How can I be comfortable being gay?

[Kyle3000]

Thanks, some very great advice above. Sorry about the delay in my reply, had some internet problems.

I do have a lot of gay friends who are perfectly comfortable with who they are. I go out with them and sometimes when we're speaking about stuff they'll say "I'm gay" or "He's cute" or something gay in public and I always try and shush them down. I just get so embarrassed. I'm perfectly comfortable when i'm with gay people, just with straight people or when theres a mix.

I've been hanging around with gay people for about 2 years now and it's like nothings kicked into my brain. I'm a very paranoid person anyway and wonder what people think of me constantly. I'm also known as the straight-acting friend within my friends.

I just want people to know, and when I know they know, I don't want to feel small, worthless and they're constantly looking down on me.

I didn't mean to offend by saying that gays can't have children. I just mean the old fashioned way of two people in love, making a baby together and that baby being theirs. (Not adoption, surrogate baby etc..)

 

[Ganoderma]

hi Kyle3000,

Thanks for your reply, and nice to read that you liked the advises given by people over here. No problem at all there is some delay in giving ppl over here a reply.

So are these 'a lot of gay friends who are perfectly comfortable with who they are' aware that you are also gay? Excuse me very much, but this is not clear to me.

You told us that all these guys are (1) open gay, and (2) perfectly comfortable with who they are, whereas you tell us as well that you are (1) gay, but (2) don't want to feel small, worthless and they're constantly looking down on me.

So what's the problem? Do 'they' (who are 'they'?) also constantly looking down to all of these open gay friends of you and what's the reason that all of your gay friends don't feel themself 'small'? How do your open gay friends cope with this kind of situations, and are you able to tell / discuss this kind of items with them?

You told us: "i'm very paranoid about people and couldn't kiss another male in public." Well, there are no rules that gays (or guys in general) should kiss each other in public. Who has told you that there is a 'rule' that gays must kiss each other in public (partners as well as just friends / aquaintances who meet)?

Just be aware that you don't need to kiss any guy (gay or whatever) in public, when you don't feel comfortable to do this.

But how about kissing / tight hugging a guy (gay friend) in a private area? Do you like that, especially when its a sweet and a nice guy?

Best wishes, and feel free to post more questions.