How did you meet your BF?

[RicanDAB]

My boyfriend responded to an online ad I had forgotten about and I did not see his message on the site for about 10 days after he sent it. Ironically, months before that I came across his ad while browsing and said to myself "This gorgeous guy would never be interested in me" and just kept going. Needless to say I was floored when I saw it was he that had sent me an email. He was looking for a hookup and I obliged to meet him since I was not looking for anything else either. We met and was pleasantly surprised to find that there was more chemistry between us than just awesome sex. We were both not looking for a relationship and it happened anyway to our pleasant surprise. We've now been together going on 5 months and very happy.

 

[hermanding]

harke - i'm sorry. can you guys talk it out?
ding

 

[lunarus]

Through a personals ad, way back when they were printed in news papers. The paper no longer exists.

I place the add because I was tired of all the married guys, bi guys or closet cases hitting me up all the time. It seemed like I was the town whore in a very small rural town.

I got a lot of replies and for some reason his was the only one I replied to and we have been together for 14 years now...

 

[bluedragon4]

I had just turned 30 and went out to a bar to meet some friends that didn't show. I was checking out this muscular guy all night and smiling. He finally came up to talk to me and at the same time from the other side this guy introduced himself. It was so akward being hit on by two guys at the same moment! The muscular guy was the kind of guy I usually dated but this younger guy(8 yrs younger) was just so interesting. I had never met anyone like him. I had that feeling in my belly when he gave me his number. I didn't wanna give him a chance cause he was 22 and I was 30. I always dated older. It was rocky the first year and we kept breaking up but the last 3 years have been fantastic. He has taught me to take chances and i have grown as a person because of all the new chances i was afraid to take.We even move to Phoenix over a year ago and really have built a home with each other. You just never know!

 

[Kester]

I met my ex-boyfriend at work.

He was a police officer who came in to interview me after I witnessed two people trying to shoplift stock from the pharmacy. As soon as I saw him I thought he was the hottest guy I'd ever seen. Once the interview was over he gave me his card and told me to give him a call If there was anything else I wanted to add to my statement.

Later that night I gave him a call, but it wasn't to discuss my statement.

 

[smile86]

i met my boyfriend April last year at the party of a mutual friend. There were a lot of people there but i wasn't really friends with anyone there except the host so i was kinda standing to the side like a loser, and then i pour myself some punch and some guy across the drinks table said 'careful with that, s'got a bit of an odd taste', but i drank it anyway and it was fowl and he laughed at the faces i was making due to the awful taste. he asked if i was enjoying the party and it turned out both of us were lonely losers. we got talking, i thought he was very attractive, i hoped he was gay but he wasn't really giving much away, so i just brought it up in conversation that i'm gay and he responded that he was too. we flirted a lot and when i said i had to get back home he wrapped his arms around me and we kissed, only a little kiss no tongue but we knew what it meant. i walked him home, got his number, and we've been dating since. He is the first guy i've loved, boy am i glad i bothered to go to that dull party!

 

[Twisly]

He reads my blog and i read his. We eventually chatted at YM but during the first month we aren't aware of each other's sexuality.

Then one day he admitted that he's gay and i came to him too.

A few months later we fell in love, met-up, and the rest as they say is history. *wink*

 

[M4P]

Met my boyfriend, who is now my spouse of 12 years, at a Valentines party. We had mutual lesbian couple friends who love playing match maker and set us up to meet. 12 years later, we are still...best friends, boyfriends, lovers, spouse to each other, monogamous and.....Parents to my two children (17 and 12).

Twelve years - now that's an achievement

Congratulations

 

[Steppenwolf]

We met at a bar of all places. I had just come out and never been to a gay bar. I had this image of a place where only sordid people hung out. So I took the advice of someone here at JUB (Soilwork, I believe) and checked it out first during the week when it wasn't crowded. Not crowded was an understatement - there were 2-3 people besides the bartender. So I drank my one beer and left.

