How did your girlfriend/wife react to you being gay/bi?

[Wizard 666]

Many gay/bi men have gone through this. Wondering what your guys' experiences were like. Are you still friends with them? Do you hate you? Was it a shock to them or were they expecting it? Tell us stories

Anyways, mine was me and my girlfriend 11-ish years ago when I was 17. Getting into the relationship, I was 99% sure I was gay. I would have to think about guys when screwing her, but in the back of my mind, I was hoping it was a phase.

8 or so months in, it was getting rough on both of us. I wasn't giving her the affection she needed (deserved too). And she clearly couldn't satisfy me.

So one evening, after a bottle of wine, I told her the truth. Told her I thought I was gay. We cried, but she said she suspected when I only went down on her once our entire relationship.

We remained close friends, and she even introduced me to my first boyfriend (who I stayed with a whopping 4 years). She is one of my dearest friends, and she has forgiven me for wrongly dating her.

How about you guys?

 

[Comrad]

I honestly cannot bring myself to tell ANY girl ive been with that im Bi. I just cant. And to be honest ive yet to feel the need to.What would be the point ?

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

How did my non-existent whosit do what now?

 

[jess70301]

It was an ugly DIVORCE LOL!! BEST thing i could have ever done for myself! I don't regret it at all.

 

[chrisw87]

I've told all but one who seemed a tad homophobic and uptight about anything sexual related. It is never a problem, and it can always add something else to the relationship for a bit of spice if it gets boring, at least you know you both enjoy men but you also enjoy her (if the answer is bi).

Thankfully I haven't had to explain to a GF that I was gay, though the last one damn near brought me close to thinking I might be!

 

[Comrad]

What the fuck? Um, they have the right to know. You do have balls, right?

But anyway, I have told them all that I like guys and it was never a problem with anyone. I'm sure they knew and were aware of my sexuality all along.

It's just that, i never thought it was their priority to know right off the bat if at all. Maybe if i actually felt something deep with them sure. But most wind up moving away or i just get bored and basically ask for it to end. Ive never been in this "love" so them knowing ive yet to really feel the urge to "open" myself up them..Eh an maybe i am to afraid to tell them because most have either meet or know some of my friends on some lvl and we cannot have an angry person around me with a lose mouth running around...Especailly with the crowed i know.

Some women (and men) prefer not to date bisexual men.

And that is another issue. What if I am into them for a period of time. Why cant we just have a little fun and move on when the times comes. Id rather not make my life more exciting than it already is.

 

[pai mei]

closet case is rationalizing his closetted status.

now theres a shocker! -_-

 

[Wizard 666]

I can see why someone would be hesitant to reveal their bisexuality.

Honestly, if I straight with slight bi tendecies, I would never reveal it. But if I was full blown bi, or even more into men, I guess you would have to reveal it. It would be tough though, because you genuinly love this person, but they think "you're bi so you must be gay!".

Being gay with a girlfriend, I guess I had no choice. I wasn't getting an ounce of enjoyment so I needed to tell her.