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How did you come out to your Family or Friends?

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I can't remember how I actually came out to my friends because I was incredibly drunk at the time. I came out to my parents fighting about a friend who was at the time my boyfriend.
 
I don't consider it as coming out as I never hid it, but the first person I told was my mother. She said something that annoyed me and it was on topic so I just said it as I knew it would get to to shut up.

The rest of my family my mother blurted it out during a card game. She was having a hard time not to gossip I think.
 
I came out at 14, I told my two older brothers first as they were more or less my best friends and then I told my parents & 2 sisters, they were all fine with it and have been my biggest supporters. My one bugbare is my mom is always on the hunt for a man for me, that woman has no shame.:LOL:
 
I was older. My sister is the only intelligent sibling. I invited her to dinner out and to see Brokeback Mountiain in Little Rock when it was in cinema release. She accepted me in spite of it, which isn't really ideal. She's married to an uneducated janitor who is a gun trader on the side, and she has adopted this conservative reality, complete with religious conservativism and subservience to the male head-of-household, so I can't feel much loss after that.

My uncle is a retired music professor from a state university. When I told him, he said he was sorry to hear it. He's also such a private man that he rarely ever discusses personal matters. When he and his first wife divorced, he refused to even mention it to his mother, and she learned about it from a close friend who called after she had seen the legal posting in the state newspaper. That is to say, he didn't reject me because of it, but he's kind of like some guy who found a baby rabbit and takes care of it from a distance, but doesn't bond.

I can honestly say, coming out served me only in galvanizing the tin. I hardened mentally and realized it (being gay) was never going to be accepted by my family or close friends. And. if it ever did, it would only be after one of their children or grandchildren came out, and I'd be in a different status not because they would become enlightened, but because in self-interest, they would have to accept their offspring, and in so doing, be forced to see me differenly by extension. Fuck that.
 
My mother read my mail. Coincidentally, soon after that I told my father who was very cool with it. He told me about my mother's snooping and that she had made me an appointment with a psychiatrist. I told a few friends soon after I figured it out for myself, at some point before this. Nothing special about how I went about it. I was happy and wanted to share. Most were okay with it. One thought I was sick. This was around 1978.
 
I didn't. They found out by snooping through my room and peeking in my journal. After that, I cleaned house and told all my friends, which actually went OK. I had a few superfluous friends from High School who I was happy to let go.

I didn't come out at work. There were plenty of rumors, anyway. I kind of liked being one of those "is he or isn't he?" guys.
 
I really never announced it. I assume it was my sister or a best friend of my mother who pointed out the obvious.

And the rest of my family has always been cool and inclusive with it. It was like one day they all met my BF (and now partner of 40 years) and it was Okay.
 
Only one who knows is My Dr. and I only told him because I wanted everything on the table after the whole UTI/Cyst debacle of 2020. As far as my parents, somewhere though I think they might know, I mean cmon if they cant see it im living with 2 Helen Fucking Kellers!
 
I've always said to myself that I never came out. The first 2 guys I messed around with were acquaintances (not friends) before we messed around naked. So they know I am gay. Other than those, I have not had that conversaions with and family or friends.
 
I think it is somewhat sad if we hide ourselves from family and friends but no judgement even though it sounds like it.

From the time I was in my teens during the 70's, the gay liberation movement gave me all the juice I needed.

I decided that I didn't care who knew and rejected me for it...I would just move on to those who didn't.

And ended up being a bit of an icon in our family for being out with a partner who everyone loved and accepted.

As I said to my now 98 year old Aunt some years ago...'who would have thought that we would end up being the 'normal' and stable ones in our family?
 
I came out over 30 years ago. I told my Mom and asked her to let all my siblings know. I am 1 of 9 and it felt overwhelming to me to tell my siblings on a person to person basis. My Mom was great. The first thing she said to me was "If you are seeing anyone, then feel free to have him come for dinner for the holidays(I told her in October) The other thing that surprised me was what my mom told me after spreading the news. One of my sister said to her.."that makes sense, I always knew he was different and never could figure it out. I will always love him." It was a very positive experience, but not all have that.
 
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I came out over 30 years ago. I told my Mom and asked her to let all my siblings know. I am 1 of 9 and it felt overwhelming to me to tell my siblings on a person to person basis. My Mom was great. The first thing she said to me was "If you are seeing anyone, then feel free to have him come for dinner for the holidays(I told her in October) The other thing that surprised me was what my mom told me after spreading the news. One of my sister said to her.."that makes sense, I always knew he was different and never could figure it out. I will always love him." It was a very positive experience, but not all have that.
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I told my sister. I told the family because I didnt want them to think I was sitting at home at night

I told my dad and he said "is that all, I thought you wanted to be a girl" (Needless to say, I was fem back then)
 
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