I went back on a Saturday night. It was fairly crowded. I got my beer and found a seat by myself in a corner. I didn't respond when one guy at the bar flirted with me when I got my beer (I've gotten to know him since, and he's actually a really nice guy). I had just about finished my beer and was ready to walk out when this guy got off his barstool and invited me over. Turns out that was as out of character for him as it was out of character for me to accept. Somehow it just felt right. We talked for a long time, traded phone numbers (which I normally also wouldn't have done), and I called him the next day. We've been together now for five months, but it seems like we've known each other all our lives.

 

[HighParkLover]

I met my current boyfriend/partner of 15 years at work. Its a hilarious story, I was hired by this company to come in and clean it up. Part of the clean up was to dismiss 5 certain staff members for various reasons. One guy was caught stealing so I fired him , another 2 were caught having sex on the job so they were dismissed and another guy was caught selling drugs while at work so he was dismissed. The last guy my partner who I couldnt stand at the time and who also disliked me was another story. I was unable to find any reason to dismiss him.

Anyhow after about a month of me being there my boyfriend at the time and I had a fight and because we sold alcohol at the business I was managing after work I decided to stay for a drink and the server who was serving me was John ( my present partner) , anyhow he said to me he wanted to bury the hatchet between us and start fresh so I agreed.

After a few drinks and at the end of Johns shift he told me he was going to a rave and wanted to know if I wanted to join him and that maybe it would help me get my problems off my mind so I said sure.

Anyhow after a few hours of partying it up ( I was totally ripped ) he invited me back to his house and I know I shouldnt of because a) I had a boyfriend and b) I was his boss but the horny bitch that I am and being drunk got the best of me, This was suppose to be a one night affair nothing more nothing less.

To make a long story short we had sex and have been together ever since. My boyfriend at the time I met John and I are good friends to this date and John and I are doing awesome.

Cheers Guys!

 

[jsvela]

I have never met any of my boyfriends online!

I have met most of them either in school or through friends...

My current (and hopefully definitive) boyfriend was a tutor of one of my classes when I was in school and at that time we didnt do anything but he was always really nice to me and always asked me to keep him posted on whatever I was doing. Recently,. like a year ago I had some problems with my ex-boyfriend and I ended up moving to another city where he was living...Since I was broke he offered to take me in and a few weeks after that I made a move on him and he responded the same way...IT WAS GREAT AND STILL IS!!!! I LOVE HIM!

 

[G-Lexington]

I met mine playing an online word game - Acrophobia. We were always playing at the same time, and usually finished 1-2. We started chatting in the "chat window", moved on to private messages, then e-mail, then phone calls. He finally flew out to visit me, I visted him, he moved here, it's been nine years, the end.

Lex

 

[mojoe54]

I met my boyfriend at a wild LA party in 1977. It was hosted by Michael Heesey AKA Goldie Glitters (of Cockettes fame). Anyhow, the party was jam packed, I'd been drinking and really had to pee and the bathroom was forever occupado. So I went outside and peed in the bushes by the side of the house. So I'm standing there peeing when this hot guy walked by. We started cruising each other and decided to go dancing together after the party. I went home with him that night, he had to sneak me into his apartment because his sister had just moved out from Indiana and he wasn't out to her yet. He had just turned 21 and I was 23. It was complicated at first because I had a bf who I had been living with for several years. I tried to balance both relationships for a while,but I was head over heels in love with my new guy, and he with me. So I broke up with my old boyfiend and since I didn't want to rush into another domestic relationship right away,I got my own apartment for a few months. We soon decided that was a waste of money because we spent all of our time together anyway. So I moved in with him (and his sister) and another roomate. We all shared a three bedroom house near the beach. After living with roomates for a couple of years we finally got our own place and it's been just the two of us ever since. We will be celebrating our 30th anniversary in October !! And we are still in love. bb

 

[LarsVenice]

The last BF I had I met through a personal ad in the Austin Chronicle, while I was a design student at UT. I was taking Life Drawing and wanted more practice, and so I advertised for men to pose in exchange for drawings or I would pose for them. Here in L.A. you would never get models for free, but there was no shortage of exhibitionists in Austin. Most of them didn't even want the drawings - they just wanted to expose themselves to me, and many had erections while doing it. One of my design professors also answered my ad, but I declined drawing him. I also met a professional artist who actually wanted me to pose for him as well, and so I posed for photos that he choreographed for an etched glass screen that he was making for a client in Philly or DC. It ended up in a museum

