say anything, it's almost like I can feel that part of them that resonates the same as that part of me. A lot of good it's done me to now, but I think it's going to help me out in the future. This holds true for women as well as men, though some women are actually a little harder to read.
 
Kalda007 said:
Ok, so I have this weird feeling about some people like they are checking me out or something. Its a diff feeling than when other people look or w/e

Hard to explain. But how accurate is this?

I don't want to go up to them and be hey lets hang out or w/e and they would pretty much say "Fuck off"

Thanks
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Some people's gaydar is better than others (based on experience or whatever), but it's still just projection. A lot of especially attractive straight guys flirt with everyone because gets them attention and flattery and for no gay reason.

Much better just not to kick off with the "hey let's hang out" approach. Start, as you might with anyone else that you have no gay interest in, by talking about some outside thing, like the time, asking for directions or anything really and see what signals you get from that.

If you sense any interest in carrying on the conversation, you can drop one or two "hairpins" like restaurants, films, music, tv shows you like.

In doing that you should get some idea not only whether he might be gay or not, but, more importantly, whether he has any interest in you.
 
I think it only applies to when you can spot the stereotypical behaviours and mannerisms which obviously isn't the case in all gay men.
 
my gaydar needs some tuning badly. How much can I charge to get it retuned?
 
I smashed my Gaydar after an incident involving 3000 homophobic gay-bashers and a signal interference from a gay weather balloon.
 
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