Anyway, I met my BF because he answered the ad also, and he was one of the ones who got an erection while posing, which led me to believe that he was interested in me. I had also met guys at a gym on campus that had a steam room on the seventh (I think) floor. The way I met guys there was that I would take a shower and when one showered next to me with an erection, I knew he was interested. It was a little different in gym class. In my weight lifting class, one day I was alone in the shower room (which was huge) with the most gorgeous guy in the class, and he chose to shower right next to me, even though he could have showered anywhere else. Unfortunately, I got an erection this time (He didn't), but it didn't seem to bother him, and we continued having a conversation.

 

[mpdan]

After 20 some years of working for corporate America, I got sick of it all and chucked my career. I had been working part-time in the construction field, so I moved into a summer bungalow owned by a family member and started renovating Beach houses full time. I could live rent free, but only until the "season" began, when my bungalow was already rented for more than $1,000 per week. Business was good - I had lots of leads, but local ordinances prohibited non-emergency construction during the summer season. I decided to seek employment for this period at a campground, since I already owned a pop-up camper - and loved the idea of working outside without a shirt on. In seeking summer employment I went one step further, and since I was recently out of the closet I boldly secured a position on the maintainance staff of an all male gay campground

I started in early April, and worked my ass off prepping the camp for it's May 1st opening. I guess I did a great job, because as soon as the heavy Green doors swung open the compliments came flooding in. I'm told the place hadn't looked so good in years. On the second day after opening, I was wrapping a tree stump with yellow tape so a sub-contractor would know to remove it. "He" walked down the lane from the showers, wearing just boxers and a towel draped over his shoulder. "I'm sorry I woofed! at you yesterday" he said. And I explained that I hadn't heard him do that, probably because my small utility cart could be somewhat loud.

We met again at the bonfire that night, and we went back to my camper. He also had a permanent rental campsite for the summer. We talked about my coming out issues, and he promised to help me navigate through a campground that has best been described as "a bath house in the woods".

Over the weeks I tried to follow his advice, dated other guys and reported back to him my experiences. He was affirming, and pushed me a little more each time to try new things. But I found myself disinterested, choosing to stay by myself during the week and anticipating his Thursday night arrival for the weekend. By July 4th we were considered a couple.

It was an awesome summer, and many thought we would go our separate ways at the end of the season. But we're still together, strong as ever, with him living and working just outside of Philadelphia and me living and working just outside of NYC. We see each other every weekend, and we eagerly anticipate the opening of the campground for our second summer together.

 

[confusedboy23]

He messaged me one afternoon on www.gaydar.com.au last year and we just couldn't stop chatting from then on. We'd be glued to our computer screens for much of his day at work.

I've never expected to find a friend, let alone a boyfriend because all that I was after during that time was sex, sex, sex whenever I was on the site. But it all changed when he came into the picture.

Unfortunately, it didn't last for too long. I was devastated when he told me that he felt it was right for him to give his ex another go, and that our relationship just wasn't secure enough. As much as I hate to admit, I know that I am to blame because it is me that isn't able to offer him and us that greater sense of security.

He was my first, and most meaningful guy! And now I'm sitting here wondering how he's doing......

 

[Michael Luc]

I met my Cutie Patootie on JUB.

 

[proudmonkeyz]

I met my BF in an AOL Chat room.. in fact, ChicagoM4MNOW. We were chatting for a few hours and met up at his place. Talked all night long and from there on out it's been awesome.

I however, will never go back to AOL... scary place sometimes

 

[sherman]

I met Ben at Yale-New Haven Hospital, He was one of the Doctors that was caring for my Dad when he was batteling cancer. I was wearing a sweat shirt from a gay bar in NYC, and he asked me how often I went their, because he had been their a few times. We went for coffee, dated about six months, then he moved in"with all his junk"...lol